do you open up to strangers or family/friends?
By sameroad
@sameroad (3179)
United States
August 17, 2008 9:17pm CST
Who do you turn too when you need someone to open too?
Do you go to your family or friends or do you find it easier to open up to a stranger?
I don't really have anyone i open up too. I can talk to my mom or cousin about some things 
but there are a lot of things i don't open up to anyone.
I think sometimes (if i have been drinking 
) that i can open up to strangers easier then i can my family.. I think its easier to open up to strangers sometimes because they don't know you and so whatever they think of you doesn't really bother you but when someone you care about is judging you or you "think" they might be judging you...that can cause problems..
So who do you find it easier to open too? family/friends or strangers?
but there are a lot of things i don't open up to anyone.
I think sometimes (if i have been drinking ) that i can open up to strangers easier then i can my family.. I think its easier to open up to strangers sometimes because they don't know you and so whatever they think of you doesn't really bother you but when someone you care about is judging you or you "think" they might be judging you...that can cause problems..
So who do you find it easier to open too? family/friends or strangers?2 people like this
31 responses
@SViswan (12051)
• India
18 Aug 08
I don't really open up to anyone...though people might think otherwise because I do talk a lot.
I don't open up with friends....with my parents, I open up only when a direct question comes up and if it's a particular issue we are discussing.
I usually talk to myself in my head and that works for me and it doesn't make me vulnerable after opening up to someone who can take advantage of it later.
@aureliaz (1177)
• Singapore
18 Aug 08
I think I am probably in the same situation as you. I don't really have anyone I feel comfortable going to about many issues but I do have good friends whom I talk to when I really can not hold it back. I suppose that I am afraid to let myself go because of my temper sometimes and yeah, like you said, I'm a bit scared of my close ones judging me when I am far from being the nicest human being on this planet.
I haven't really had such an experience with a stranger before but I do think that it would be an extremely interesting one to behold. Sometimes, I suppose a person just needs understanding and a listening ear regardless of where that comes from.
@katkat (2378)
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
I don’t open up to my family much more to strangers. I can talk a lot of things with my family but not my problems or the things that I’ve been going through. With my friends, I open the little things. It’s not that I’m afraid they don’t understand me or fear of judgments; I honestly don’t care about that. I just don’t like telling people bout my personal issues and I know that there’s not much that they can do cause in the end the only person that you can trust is yourself so what the use of telling it to other people if you can handle it on your own.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
18 Aug 08
I don't really open up to people if something is bothering me a lot. I'll talk about little things but the big stuff I handle myself. I've been told it's not healthy but some things, especially sorrow, is private and belongs to me.
@Ina926 (172)
• United States
20 Aug 08
Whenever I need to talk to somebody, I usually call my mom, we are super close and I feel that I can tell her anything. I also call my cousin whenever my mom is not available. We grew up together and I love her like a sister. Sometimes we women need to talk to other women about our problems.
@lvaldean (1612)
• United States
19 Aug 08
Only to my journal. Never to a human person fully. I have simply been burned to many times with secrets that don't remain so. I no longer trust anyone, even those who should love me, with all the secrets of my hearts.
@yenwie84 (1344)
• Malaysia
19 Aug 08
Most of the time,I don't tell my problems to my loved one included my parents. I prefer to keep to myself. But after I have joined in Mylot,whenever I have any problem which I cannot figure out myself,I will voice out in Mylot to get some tips from the Mylotters here. I find it's really helpful. When my problems are posted here, I can get different opinions from different people in different angles. It helps me in solving the problems from different aspects. Maybe like what you have said there,it's easier to share our feelings to strangers.
@eiram25 (1076)
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
Unfortunately, I don't have the luxury of having someone to open up too with my problems. And even if I do have, too bad they don't listen. It's kinda lonely you know, for a girl like me who's emotional. I can't even open up myself to my boyfriend. =( Guess I'll just have to be my own hero then,right?
@Sophia2007 (40)
• United States
19 Aug 08
I find it easiest to open up to my spouse. We are designed by our creator to crave intimacy. To somehow connect with someone in such a way that the two of you can help bear one another's burdens.
@jollibee (57)
• United States
19 Aug 08
your right. its really much easier to open up to a stranger your problem specially when your are drunk. i tried that before. and sometimes also stranger had a better idea on solving your problem than people u known like friends and family. and i believe that if you have problem God send a favor to you to help u solving your problem.
@dorkx4eva (29)
• United States
19 Aug 08
i can open up to anyone really. No I don't go walking around telling every person on the street about my last one night stand but I just don't have any problem with telling people about myself. I know that sounds egotistical but I also have no problem listening to others about anything and everything they want to tell me. I believe if more people were open with their feelings than we'd have more understanding in the world.
@mrsgoodygoody00 (895)
• United States
18 Aug 08
I don't open up to anybody really other than my husband if I need to talk about something. But, if my feelings are hurt or if you have upset me, I'll defenitely let that person know. It's hard for me to open up to almost anyone because I do not want to be seen as vulnerable.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
18 Aug 08
Dear friend,
I very very rarely open up my feelings to strangers. But if I want I would open up to my friends and family members so as they could give me good suggestions or advices. I had open up a stranger is a psychiatrist and a counsellor other than them no other stranger I had opened up my feelings. Moreover I am much comfortable when I open up my feelings with my close friends.
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
18 Aug 08
Basically I open up to anyone close by.
Its embarrasing because I make mistakes with this and encounter prople who are not interested or who are sometimes totally not understanding or sympathetic.
I need to be more selective with this but that's not in my nature.
@dantakum (404)
• Nigeria
18 Aug 08
Hello,to me opening up to strangers is more easy and better than people you know too well of at the same time there are some things you have to talk about with people you know too well.like for me when am having a problem i do tell my cousin and mom then one day my cousin used what i told her againsts me which i regret,so when am bothered with any thing i prefer tellin some one i dont know at all thats why i like being here at my lot to talk about my problems.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
i rarely open to my family. cause i am not that close to my family. i don't talk to strangers or i don't confide with them. why would i. cause i hardly know those people. and i really don't think that my problems is easy to share to them. but in some cases i do but it is rare though.
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
18 Aug 08
I really don't open up to anyone either, it seems to me that people be pretending they are interested in what you are saying, and then all of a sudden they change the conversation, and you are wondering how did we start talking about their situation.
So I mostly keep things to myself, I guess that is why I have issues.
