would you be sad?

There is something about online friends which cannot be equated with friends in the offline world. I had a friend who I would have wanted to meet but she said that her offline life was different from her online life and she did not want to blur the lines. There might be something that is keeping your online friend from removing or breaking the line that separates the two lives.

I have to agree with you, it sounds like she is blowing you off. I think it is rude to wait 2 days before the visit to cancel on you. After all, you are scheduling this within your vacation and could have made other plans for something you or a family member also wanted to do but was short on time. See if she takes the first step to invite you after you get your new vacation schedule. If not, I would just forget about it. Let it be.

I know that perhaps it can be hard when you really want to meet but like I can understand it when someone is busy also. I mean we all have busy lives and sometimes it is very hard to even find time for myself and so it can be quite the task when you have to find the time for a friend who lives so far because everyone has their family also that they want to make time for besides everything else that we get crowded doing too. It is just so difficult these days especially with some people trying to survive with the increase in prices in most things and people working more to compensate for it.

that's too bad, seems like u were really looking forward to meeting her. i'd let her make the next move since she canceled on you. if she doesn't you are probably better off.

I had this happen once. A friend I met online was planning a trip to my area and it took three times before either one of our schedules allowed us to finally meet. Once I had to cancel our meeting due to an illness and once she had to cancel the meeting due to family matters.

I am sure you know the answer, surely I would do my best to meet up and of course I would reschedule what I had for the time of "your " visit. I be excited that "you" took the time to come and see me. But the real question is why she does not. Without her response we just dont know, we can only speculate. It sounds like she has some fear that if you meet, that would somehow change the relationship perhaps. Therefore, two options come to mind: 1: Prior to your next visit to her state do some research and find out where she lives and just show up. If you want suggestions as to how to obtain that info send me a message. 2: You could treat her like a familiar charactor from a book you read. When I read a book a picture of the main character comes to mind and they become familiar to me especially in books that have series like those written by say Clive Cussler (ie Dirk Pitt, Ken Austin) of like Tom Clancy's Jack Ryan. In your case, you dont just read about he you get to interact. Like the book characters you will not get to me them personally but you still get to know them. Perhaps she wants to maintain her aninimity ( I know thats not spelled correctly) and enjoys this long distance relationship because you are so far away you are no threat to her. Certaintly there are other options but it sounds to me like you would desire to continue this relationship. So do so but you may need to lower your expectations a bit. Good luck with this!

It would have to depend on what came up. A family emergancy, car trouble. That being said if you have tried to get together with her for 3 years, yes I would said that something doesn't seem right. You can always ask her to be truthful with you.

That does kind of sound like she was blowing you off, especially since she knew you were coming in from so far away. Totally unfair. I think that's not a cool thing to do to a friend! Wish she hadn't done that to you. Better luck on future friends. Be well.

I would be a little bit annoyed, and I think that next time I probably wouldn't bother making plans to visit with them. I'm sorry that she blew you off again.

thats sad..i would appreciate a friend dropping by to visit and meet me from other state..if that would happen to me then i will just re-schedule whats to come up and if its that really important then i'll just have to be late but move the time just to meet a friend...it costs too much time and effort for them so i value their time to visit me..

Oh I can't believe this has happened to you. That was very inconsiderate and just to leave a message and not to talk directly too very rude. I would be so upset especially after travelling all that way to see them. If I had an appointment I would reschedule for something like this most definitely, I take it you will maybe be not so friendly with her after this let down but it may have been an unavoidable appointment. Find out the true explanation of the cancellation first and if it is not reason ebough drop her. Ellie :D

I'm sorry for your case. If I'm your friend, I'll try my best to reschedule as it's not easy to meet for both of us. I have one friend visited me this weekend, she's here for business trip. Initially, I plan to spend my weekends on mylotting, but since she's here I choose to accompany her. I think that's more worth. Even if I can't reschedule it, I'll bring my friend along. She might feel bore or not use to the new situation, but I'll explain to her that it's the best I can do to make this appointment.

yeah I guess so.. I think it would be worth it...

Anytime I hear of something like this happening with an online relationship/friendship, it immediately makes me think that the person was lying about something and they don't want you to find out. Like they told you they were a 24 year old blonde college student when really they are a 56 year old male librarian. I hope that isn't the case with your friend, and it's certainly possible that something just really did come up. I don't know why my mind always goes to the negative, but someone who almost goes out of their way to not see you sounds like they are hiding something.

Hi, That is a tough question. It is possible , that something came up. Maybe she needed a doters appointment and cannot reschedule. Maybe she is having relationships problems. Anything is possible. Could be she was acting like someone else on the internet? Saying she was young,married and full of life, when in fact she is very old, not married and has no real life. I think if this were to happen every time, I would say she is not the person she say's she is. In the other hand if it is the person she say's she is, She will come meet you another time. Maybe she is shy? Good Luck, take care, Margajoe

u waste in ur time