is marriage punishment for life?

Marriage should not be viewed as a punishment. Marriage should be regarded as something sacred. Therefore, only those who are ready to commit themselves to a serious relationship should enter marriage. Marriage may be a punishment for some because it somehow restricts them from doing the things they used to do because of the responsibilities that being a married person should prioritize. But then, again, being married means spending the rest of your life with the partner you choose to be with and start a family with him/her. Marriage is never easy. Marriage will take a lot of effort to work and it always takes two to tango so both of them should work on it.

I can be if you dont think very hard about the who and the why.

You will have to work hard to provide for your family but your life is not over. Marriage is a great institution when two people love each other. When you look at single life, you still have to work hard of you want to make a good life for yourself and then you go home to an empty house. On the other hand, if you marry someone you do not love then it will seem like punishment and could ruin your outlook for life.

Marriage is also a responsibility and commitment but I will never connote it as punishment. It brings so much happiness to both party yet we all know that life will not be perfect without trials and obstacles in our lives. Having those will never be punishment, they are still blessings to help both party to work as a team for their relationship to become more tough and stronger!

i think that if yer entire perceptions, lifelong dreams, wants and desires were changed so drastically from a simple idiotic slogan on some tshirt.. maybe it is better if you dont get married and breed. ..;nods;..

When you are young, you may well think that you'll never get married but, whatever your thoughts on the subject, when you meet the right person, you fall head-over-heels in love and think you can make it work with this person come what may. Then, years down the line, you both change and realise you are no longer in love. You irritate one another and, were it not for the kids, you'd probably go your separate ways. Indeed many do. You are right marriage does end up as a prison sentence but I bet you'll do it anyhow!

So you want to spend life as an irresponsible selfish bachelor. Marriage requires maturity. It signifies you are a man and not a boy. And there are benefits. You get your meals cooked for you and you do not have to worry if that girl you slept with or the working girl gave you a disease. And would it not be better years later to introduce her as your wife then your girl friend. A thirty something girl friend and boyfriend is a bit too old.

Well,it depends on the marriage.I'm about to get married and I don't see it as a punishment.I love my partner very much and I can't wait for the day when we will be joined in marriage.I'm aware of the responsibilities that we'll have to face once we get married but I don't think that the joy of my life will be over.maybe I can't do the things I used to do but perhaps there will be a new joy to my heart-a new and happy family.

I would not put it as punishment. It is more like a different phase in life. Depending on what you value more, each path taken by the individual (to remain single or to get married) has its own merits and faults. On one hand, when you are single, you only need to care for yourself. When you make decisions, you call the shots entirely. The thought process is always whether the out come will benefit ME or not. On the other hand, when you are single, and you grow old. Old is a time when we start to crave for companionship more than any other time. If you have a good bunch of friends around you, then it is fine. You will not feel that lonely. But when you don't, that is where the difference comes in. On the other hand, when you are married, you will need to think like a unit. No longer can you make decisions just for yourself. But the up side is this, you have a partner whom you love and he/she loves you back. When you are in trouble, two heads tackling the problem will definitely be better than 1. A companion that you can have and behold till the end of your days. No worries about spending the golden years alone. I dunno. I think the benefits of marriage outweighs that of being single. But that is strictly my opinion. I am not implicating that all the singles out there ought to get married. It is a lifestyle choice we have to make. To get married or stay single is entirely up to the individual. But to hear someone say getting married is a punishment.. well... I do not totally agree. There are certain sacrifices we have to make when we are in a marriage. BUT when you weigh the benefits of what you get out of the marriage, those sacrifices seems to be a price worth paying.

How do you know it would make you miserable? How do you know staying single will always give you joy? Both will bring an equal amount of misery and joy! Fools are the ones who look at the negative aspects only! Responsibilities change at different times in life and families don't stay together forever! I've been married 37 years and the kids left home 17 years ago. We've spent only a third of our lives being 'responsible for family' a third being someone elses responsibility, and the last third experiencing the miseries and joys of being a pair! As neither of our children have married yet we can compare the lifestyles. They are no happier than us, have the same amount of responsibility, the same living costs and the same freedoms. What they don't have is someone to share those responsibilities and costs, so they have to work harder to provide the same things. It isn't always the male who is the provider either, sometimes the female has to work because the male can't or wont, and if you think bringing up children isn't hard work, you've never looked at your Mum!

