Marriage Counseling????

i am not married, but from what i have witnessed, every couple today should have marriage counseling before marriage. it can very well prevent some problems before they develope. it can give them a better foundation for a successful partnership in living with another person. it's always good to have a plan. anything big and important you should get all the helpful information you can.

Your husband suggested it? LOL. It usually goes the other way around. Yes, I think it's a good idea, especially if you decide to go into it BEFORE you have problems. Everybody has problems, and sometimes you need a referee, but before you get into something major... it's a good idea to learn how to deal with your problems together. Of course, sometimes you run into marriage counselors that suggest goofy things... If you don't mind my asking (since you brought it up,) what kind of communication problems do you feel that you are having?

well, for me it is mandatory because i want to perform my holy matrimony in the church... and one of the requirement from the pastor to be able to do that is to undergo a marriage counseling for at least 10 times... if i didn't do that, then my pastor wouldn't want to perform the marriage... and i think it is a very good thing as well as it forms a solid foundation for the marriage... take care and have a nice day...

Hello pixiedust :-) You know what I think going to a pre-marriage counseling is wise and advisable. Me and my boyfriend has plans to tie the knot next year and I am thinking about going to pre marriage counseling so we can prepare for it emotionally financially…basically in all aspects. I just don’t know where to go for that kind of stuff here in my country. but since we go to church evey sunday, the priests offer wise counseling. Marriage counseling is also good for married couples. It shows that you are both committed to make your marriage work. just choose the best marriage counselor. Good luck on your marriage and I wish you all the best.

Marriage counseling is very important especially for young couples. It explains the responsibilities and changes marriage will bring into young couples lives. You should be aware of it before finally experiencing it so you will know how to cope with it.

I am not sure if marriage counseling really works. Our government mandates that each couple who applies for a marriage license will undergo counseling, with no consideration of their ages. But with this rule, I still see some couples that still don't make a good marriage life. Some still separates and some really, nothing happened. KEEP SMILING = NEIL (red star 91 @ 1404)

I think everyone should go to counseling before they get married. Not just for communication, but to deal with issues that people don't even think about - like who will make the majority of the money, how many kids, etc. Once we are all back living in the same state, I think DH and I will go. Being away from each other for about 9 months takes a toll on a relationship, no matter how much you talk and get to see each other.

I think that is a good idea. I mean heck you have to get a permit before you drive lol. I think with the divorce rate being what it is today that everyone should be required to take counseling or marriage classes before they get married. I think a lot of people don't get that you actually have to work at a marriage. My husband and I have some trouble communicating too. We've been working at it and I think we are doing pretty good now. I don't think just young couples need counseling, i think it would be a good idea for anyone wanting to get married no matter if they wait till they are in their 30's to get married.

Marriage counseling BEFORE you get married? Nah, I don't see the point in that. Just be in a relationship before you get married. Don't be in a rush to get married. Move in together first or something, get used to being around each other all the time. I think it should be mandatory to take child-raising counseling before becoming a parent, though... it's ridiculous how many kids are abused, neglected, etc :\

I think that marriage counseling should be required of anyone wishing to marry. And if there are problems in a marriage, counseling should be the first step in fixing things. You never really know a person until you live with him/her. But even then, even if you've lived with a person before marriage, things change after exchanging vows. Once you take the vows for what is supposed to be a life-long experience, reality sets in. And you do discover that communicating is important. And you discover that you missed talking about a bunch of things while you focused on what color your bridesmaide should wear. Holidays often cause trouble for a newly married couple. Even if you both said that you love decorating, you love selecting the right gift for everyone and you love getting together with your family during Christmas, what you mean can be so different. For one, decorating a lot might mean putting up a tree. For the other it could mean decorating the entire house. For one, taking time to select the perfect gift might mean one afternoon of shopping. For the other, it could mean spending months finding the one special gift that shouts "Mom!" For one, spending time with family for Christmas might mean arriving just in time for dinner. For the other, it might mean going to church together on Christmas Eve, arriving back early in the morning to open gifts together (or spending the night), fixing the big family meal together, playing silly games and singing lots of Christmas carols around the piano. There are so many things we forget to talk about before we get married - things that might not seem important, but that can be once you add in the silly quirks your spouse has (like squeezing the toothpaste the "wrong" way and putting the toilet paper back on "wrong" or "backwards") and if you add in financial woes (like how you didn't discuss whether you'd have joint accounts or who would actually pay for what), then everything becomes an issue. And if you have in-laws that come around a bit too much? That can cause trouble as well. Yes, indeedy, premarital counseling is so important. Perhaps on-going counseling is too. At least it is until couples learn to really communicate. And that when she says, "Fine" it does not mean that anything is fine at all.

