Should I tell her or not?
By ryshawneo
@ryshawneo (405)
Philippines
June 10, 2008 7:24am CST
I knew someone who has been cheated on by her husband, until now.. They have been together for 25 years.. I found out about his cheating thing last year. I also found out that he has been cheating on her for a couple of years now. I am confused if i'll tell his wife about this. i do not want to be involved in this matter but, i really pitied the wife who is so martyr. How can he cheat on her? she has accepted all the criticisms from her family who are against that man, and even suffers from bankrupt because of him. what is worse is that, the husband gives the other woman financial thing, and letting his family suffer from having no food or money! :)
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6 responses
@moondancer (7431)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Wow, this is a sad situation. I myself tell the other person. I have done this on a couple of occasions. I didn't really want to be the beared of the news but I feel someone needs to do it.
I was cheated on in my first marriage for many years, even before we were married. I had a very bad life with the person. I won't call him a man.
After I divorced him I found out from several others that they knew he had been cheating on me. I felt bad and thought if they were my true friend they would have told me before and I would not have to of went through the h___ I did.
I feel that since he is so bad to her and the things you mentioned is enough to let her know about him.
She may not believe you but at least you'll know you treid to help her.
Then again she may be thinking it and not really know so you'll be helping her a lot.
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@kareng (61152)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Oh wow. This is a tough one and I see why you feel so bad for your friend. It's usually best to stay out of these kind of things. It sounds like your friend is really getting a bad deal. You said the family has always been against this man. Maybe they all know what kind of a man he is? You could open up a discussion with your friend by asking her why she stays with him. This could lead to other questions and you could ask her if she thinks he is cheating. If nothing else it may open her eyes if she is clueless here as to what is going on. Good luck!
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@vermillion (887)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
If the wife is as martyr as you say she is, maybe she has known that she is being cheated upon, and it has been for a couple of years now. Is the husband your friend? Either way, you shouldn't be really involved in the matter. Even though doing nothing doesn't feel right, it is what you can do to not make matters worse. Let them figure it out.(^^,)
@freedomg (1684)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I would so tell her. It sounds like he is going to keep hurting her as long as he is with her. He is not just cheating his behavior is unforgivable. I know it's awkward to be the one to tell but I would want to know and would be really upset if I found out on my own and found out you hadn't told me. Good luck.
