Has the meaning of "fiancee" changed?

hmm...I dont guess I've noticed. I cant say that Ive ever heard anyone call their boyfriend or girlfriend a fiance unless there is going to be a wedding. I was engaged to my husband for over a year before we got married. But that was mostly because of me. I hated the idea of an actual wedding, just wanted to do a quickie somewhere. He on the other hand was the one that wanted an actual weddings since this was his second wedding and his first was a quickie thing at a place that he regreted and he was worried that I would regret doing it that way. SO FINALLY he and my family talked me in to going with the flow and my mother and grandmother and aunts planned the wedding and everything. All this took almost 2 years before we finally said the I do's.

Whenever I hear finacee I assume that they will marry the person. But I can see being asked but waiting years to marry.If you don't have the money for the wedding of your dreams so you save for it.

I think people like to say they are engaged or have a fiance just because it sounds better than living with a boyfriend. When people my age hear fiance, we assume marriage is in the future. Many people never mary, become engaged, live together, have kids but don't always grow old together. Sometimes it has to do with the financial situation(s) with older people who don't want to marry. Don't want to change their social security status.

I only used the term fiancee when I got engaged. While we were dating and living together he was my boyfriend. I thought it was only used because marriage was in the near future.

I am one of those people who have been engaged for a long time - 20 years in fact and I have no intention of getting married until my daughter is old enough to sign the marriage certificate as a witness so it will be at least another 10 years! I very rarely use the word fiancee as I think of it as a short term thing too! lol xxx

Yes, fiance and fiancee are two more words with no real meaning anymore. I've noticed that a lot of women call their boyfriends their fiance, but they are not engaged to be married. Maybe they think that it sounds better than "boyfriend." I've noticed that as there are more "fiances", there are less "boyfriends." lol

yes, i also get it has changed a bit. i have seen so.it seems anyone with another person using this term. after that there is breakup.

I haven't really noticed that. Here when I hear fiancee I still assume that they are getting married. Now there is a trend for students to get engaged and be engaged for several years while one or both of them are in college, grad school or medical school. I can tell you that I didn't call my boyfriend now husband my finacee until we were engaged.

I haven't heard the term being used so casually as you describe. When I hear it, I assume that the couple is planning to get married and probably has an idea as to when that will happen. Maybe that's not the case anymore?

To me a fiance is someone you intend to marry but I agree with you the term is being used to loosely these days. I saw a talk show on the spanish channel one day and the teens were using the term husband for their boyfriend that was just silly seeing 12 year olds calling their bf husbands.

i believe most people still use the word for its meaning, has intentions of marrying. it's just that nowadays, people get committed faster than before. nowadays, a couple can get married as fast as just months right after meeting each other. so i guess it's okay for them to use the words fiance & fiancee on their first month as long as they already have plans of getting married. so i guess it's not the word that lost its meaning. it's just that our lives run faster now. ;)

I understand what you're saying but it's not for us to decide if another person will or will not marry their partner. It's that person's job to question their partner on where they stand in their relationship. My husband and I dated three years before we finally got married, and that is how and why I see your point of view in this discussion. I have a friend who is with her boyfriend; she calls him her fiancé though, and they do go waay back. Some people do intend to marry their partner but there's a lot that stands in their way including financial situations, exes, or kids from a previous relationship. Some men don't intend to marry for whatever reason and it isn't right. You shouldn't promise anyone and toy with their feelings if you don't intend to marry them. People have feelings and are easily hurt. I recently read Tyler Perry's book he wrote as Madea, and he said, "When a man has proposed to marry you but hasn't followed through, he's searching for something better." I'm not saying it's true for all men but give it some thought and I think women should be honest with themselves and their men enough to ask them about it.

I know of several people that call someone that they just met the previous month their "fiance/fiancee." I wonder how, after knowing the person for such a short time, can they already be engaged? I believe that you are right: people do use the terms too loosely. I think the words are slowly starting to replace the terms boyfriend and girlfriend.

Fiance is d male thats engaged to be married and fiancee is d female invloved. meaning and defination for this are sometimes misused, i have heard a teenager of 16 introducing his girlfriend to someone as his finacee, in this case i will say the young man is in the confused state and probably wishing and hoping. ina case where a husband inttoduced his wife as a fiancee, i think the woman should get a revolver and use it where its neccesary....fiancee aint no where sound like wife... a man should be proud of his wife for a man who finds a wife has found the greatest thing of life...stop preaching Noah!!!!!!!

I thought it still means someone you intend to marry. Usually I hear it when the couple is officially engaged. I haven't heard it used in another way.

Fiancee means that you are engaged to be married. Now, I don't know of anyone personally that has ever used this term to mean anything other than that but I guess they might do it so it sounds more socially accepted. I am old fashioned so to me it means and always will mean that marriage will be the eventual outcome from that relationship of being a fiancee.

fiancee is what you called to someone you're already engaged to get married with. i don't think it is proper to call someone you are in relationship with, a fiancee, when you have not talk and settled about to get married. it would be improper to use the word. because i believe that a fiancee is already someone you intend to marry and have talk about it, and prepare about for your wedding.

I see the term fiancée as the person that you are engaged to and plan to marry. I believe that someone can be a fiancée for several years as people plan to get married, but don't have the money or whatever, so they put it off for many years. I think that it is still used to refer to someone who someone is engaged to with the intent to marry.