Help me Conceive

For my wife and I, we had to "quit trying" before God blessed us with our three children. There are health barriers for some, weight sometimes matters, as does smoking and drinking. But for us it wasn't until we resolved to accept our plight, that God was able to work. We finally had our first son, and a few years later, decided to try again. When we came up empty, we decided we should be thankful that God had blessed us with one child, and give back. We accepted foster children into our home and a month later pregnancy test came up positive. We had barely recovered from the birth of number 2 when another pregnancy test showed positive again. So I would recommend a physical inventory, and if everything checks out, relax and don't get frustrated.

hi lindsay! i can't really say that i can help you. we have been trying for more than a year since we got married. we did everything that the doctor told us. but nothing happened. i tried alternative therapies, medicines, supplements. nothing happened. i took care of myself, didn't work too myself, tried to get away with my husband, nothing happened. then i gave up. i just said, if God wants to give us a child, He will do so without our help. lo and behold, after about a couple of months, i just learned i was pregnant. i had to re-do my lifestyle, i had really been busy and i had been drinking coffee again. i guess all i can say is, in God's perfect time, He will grant us the baby that we so want. yeah, like you, i had been ranting about those people who keep on getting pregnant. last night, in the news, a guy banged his live-in partner's son's head on the pavement. when i hear these stories, my heart is crushed. anyway, i am just glad that i am almost 2 months on the way already. still a long way, but i am glad to know that i am also capable to getting pregnant. all glory be unto God! good day and God bless you!

Sometimes a doctor can help you without a lot of intervention or expense. It could be so many things causing your difficulties... even something as simple as low progesterone levels. I've had friends go in for simple procedures that allowed them to easily get pregnant. Other's needed a bit of help carrying to term, but doctors can do a lot in many cases (not all) to help. Good luck!

Hi lindsaykay, I am TTC too for a year now. I was very disappoint to see my test today BFN. I cried because of frustration. I couldn't even barely breath to see that my rest came out negative. I am 1 day late today August 14, 2008. It will be my cd 31. I will try to test again in the next few days. Maybe it is too soon to test. I still dont feel any pregnancy symptoms, or menstrual symptoms. If I am not pregnant, we will try to continue. I am BBT charting and all that stuff. Hopes this will help me. Why dont you try it too? All the best baby dust to us. Goodluck!

My husband and I were told early on that we only have a 2% chance to get pregnant. We were immediatly put on fertility and tried for 3 1/2 years. (I do believe in medicine and help from doctors but everyone has their own opinion) I didn't ovulate at all and with the help of fertility my body started working correctly. After no luck we felt that we had a child out there. We adopted a little girl and knew she was meant for our family. Only 9 months later I got pregnant. Unfortunately it didn't work out and lost the baby at 10 weeks. We tried for a while and nothing happened and now my daughter is 2 1/2 years old and I am 28 weeks pregnant. I feel like our kids were meant for us and all the years of fertility gave me a jump start. If you really don't believe in any of that stuff at least go make sure that something is not wrong with either of you. I also heard that fatty dairy products such as icecream, whole mile can help. As well as eating Yams. Good luck.

why don't you go to the hospital to see a doctor? you need to have professional advice by the doctor, or youcan go to have a body check. maybe you can go with you husband together. because you said you did not take any protection for 2 years, and you stiil unpregnant.googd luck!

You may still have to see a doctor for advice even if you want to get it naturally, better se you doctor!

i also am trying to conceive really hard myself... i had been going to the doctor myself and what he asked me to do is to chart my cycle so that i know exactly the date when i am fertile... and then i have to do an ovulation test on those days... if i am positive, then i have to do 'it' on two days consecutively to make sure that i will conceive... the doctor also give me medicine to help me ovulate... good luck... keep praying and trying and hopefully both of us will be able to conceive and get pregnant... take care and have a nice day...

I hope that you are pregnant now since you have posted five months ago. Did you do a health check up lately? Do you know in which days you are most fertile? I would suggest you to use the natural method. It involves taking your temperature daily before waking up in the morning. Thus you will know when its the most fertile day in your cycle and being intimate with your husband during that time. Good luck in your quest.

When I couldn't get pregnant the first thing my doctors made me do was charting. If you have been reading other websites then I'm sure you started charting already. Once you chart then you can learn alot of things like when you ovulate. I found out I wouldn't ovulate every month. If you have been on any kind of birthcontrol sometimes it messes up your cycle. I did have to get on clomid to help me ovulate every month and now I can tell when I ovulate b/c its like period cramps after your period. I know you don't want to go to a doctor but I think they would be your best bet. They can suggest things and have you tested to see what is wrong. I know what you mean about kids getting pregnant when they don't want the baby and here you are trying to have one and its not happening. I know how you feel with every pregnancy test coming back negative and getting more dissappointed then before. Go to a doctor you don't have to do everything they want you to do but go see why its not happening they can help you. Good luck and I hope you get pregnant soon. *sending baby dust your way* *****

My advice is to honestly quit trying. Not saying not to have a child, but I've come to realize that those who really really want a child can't seem to concieve. Those who don't think about it, or don't stress about it end up having one. I don't know why, but it seemed to work for my friend. While I was pregnant all she could think about was having a baby. So I told her to quit thinking about it and to think about other things. Low and behold two months later she was pregnant. Its not anything scientific, but hey it's worth a try right?

Have you both been to the doctor for complete physicals? I would do that first. He needs to wear loser underwear to increase his count. So if he is wearing briefs he should switch to boxers. Learn when you are ovulating. If can not determine that yourself get one of those kits. You can do it 20 times a month but if you don't do it at the right time it is not going to happen. Sometimes being over weight can hurt some peoples chances too. Of course I have no idea if you are overweight or not, but being close to your goal weight can help the bodies reproductive system to work more efficiently. Being underweight can also cause you problems. I wish you lots of luck.

My best advice is to just relax and accept that if it was meant to be, you'd get pregnant. I understand how frustrating it is seeing women who have more kids than they want and deserve... but I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. You were blessed with one child, which is more than many other wanna-be-parents can say. Perhaps there is a very good reason why you have not been able to concieve a second child... perhaps there is an unforseeable problem you are currently unaware of. Continue doing what you're doing, and if it happens, know that it was meant to be. Until then, enjoy what you have and count your blessings.

I dont have hard time getting pregnant. maybe you should try drinking food supplements that helps nourishing the reproductive system.

I don't have any advice to give, but I wanted to share my own experiences with you. With my first pregnancy it took over 4 years for me to get pregnant. With my second pregnancy it took over 2 years, and with my 3rd pregnancy it took over 5 years. Unfortunately I miscarried with my last pregnancy. My husband and I only used protection maybe 2 or 3 times in the beginning of our relationship, so it really took this long for each pregnancy. Each of my pregnancies were conceived naturally.

Hey The best solution is to completely surrender it to our Hevenly Father. There is nothing impossible with him. Pray hard and you will see the miracles of God in your life. He will give you a child even if your under the most of Stress or the most overweight or whatever. Trust completely in his power.