If you could start over, and know what you know now, what would you change?

We all learn things and all we can do is strive to be better. But of course I think about dumb things I did in my past when I was ignorant or just immature, and how if I would have known then what I know now, I wish I could take things back. I'm very sorry about your son - I don't know your story, but I'm a person that believes all things happen for a reason. It may be difficult to see the reason or good in it now, but sooner or later it will be revealed. I've experienced many deaths among family growing up - starting from early on, but now when I look back I realize if those things hadn't occurred, I wouldn't be where I am today - the type of person I am today. God has a reason for everything.

if you change one thing in the past it will cause a lot of changes in the future.

I used to think there were alot of things that I would like to change but then I realized that those things were learning blocks for me...they are what made me who I am. Once I went to the store with two friends to look at the Christmas stuff. I was like 17 at the time. When we left the store we were arrested for shoplifting. It turned out that the other two had stolen stuff from the store. They were both 16 so their parents were called and they went home. I was 17 so I was booked even though I hadn't taken anything, I was still with them...my Mom had to bail me out. I paid a fine, go to court and all that. Looking back on it, it taught me a valuable lesson...I don't shop with anyone except my family. [b]~~MY OWN PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG AND BELIEVE IN YOURSELF**[/b]

There are so many things that happen in life that we wish could be changed. But like you mentioned before it is a fear that if these things didn't occur what would have happened instead. I try my best to cope with all the difficult situations even if they make no sense at all. Nanjanet I am sorry to hear of your loss. I couldn't imagine dealing with it. So I hope every thing works out for the best in your life.

I'm sorry about your son. I can understand why you would want to change that. As for me, I would not change a thing. I like who I am now. All the things that happened to me, good and bad make me who I am today. I think the bad things have had more of an impact on my evolution than anything else. I also think if I did change my mistakes I would just have made others so I would stick with what I have...lol.