How do I approach her?

I've read your tips on how to get a girl. but you know what, It was really hard to approach a girl in real life. let me tell you my opinions, Ideas, suggestions,with your dilemma. LOL. (doctor love, is that you?) with regards to your "text moves", why don't you give a ring first to that number for you to know if the number really exist or not. wait..may I ask on what is the exact message did you send to her? she maybe got pissed off or maybe got afraid with your text messages that's why she doesn't want to give a damn to it. I remember, way back college, I so like this guy but just like you, I am so damn shy to approach him.(and why the heck will I do that?.. It's not a girl's responsibility..LOL.), but of course, since I like him, and he doesn't know me, I really need to make a move.LOL. good thing we have a common friend. so I ask for his number, but I told to this friend of mine, that no one should know about this. so there.. I texted him so many times. but I got no reply. so I asked my friend again if I got the wrong number, so he double check and told me that I've got it right. and so I gave him a miss call to know if that number exist. and so it rings. after that, he texted me on who am I. then what I replied is that I just wanted to make friends with him. you know what he said? "if you wouldn't tell me on who you are.. better not to text me.".., what he replied discourage me a lot, but this never let me give up.I said that he don't know me so what's the point of knowing my name, etc. and there he replied " OK. just don't waste your time and load for me. don't text me anymore.".. all caps!..so there, I think he got pissed off with me. I texted him again, so many times. but he really doesn't want to give a single damn about knowing me. so you know, "text moves" isn't always working. so better find another move for that. let me tell you this. as a woman,If we knew that we have a secret admirer, even if we don't have any idea on who it was, we have this urge to know and get so interested to find out on who he is. especially if we receive love letters, sweet stuffs, or even phone calls. and it gets into our nerves even before we sleep.so there, we get to develop our interest into feelings, then into love.that's why there are some people who love someone even if they don't see them. that's why online relationship works. because even if you don't see each other, feelings get develop just by exchanging sweet messages. what you did isn't a failure.. patience is a virtue. you wouldn't get a girl just by your text move johnny boy!.. that's a lousy move. and you shouldn't expect that you can get a girl so easily or just by a blink of an eye. you really must work hard on it. so there.. I hope that what I've wrote in there makes sense.. and good luck.. and Its good to know that there's someone out there that makes you happy and inspired...uuuyyy... and if she feels that you have a good intention, I believe she'll give a chance and take a simple glimpse on what you're doing..

Wow! You just need to man up! If you are so swept away by her, it could be some instinct telling you that she is more than just a future girlfriend. If she has gotten you that oogly googly over her, you have to find a way past the nerves because, if you let the chance to see what might be go, you might kick yourself in your butt for the rest of your life for never having gotten the courage to meet her and talk to her. Good Lord man...man up! LOL! If you think hard enough about the fact that you might be missing "The One" simply because you can't get up the courage to talk to her, I am sure it will carry you forward. The fact that she makes you so nervous is a good thing. That will keep you on your toes and that makes for a really good romance. So, if you don't man up, I will be very disappointed in you! Just introduce yourself. That is the first step. Then, take it from there. Or, at the very least, catch her eye when you walk past her. Nod at her, smile and then do that for the next couple of times you see her in a hall or wherever you normally see her. How is she supposed to notice you if you are practically trying to make yourself invisible to her. So, do the nod and smile for a few days then start saying hello to her with a nod and smile for a few days. Then, man up and introduce yourself. Good luck and I will expect to hear that you have followed my suggestion!

well, dude, you gotta be brave enough to introduce yourself personally to her! before its too late! how about calling her up thru her landline? (although i cant manage myself to do that with my crush before ,were both girls by the way, so the rule is whoever liked the other one first should make the 1st move, heck, i didnt do anything, so i pretty much know exactly what youre feeling! its scary and nerve-wracking to call up a stranger that you happen to like!) but in this case, youre obviously a guy so every move is entirely on your shoulders. my advice to you would be just like what the other mylotters have already suggested, try to get her alone, make eye contact when you pass by each other, etc.. but i have an "old school" suggestion, but hey, it might work right? how about try to ask for the time? yes, as in tap her sholuder, (but make sure she's wearing a watch first or holding a cellphone! LOL you dont want to make a blunder) and say, "uh, miss, if you dont mind me asking, uh, may i know what time it is? i forgot my cellphone and i dont have a watch." and then when she looks at you to respond, smile at her, (if you can, i know youre pretty nervous just standing beside her) then if she smiles back, then its a good sign, and proceed to introduce yourslef from there. make small talk, and then if you can, admit to her that you were the one that actually texted her. hehe! ayos ba? lemme know how it goes if ever you tried this "method"!either way, update us on your "conquest"! hehe! good luck to you!

Or if shes always by her friends.mabey they wont notice if you just walk up behind her and ask her tap her on the shoulder and ask to speak with her a for a minute. walk away say your peace. and your good to go!:)....and when you do somthingpf this advice or any of the others. do make another post telling us how it went... i would love to hear:)

Text messaging is a bit lame especially in this case that you don't know each other. You have to summon the courage to approach her, it will be worth the try. Be bold, but not too forward. I'm sure she'll appreciate you making the effort to introduce yourself personally. You're not a failure yet so chill.