Here in the Philippines, before you can apply a marriage liscense you must first completed a marriage counseling seminar. For me, it's okay and it's good idea, there are different topics that will discuss that you will surely relate. And you know, it's a good bonding moment too! My husband and I enjoyed it and after it we learn to appreciate more each other. When sometimes, we encountered confusions- we look back what the seminar taught and we are enlighted. I also suggest you to talk also for spiritual counselling about marriage it surely help, it's nice thing that your relationship will also be guided in God's will and purpose. Have a blessed day ahead...

theres nothing wrong of getting married at a young age. it depends on the couple how they will handle their differences. married life is not really that easy. there is really a lot of adjustment. going to a counsel can help, if you follow them. but of course we have our own attitude. it will depend on the couple, if you still love one another fix it. if the problem is not that big. we can show our affection by dating, cooking for one another like having another honeymoon. you see opne communication is very important in a marriage life. it has to be always open. respect is another thing. you are still in your adjusting period. you still have a long way to go. just be patient. age is not a hindrance in your married life.

I think counseling is needed when the marriage seems to be on the verge of ending. Egos usually get the better of us and it's always nice if someone could just help break the silence. By counseling I dont mean professional help but counseling from friends or relatives should help a lot as well.

I guess we're riding on the same boat...getting married at a young age. My husband and I have some individual differences and so, we always end fighting with each other due to a simple misunderstanding. We seem to misinterpret each other's meaning when we try to express our feelings. Many people have suggested that we must undergo counselling but we don't think we really need it. We tried to talk it over, enjoy every moment of our married life...I mean the good and the bad of course. I think it slowly works. I am just afraid that we might not be able to deal with each other when we don't have a counsellor to serve as a medium. I would say that if your problem is that serious, go for it. And see how it helps. If it doesn't then think of a better way to save your relationship...it takes two to tango.

I think marriage councelling is a great idea, no matter how long you have been married. A neutral party is always a good idea, It might not be a bad idea to make it mandatory. What should be mandatory should be non-denominational councelling, OR religious councelling for folks who would prefer tha. My husband and I are from two totally diferent religions so ouncelling in either church would not be the best idea.

Never had been in a marriage counselling sessions but I think it is good to have one since in marriage there is always friction that happens and if you are not aware of that it can pile up and become serious someday. So for you as a young couple I think it would be best that you can already talk to one another and open up issues that bother one another which is not openly discussed when you are together.

marriage counselling ie really new and compeletely new thing for me because i am from india and this type of thinhs are not not happening in india.as we know that love is devine and marriage like matters are made in heaven lord has decided that who will marry to whonme .toy may not believe this mentality but w indians believe this thing .this is the reSON that is why divorce are more in your country bugt not in our country .marriage councelling is what?is not it a simply fashion and a stupid farce?onlty wastage of tome and mear a gaity only and nothing more than that. I am fully agree with your husband that it is not good for young ones.love with arrange a simultanious marriage is best one not to chhose life partner thorough any marriage councelling.

I am married, The problems come even in younger marriage or older marriage! That`s the life, Take it easy!