New Years Baby died because he cried!

When my baby cries hard, i look for signs why he's crying..if all things have been checked, like if he wasn't hungry or have soiled diaper or simply not feeling well, i don't leave him..i still try to pacify and make him stop crying...Sure, sometimes, I get irritated but I cannot and would not just leave him in the playpen or crib or bed..What i do usually is pick him up and go someplace else, like in the garden or another part of the house where he would see different things that would make him curious and might make him stop crying...If that still fails, i would hand him over to my husband or to someone else in the family.. Sometimes, babies are just plain bored and new surroundings or fresh faces would make them stop wailing.. i wouldn't resort to spanking or shaking him just to make him stop!! I have read that babies can indeed die from that and i certainly don't wanna lose my baby... Sad that this things happen and the father should be jailed for that..Ignorance cannot be a valid reason moreso if a parent succumb to acting irrationally...

Shaken baby Syndrome kills quickly in a very short space of time. The father has an issue with anger and I feel sorry for the poor mother losing her baby. My toddler son is being quite difficult a nappy changing times so I sing songs to amuse and distract him. I have bought some colorful fluffy balls to hang from a hat that I will wear at nappy changing times. I say that bedtime is 7pm and if my son won't sleep I don't talk after that time until the morning. Making sure that he is safe is necessary but I can do that in silence during the night time. He has a nice temperament and rarely cries but he can moan sometimes. Playing a game with him or taking him out for a walk helps if he is in a bad mood. My friend's daughter was a baby that cried a lot. My friend put her in the cot a few times, distracted herself with relaxing music and got her mum to look after her once a week. Now the little girl is a toddler with a baby brother born in May.

I have had to leave one of my sons for five minutes and I wished I had gotten in and cuddled him, but I never would have shaken him or harmed him. I do not know what type of man this is. I mean my granddaughter was fussy, but my son never shook her. He and my daughter-in-law would take turns cuddling her. And when the twins were babies, well the younger did not want to be left alone, but I did not get angry, I just let him get that cry out of his system. The baby was abused. I hope they throw the book at that man. How horrible for the mother!

I did it all the time with both of my kids. I didn't want them to become used to being picked up every time they cried, so as long as I knew they were fed, burped and dry, I would let them cry!!! Yes the crying did get on my nerves, but I took comfort in knowing there was nothing wrong, and I got used to it. Eventually the child tires themselves out, and they fall asleep, which is what was probably wrong in the first place.

Oh, that is so sad. It seems to happen so much to people. I have had times when my daughter won't stop crying but I try to comfort her, see if I can figure out what is wrong. I have taken her in the car for a drive but never would hurt her.

OMG that is aweful...what a horrible person. He should go to prison and never be let out. I've always been a "motherly" person, I have a hard time scolding my 4 year old and two year old cause they don't know what they are doing is wrong and then sometimes they are sooo proud of what they did.....all I can do is laugh and tell them what they did wrong and have them clean the mess up, and they are pretty good about not doing somethings again........I couldn't ask for better girls.

oh my GOD! what a certain type of man he is? I think this person must be punished severely.how a man can do so if the baby is crying? there are obviously many ways

This is very heartbreaking....It is hard to leave a baby cry but sometimes there isn't anything else to do..If they've been burped, changed and fed then sometimes they just need a good cry... This is just horrible...

That is terrible. I know I have times when I would like to send my kids back to where they came from, but I'd never hurt them. When I have had enough, I do go and sit on the top of the backsteps for a few minutes to cool down. I can still at least hear them, but I am not fuming in the same room with them, something they find rather amusing. Being a parent of a baby is tough, but the baby doesn't know any better. They are going on instinct and are just letting us know when there is something they want us to do for them. It is upto us to try everything to placate our screaming babies, that includes putting them in their cots and walking away for a few minutes. It doesn't hurt them at all, and it gives stressed parents a few minutes to breath.