IMHO, Your text messaging was a bad first move, bro. Sending introductory text messages to someone who doesn't know you is like... online dating(bad). All the idea that everyone posted in this discussion is good, but I think, since you've made the wrong move, what you should do now is go up to her and confess that you sent all those messages, and say that you're sorry. Use this to your advantage. At least now you have something to talk with her. Plus, it shows that you are man enough to speak to her and admit your mistake.

How about try calling? Haha.. But I guess you do not dare to. Anyway, to be frank, if I'm the gal, I will not reply too. I've received such messages before and my first response is who is this fella. I will not reply as if this person is sincere in knowing me, he should ask for my mobile number directly. I do not like people to get my mobile number through another person. Maybe you can write a letter of friendship to her now. It may sound corny but well, since hardly anyone is doing it now, you may appear sincere for doing that. Also, ask the friend who knows her to recommend you to her. Talk face to face. Do not hide your face. I'm sure she is interested to know who you are.

I am sure everyone has had the occasion to be so flustered about something that they do not know what to do. I have been in this situation so many times and all I can say is that the times when I wimped out, I never found out about the girl and she never found out about me. Those are lessons learned and I don't do that anymore. Firstly, one should not build up someone else in their own minds, that would only make them more nervous about that someone. I would just see her as another girl, and I would just talk to her casually, something you cannot do because you're too nervous. Nervous is not the way to be with a girl, you can't sweep her off her feet if you're nervous and I think that eventually, that is what you want to do, right?

faint heart never won fair lady.talk to her,what do you have to lose? If she is happy meeting you, great, if she is not you areback to square one. YOu are not a failure, but get the courage to face her and talk to her. maybe she already likes you too. only one way to find out so go for it.. good luck and God bless. only one way to find out is to talk to her.

Awww.. you sound smitten. =) From the point of view of BEING a girl, I'd say it is better to approach if that's what you want. I have never liked a guy who hides or beats around the bush, no pun intended. You are not a failure, heck! Nobody gets a manual for how to live, know what I mean? I can tell you what doesn't work though. Pick up lines are bad, very bad. Think about some things you might have in common. If you do happen to catch this girl and she is not surrounded by 20 people, say hi, mention that you've seen her because you have classes in the same building. Invite her for coffee or lunch or something light and fun in a public place. Let her know that you're interested in getting to know her better - not necessarily that you want to date but that she is attractive and you'd like to spend some time with her to see where it goes. I am not sure that sending messages or texts before I had actually met somebody would come off in a good way. I would probably be irritated if a friend of mine gave my cell number to somebody else and I started getting texts from random folks I didn't know lol! Do you have any campus-wide events, or activities where you'd run into this girl socially? If so, plan to go to one and then talk to her there - it wouldn't seem strange at all since events tend to draw a lot of students anyway.

Whoo..interesting..I think your in love?LOL! In your case it's a matter of self confidence and don't be afraid. If you will approach the gal gave her a killer smile. For sure she will also smile to you and try to ask her name although you already know her name.Good luck bro!

Wow.You should've just approached her with some question about where some classroom is.When she explains (if she does,that is) just say you still don't get it and ask her if she could show you herself.Once you guys are by yourselves just introduce yourself and ask pretend you haven't seen her before!Just make conversation-ask her what course she's taking,when she tells you say oh!A friend of mine is doing the same.You know-don't make it too awkward.You don't wanna make it too heavy.You're talking to her for the first time.And i think texting her was a bad idea.I remember getting really creeped out with messages from guys who i didn't know at all but who knew me.Trust me that won't help.

Depends on how old you are and how bold. Do you have a camera phone? Take her snapshot, give it to a good artist, or you can generate a drawing of her on the computer and use it to design I love you card for her...that, if no other thing, would work. Good luck

Approach her ,tell her whatever you think.

Its a really nice and tempting situation. just approach her in a corner when she is there. you have to be bold. make sweet words. or through your female friends give her some hints. it may help.

She may be like most of us, will not answer the phone to someone that we do not know. She does not know your name. Therefor she don't know you and doesn't want to talk. You need to just approach her and ask her if she will have lunch with you or something that you have seen her around and would like to get together. Meeting in a public place will help her to feel better at least the first time together. If you could maybe having a large get together and inviting her or somesome she knows that you know invite her for you. If she goes then you two can talk and get to know each other. Then ask her later for a lunch date or something. What most guys don't know is that it is just as hard for the ladies to ask someone out. She may know you and even like you or what she sees and has heard about you. You'll never know until you try harder to ask her out and give it a try. Going off with friends will possibly set you both more at ease and be a start to something for you two. Best of luck to you.

The only thing you can do is approach. Go up to her and say hello, then compliment her. Ask her what her course of study is and tell her your name and course of study. Just don't be nervous, all your doing is asking her name and course of study. Try asking her about the course, what she aspires to do in the field? Your in computer engineering, if your good at it, suggest making a program for her to have fun at. Have a Great day.

the only advice i have for you is to be confident and think positive. with that you will find you will be able to talk to her

Girl like brave boy, you should pass your mind to her, you don't say face to face, she don't know you forever. Some fail is not matter, you must go on, when the time is long, i think the girl can know you , and you will get more chance. You are know her name and course in as much, you should say a word to her first. Thought she is surround by her friends, it has a time that she is alone, you are not brave enough,please remember, you are a boy, you should be active, Go!! don't lost the beautiful things.