If a married woman has no kids, does that make her less of a woman?

I honestly don't see why having kids would make her any "more" or "better" of a wife- or the opposite, for that matter. What if a married couple didn't want kids? What if they decided not to have their own, but to adopt children instead? Does that make a woman or a man any less? I don't see how. If she's that concerned about giving birth, she needs to see a doctor.. and so does her husband, if he hasn't yet. Sometimes it's not just the woman's fault.

Ten years may be a very long time for her to wait for her son/daughter to come up, so it is understandable if she feels that way. But in my opinion, -- perhaps has been spoken by the others -- that giving birth is not the only thing a wife should do. Perhaps they have already done check up examination and everything related to it, so another step that they can do is to adopt a son/daughter. Besides, the ultimate key in marriage -- again in my own perspective -- is to settle two lifes together. If both can share love and feelings, I think they have done the main part. If son/daughter -- as a result of two bodies and loved sharing everything together -- is not pressent because of unwilling or uncertain condition, they don't need to leave each other.

No it doesn't make her less of a woman but she would miss the wonderful feeling of being a mom.God has the reason for everything.If she is not bless to have a child i am sure He has better plans for her.

Of course not. If there are problems conceiving a child, it should not be taken against the woman (or the man). Sometimes, couples aren't blessed into having a child of their own. If she (or rather they) really wants to have a child, maybe they can adopt.

i think not a woman is a woman unless she chooses not to be like if she wants to turn lesbian etc that would make her leass of a women but just becaus eshe doesnt have kids doesnt make her less of a woman.

I believe that the essence of a woman couldn't be gauge by having kids. In my standpoint, it is how you contribute to the society that makes you more of a woman. There are many things which she can do to see her worth. There are many motherless children who is looking for someone to take good care of them. Her husband needs her. The society itself was expecting for her to play a significant role in her own ways. I believe that she can be a woman that could give courage and inspiration to other people, and that would be a very satisfying on her part as well.

It is trashy thoughts like this that cause many women to sink into despair when they can't have babies or, worse yet, makes women make babies who are not cut out to be moms, or don't really want kids. The world is full of unwanted, abused, and abandoned children brought into the world by women who got pregnant because society said they aren't real women unless they gave birth!

Not at all. And many women choose not to have children. Sometimes it is just not meant to be and she just might have to accept it OR think about adopting or serve as a foster parent. There are also so many other things in society that women can do besides having children that are so worthwhile.

Well, if a married woman feels that having no kids "makes her less of a woman," she really has a problem at hand. It is all in how you feel about yourself. Why does she feel so? Has someone taunted her about it? Even if she has medical problems and can't conceive, she can always adopt a child. Being a mother doesn't necessary mean you should make it yourself. She can express her motherly feelings by adopting a baby. Cheers and happy mylotting

It does not make her less of a woman if she cannot have children! She should not feel that way, I am sure that she could adopt a child and give it all the love in her heart and be the best mom to that child. A person should never feel less of themself because they cannot reproduce. It is who you are as a person that matters in this life, not whether or not you can reproduce. It is how your raise the child that you do end up with - if you do choose to adopt - that matters, not that you physically brought that child into the world. I hope your friend hangs in there. I personally know people that tried and tried for years and were so stressed out to get pregnant. When they finally got fed up and stopped stressing out and stopped trying to get pregnant - guess what? They got pregnant! Sometimes you just have to go with the flow and let things happen as they may.[i] Good luck to your friend. Happy myLotting and have a nice day![/i]

I do not believe that it makes her any less of a woman. I do not want to have children by choice, I do not think that makes me less of a woman.

No, i dont think so. A woman is a woman because of herself not because of birthing children. That is a whole nother subject.

No, I don't think that being childless makes her any less of a woman, but how does her husband feel about it? If he strongly desires children, also, maybe they could adopt, or take in foster children. Older children, black, and biracial children are frequently hard to place. Sibling groups are even harder. As to the idea that having no children making her a poor wife, many men would rather not have to share their wife's affections with a child.

A woman will not be less of a woman if she is childless. We are not birth giving machines. I have friends who don't plan to have any babies and they say frankly that they are not sure that they can be qualified mothers if they have children. But i think for those who do like children it's not a bad idea to have one or two. Kids are so cute and you get so much fun and happiness watching them grow. It's like living your life all over again from the very beginning. I've heard too many stories about a woman who doesn't want to bear children when young and regrets it when she can't have one anymore.

some people just cant have kids, whatever their reasons are...it is not meant for them to bear kids...but if they really want kids, they could adopt and try other methods, in vetro, test tube, etc. there are many options for people who cant have kids right now..or maybe they prefer just pets...

I don't think it makes her less of a woman, I myself have been married 5 years now, and we don't have any children. I know alot of people that know us probably wonder why we don't have any children yet, but its our choice not to, and no I don't feel less of a woman because I've never had kids, the other reason is because of health problems I have, I've always known that I wouldn't have kids, both my husband and I agreed that its okay, if we wanted to adopt someday we can, there are alot of children out there that need good loving homes. Please tell your friend there are other options. One of my sisters and her husband have been trying a long time to have a baby, they've gone through all kinds of fertilization methods, nothing has worked yet, but hopefully someday something will work. I come from a big family, 6 nephews, 1 niece and one on the way, they are enough for me. Usually one of them is always at our house when school's out anyway. But I don't think it makes you less of a woman, maybe its just not in the cards for you, maybe there is a child out there somewhere that needs you. Good luck

I think it depends on the culture you are in .In Africa a married woman with no kids has a very slim chance of surviving her marriage. Even if her husband loves her the in laws will do everything to frustrate the two of them.But from what i gather in he western culture its fine to not have kids.

Having or not having children does not make a woman. I'm blessed to have them, but I always said if I were unable to I pray that I would have the wherewithal to enjoy life like a person without kids. In other words to take advantage of the freedom that person without those responsibilities would have. You hae the freedom to be a little more daring with your life such as you can take more career risks, because there isn't someone helpless that completely depends upon you. You have the freedom to explore time consuming hobbies and interests without worrying about getting home to cook dinner or take someone to practice or a game or help with homework. I'm not saying that doing these things are a nuisance, but I am saying that there is beauty in both lifestyles. Being a woman has nothing to do with your ability to bear children. Woman don't doubt their femininity and womanhood before they try to bear children, so why doubt it after you have tried and discover you may not be able to.

There may be many reasons, good and bad, that a woman may or may not have children. Those reasons may be her choice, and some may be God's choice. If they are God's choice, then maybe He wants them to adopt, or maybe that there are some relation issues that God is wanting them to over come before she can conceive. I knew a couple that was the same way, and they listened to a preacher, and did marrital work, and she was pregnant. They still don't attend church, but that wasn't their challenge. It was something deep between them two. I know this is really deep, but sometimes that where solutions are. But that WILL NEVER MAKE HER LESS OF A WOMAN!!! I hope this is helpful.

hi i think not becouse she cant have kids she have more as good wife to him .