Hello ersmommy1. This is very sad. What's even worse is that this happend alot. Yes, there have been times that I've let my daughter in her crib while she cried.Not for long and then usually when I went in to check on her, she would be asleep. Babies will do this to get a reaction from us, to get them out and not have to go to sleep! Even doctors/pediatricians will tell you that it is okay to allow them to cry for a little bit. I think any parent could admit that there were times that we all got frustrated with our children. And like you said there are many positive ways to deal with This angers me so much. That guy needs to face up to what he did!

I've left my crying baby in his crib for up to half an hour. You have to sometimes. The most difficult time to deal with a screaming baby is in the middle of the night, when you are so tired and just want to sleep, and you really can't ignore the baby because you can hear the crying from your bed. You don't want to just relax for 5 minutes, you want to sleep. My first son was the worst, because I was young and alone at the time. I was living with my mom, but she never ever helped me. And my son slept in my room. He would scream and cry all night long. I'd try everything I could think of, and would end up breaking down and crying myself because I was so tired and didn't know what to do. It does tend to get much easier after they turn about 3 months. That is when they get on a decent schedule and sleep for most of the night if not straight through.

I think it's strange that everybody keeps talking about how they let their babies cry without picking them up. We are talking about infants, right? I really don't think that at that age, they can manipulate, like one person said, or that they need to learn how to be by themselves and comfort themselves at that age. I don't think that you can "spoil" a baby with too much holding, cuddling, love, etc. I held my son whenever he wanted me and/or needed me to and it worked out great. I believe that infants need that security - they don't need to be taught to do it themselves at such a young age. That way of thinking is extremely foreign to me.

Yes I saw that on myspace I actually got to read the letter from the mother it was quite sad.. I could not help but to cry when I read it.. she showed pictures of the baby in the hospital and when she had to take the baby off of life support.. and holding her baby saying good bye after words..this was a real tear jerker even thinking about it now..could you imagine your first baby hear and gone a few months later...

That is soooo silly! How could he do just thing as that? He should be put in jail and be punished. I'm pretty sure his soul will be burned by God of foolish thing he did. An infant is so helpless. When I read it I felt so sad because I am a mom too. I even get hurt when my kids were being scolded.

omg, that is soooo terrible, it was just a baby, i cant believe a person can do that to their own child. but to your point of doin what your supposed to do, yes i have put my baby down for 5 or 10 min...till he stopped crying... i have also come back to the room and checked on him to see if he was alright of no suffocation of his saliva.

That is so sad. I hope they are beating him in prison for it. I hope he has to go to jail for the rest of his life. I had a bad day once when my daughter wouldnt' stop crying and I wanted to cry but I went in the bathroom and put her little feet in the warm water and it helped relax her and seeing her enjoy splashing around made me laugh and it made me feel better. My oldest was crying for a while and I went in the tub with her when she was a baby and it relaxed her just sitting in the water and after that she went to sleep. So whenever someone has a baby I will tell them that trick to relax the baby.

I cannot imagine this. I love my daughter with all my heart. I would never want to see her come to harm. I rarely raise my voice to her. I know better than to shake a baby. If you shake a baby, you will just get a scared and louder crying baby. Babies don't think "Oh, I should stop. When I cry, she shakes me." Babies don't think much. If they want something, are wet, are hungry, have an upset tummy, or need coddling, they cry. That's all they can do.

I really hate it when i heard news like this. Where's the sanity of that horrible father. The baby shoud not be left alone on here own for a long time. They need a humans warmth to felt assured and comportable. No babies should suffer like this way again.

This is very sad and it angers me. This man should be punished to the fullest extent. Babies cry, you have to get used to it, and deal with it. And I also don't understand why he is trying to fight the charge. He has killed his own baby! I don't even know how he can even live with himself. I know the baby is in heaven and with God, but it still should've had a chance to live. That baby did not have to die, and my heart goes out to the mother.

Bady is very tender,and need more care?