Hi,jijomthew!I want to say something,although I am s student and don't have a good knoeledge of marriage.I think marriage doesn't only mean that.If you want to be a bachelor,then don't you feel lonely?Maybe you want freedom,but I think marriage is a part of our life.Are you scared of responsibities?As a man, you should be a tiger,not a chicken,right?Maybe when you fall for somebody,you will change your mind,at that time, you will think you are happier than before and your life is more meaningful and colourful.o(n_n)o...

i think it is only a punishment if u marry the wrong person for the wrong reason...then u r miserable, and u end up divorced after reproducing a couple of kids. then suffer baggages. so just take ur time in ur relationships and make sure it is with the right person and for the right reason. then i am sure u will have a more positive outlook and ur relationship and ur marriage...

Here is my take on this. You will find what you seek. If you think you will fail at something (marriage, work, whatever), you certainly will. If you assume that whatever you do will succeed, most of it will. Why is that? Well, if you say, "Oh, it won't work, you never take the steps to make it work, you just let it die." So, if you think you will have a horrible time being married, best to stay single, yah? Anyway, I have been married for 33 years. My sister for 40, my parents until my father passed, almost 50 years. My in-laws 55 years until my FIL passed. I can give you a long list. If you think every moment was perfect.... well, hahaha, that's dreamland. There are good and bad, ups and downs, happiness and sorrow, but all in all, having someone you trust to share the good and bad is well worth it.

Marriage will brings you the happiest life, not a punishment, it is a part of life, if any one living without marriage he may missing many things in his life, Life is very valuble for every one, when you got married wife/husband will give you the boostup in every where, you will get support in all the fields and home too. All will happen in sequence marriage, child birth, childrens care, their study, their marriage, their life,and grandson birth, and their life too. These all things give you much happy.

Hi jijomathew, Marriage is not for everyone. And that is why the world is full of bachelors. Some men are ready for marragie while other prefer to stay single. And that works out good for them. Other men like the noise of kids running around the house, coming home to there wife's. You may have more of a responsibilties, and at the end it's all worst it. I don't know how old you are, but if you're ready to settle down, you will know and if you're not, you will know that also. Marriage is not punishment, only if you make that way. I myself have been married 16 years, I have had my good day and bad days (not everything is prefect)and it was I would have had a dozen kids. It nice to see your kids grow up. You sit and wonder how time flew and your baby is not a baby anymore. My daughter is already 17, it was kind of rocky there for a while, she was born with attitude and has not gotten rid of it. But I would not trade her in. Just do what you feel is right. Like I said you will either find your soulmate or not.

it is a gift

Please remain single until you find out from somewhere that marriage should never be thought of as a punishment. As long as you find who you believe in your heart, mind, body, and soul is the right person for you to share the deepness of a married life with you should stay single. Most things in life are relative. Time, energy and money are a few examples. If you truly love who you are married to, and the ensuing family, additional responsibilites (through maybe not exactly a pleasure), they won't be such a burden. You will want to make the extra sacrifices, and take on the additional responsibilies that will make your family, happier, healthier, and as well taken care of as you can.

Pretty much sounds like you got that figured out correct. Nothing wrong with family. Common law is just as good. Why can't the children have both last names? Really sucks for females. Example: Im 52 divorced. Have been divorced for 30 yrs. But if i die today w/ out remarriage all my belongings go to my ex not my kids. Since my divore i have had common law and another child by that. My children or signifant other do not count. They will contact last marriage partner for arrangments and inbheritance unless i write a will stating otherwise. So especially for women it sucks.

marriage is no punishment unles you want to be punished. marriage is a commitment two people make when they love each other. they choose to settle down and stop running down the world of selfish pleasures.

marriage is a blessings for both people who are inlove and meant to be happy.and its a normal things that the guy has responsible for that, you are the light of the family and even you are tired to work its worth it and paid it coz your family.