can boy and girl be close friends but not lover?

Two of my closest friends are guys, and there is absolutely no chance of anything further ever happening with either of them. They both know me as well, if not better than my female friends, and I have no trouble spending time with them as a friend and nothing more. At different times I have even shared a house with each. There is no reason that males and females can't be friends. Issues only arise when someone decides to take things further.

Yes ofcourse... A boy and girl can be close friends forever... even i am

Hi friend, When times change, the intensity of friendship become more firm then it cant be break. Some of them will never show or they lie each other. But they will realize after long years,that is after marriage. I heard from some of my friends. Thanks.

Boys and girls can be real friends. I have several friends that I have had since I was a kid in grade school that I still am in contact with. Some of my best friends are men, and there is nothing but just friendship between us.

A girl and boy could be a good friend .They must know that they are just a friend .A friend ship never says no the friend help . They are always ready to do everything for their friend.They know that friend ship is true then the relation of love. So you could be a good friend of any guy. First you have to accept him as a friend and make sure to him you are friend of him.So be ready.

ohh.. i dont think so. you can have a true friend in a guy as long u do accept each other^^

bolero my friend a total depends on the two persons who were involved in relationship was to think if they want to continue with that kind of relationship but they want it to be jinxed would love for I personally feel that they can be a very good friendship between a girl and boy if they want to carry out the relationship like that. But it is even one of them doesn't understand it then they may be chances.

i think a boy and a girl can be good friends. People today say it wrong and tomorrow the same people will tell the same thing as right it does not matter what people say about that it matters wat u think

sure why not. At some point one of them may have feelings for the other but they may not want to take the chance in losing what they have as friends but it would be a good relationship since they are friends they know alot about one another already.

i think it's possible but it is REALLY HARD to achieve... most times it starts off that way but then things get twisted... it depends on how long you were best friends and how far you are willing to not let anything sopil that friendship

Yes, a boy and a girl can be friends but not lovers. I have so many of them. They call me best friends because I always help hem talk to their girls. There was one time that a friend slightly fell in love but I immediately said, it is better if we'll be friends because I don't want to risk the years we've been together. If w become lovers, there is a possibility that we'll fight and brak-up... and I don't want to lose him so being friends is better. Do their girlfriends get jealous? Of course they do but I assured them, those men are theirs, 100 percent. I may have fallen to one but because of too much familiarity of our personalities, it ended to be like only not love feeling. Take care

Hello alian818. Your topic is one that has concerned me for many years. In the past I used to get to know girls, who I really fancied, but I did not tell them until later. One girlfriend reprimanded me for using, what she called, a "backdoor approach". Anyway in the end I ended up having true friendships with these girls and they remain so to this day. These friendships are not closer than those with my male friends. They are just different. Is there a difficulty if you find your friend attractive too? In my opinion, there may be. If your friend knows this then she may not be as relaxed with you, as she is with other guys who pose no threat. That can even make you jealous of people, who don't play as big a role in her life as you do. However, if you talk this over with your friend, it may help, so long as you can decide in your own head, what you want from the relationship. I discussed your topic with my friend recently. She said, that I should try to see her as a "Neutrum", i.e. neither as a girl nor as a boy. This was a wonderful conversation and we laughed all the way through it. As we said our goodbyes later, she patted me on the shoulder and I shook hands with her in jest and told her she was a "lovely neutrum!" She described me as an idiot (actually it was another word which cannot be used here!) and we both went home laughing. That's real friendship. All the best from Germany. UMart

Yes, there can be true friendship between sexes. I've been married for almost 5 years, and my best friend is a male that I work with. We have NEVER been below the belt, or above it. We have been really close for nearly 10 years. We discuss self problems, children, marrage issues, work issues, general life issues. He probably knows more about me than my own husband. I have a deep relationship with my husband, and that is where my heart is, but my best friend is Traz.

i don't know what things like in countries beyong China, but in my country, many believe ,esp, adults who are rich in life experience, argue that there is no pure friendship between male and female--that is no close friends but not lovers.Back to couple of years, i would find such statement totally outrageous and unfair. while, now experience proves people's argument that they are absolutely right. Male and female and be common friends, but impossible to be close friends for they attract each other, they can be intimate friends, sharing each other's happiness and sorrow, joy and excitement. and then at least one of them want to push their relationship forward. If it works, they will become lovers, while if not, it is hard to stay close as before cause one part is long for the other, and it is pain for him or her to hunger for but can never get.

it si svery possible for them to be friends. but it is seen that in many cases the best of freinds fall in love. also i have seen that others think they are into realtionship when they are not really.

Boy and girl can be good friends as well, it is just that you have to find the right one who you think he or she is your true friend, the love and friendship is totally different but friendship can turn to be love later but that is not possible in all cases, I beleive in true friendship and I have many friends who are just true friends to me , I am close with them just as a friend but nothing more.

There can be god and true freindship between both.Its not neccesary not only two persons of oppostie gender cant be true friends but lovers it happens sometimes that boy and a girl can be true friends.

i disagree with your opinion. i believe that there is a true friendship between a girl and a boy without crossing the line of having an affair. that relationship is what they called best friends. i have best friends who are girls but i don't have any plans to court them because my feeling for them is only for a friend...

I think it's possible, but it is necessary that nobody feel attraction for the other.When there is something else it's impossible a relationship of true friendship.In the past i had some male friends, i hoped in a true friendship with them , but only one was true,honest and without others interests.

i think it can be happen because boy and girl can friends not neccessary only can to be lover.