Forgive and forget...

I really need help in this area of life. I can't easily forgive or forget, like recently i tried making friends with someone and it really did not work out. The consequences were a damamged professional relationship and of course my feeling were really hurt. I still see the person but only speak with a hello or goodbye. It stinks because I thought the relationship would have been Awesome had it not hit this road block. So know I don't know what to do, we have stopped all forms of communication. How can I move on and forget this person?

Hi Zelmarq! I completely agree that forgiveness can give you peace of mind. And in forgiving, you should also have to forget the pain and the hurt. I do forgive and forget..usually forgetting the pain comes in time. As they say, time heals all wounds. I can forget the pain and hurt when I forgive someone or anyone but I will not however, forget the mistakes and lessons that I have learned from it. As my mother always tells me during my growing years, forgive the person and forget the pain, heal yourself but never forget the mistake done so you can learn from it and be wiser next time. Take care and God Bless!

well said... i can't say it any better than you... i completely agree with you that only God has the right to judge as He is our Creator and we are as a creation are not in position at all to judge other people as we all are just God's creations... and holding grudges does not do any good to our life at all and can affect our health as what you say... it is a sin as well... if God can forgive us of all our sins and never remember them again, why can't we do the same to other people??? we are all sinners and required forgiveness... people do make mistakes... anyway, we all just human beings... so if we all can just forgive and forget, this world will be a much happier and peaceful place to live... but i know that it is much easier to say than done... it takes lots of efforts and humbleness to be able to do this act... take care and have a nice day...

Karma does indeed take care of it. Just found out that has happened to someone that did get on my nerves lol

Hi Zelmarq, Thank you for starting this discussion, and I agree with what you say here. It appears that you have found the secret of happiness. It isn't always easy to forgive and forget but very necessary to our own well being. When we have forgiven, we will never wish any harm to come to the other person. It is true that person may have to experience something similar in order to grow, but that is not up to us. God is a loving God and will always act in love. Blessings.

it is always easy to forgive someone. but it is always not easy to forget though. for we know that the memories remains. especially that we are humans created with a mind that remembers. especially when it is something to do with our emotions. as for me, i had been forgiving many people from my past. they had been a burden to me that every now and then i longed to move back from that past and twist it and stop it and never allow it to happen. before the Lord, i forgive them. i realy do. He first forgive meand i know i have to do the same. but it is like the memories reamins. memories that is really hard to forget. it is like a brithpain. a scar remain. remain to haunt a person. but everytime it happen to me, i claim the blood of Jesus which washes everything else. it is the work of the enemy though to condemn me. to make it short, we still or could not still easily forget someone's fault or sin to me especially when it is really hurting. though i forgive, but the memory or memories remain...huhu...(thanks sa sabon!)

this may sound strange but I do believe that justice and fairness exist but then again I feel like I have to do something to start it. there are of course things beyond my control and I can only wish that it won't take long for my payback. BTW I lose sleep since I love internet browsing, most stress in my life comes from either employment or my small business or worries about those I love. maybe acting on it, and not just thinking about it, helps me get over it.

I had to learn this lesson myself. Then I heard a minister say something that has stuck with me. Forgive the ones who hurt you, not for them, but for you so that you can move on with your life.

hi... i do believe in karma, thats why as much as possible, i ignore those people who insult me, after all i believe in myself.. i do know what am i rather what they know about me... forgive and forget is very hard especially if the one who do bad things to you is the person who is part of your life, let us say friends...is it true? you are such a good person or martyr one if you can forgive with them despite of what they do to you,...hehehe

Hello! Yes, let's learn how to forgive others. People are usually keeping hate inside them, they can't love those who have once insulted them. Why is that? You should all learn that we humans make mistakes. How many times have you offended somebody without wanting to do it? Or yet, try to imagine how many times you have offended somebody and you still do not know it? Let's learn the act of forgiveness. Respectfully, Munhozmib.

I totally agree - there are too many people in this world who hold on to their hurts thinking that they are punishing the person who hurt them. but the only person they really hurt is themselves. As the bible says, do not hate and allow the bitter root to spring up. unforgiveness just eats in yourself and causes high blood pressure and other health issues as you pointed out. those who are easy going usually have much better health and look better too cos they are smiling more often and scowling less! here's to forgiving and letting God take the vengence.

Hi, you are a kindhearted person~~ though it's hard for to do that, so many things that I want to forget, I can't , someone I want to forgive, so hard~~ afterall, I'm a person~~

yeah.. it's really hard to forgive or forget but we have to move on for the benefit of ourselves and also our loved ones who depends on us.. If we keep on feeling hard because someone hurt or insults us, we can never do or think the right thing.. we only focus on the person who hurt us and thinking how to take revenge.. Let God punish this person who hurt you and live life to the fullest without any grievances in your heart.. be free.. thanks Zelmarq..

Zelmarq, I totally agree with you.I believe that God has the last word when it comes to those who hurt us. two years ago things were really bad for me and my husband but, God was with us taking care of everything. I have forgiven, maybe not forgotten yet but, when I think of all that happened back then, it doesn't bother me anymore. There is no use for me to carry a grudge or to mistreat those who mistreated me, it's just a waste of time and effort. The past is just that, the past.