Would you get angry at your child when...

I don't understand such parents. I think we have a right to be angry with them. They are just plain stupid. Every child cannot top or be good in something that the parent wants him to be. Accept them for what they are and also make an effort to see what they are good at and at least make an effort to encourage them. Parents should make their children trust them and not feel scared.

I agree with you 100%! I aways expected my sons to do their very best. So long as I knew it was their best, I was proud of them award or not. No one should ask for more than ones best effort.

Yeah that's true. I really don't expect high from my baby that's why she never seizes to amaze us with her new tricks. If she is great at school I'll be glad but is she is not I'll still try to appreciate her little achievements.

I don't think it's right for parents to get angry when their child doesn't receive any awards or honors. It is the parents' responsibility to teach and guide their children to grow and reach their full potential, but not to get angry if they didn't reach the parents' expectations. Of course, we all want our child to receive honors. If we want that, our children want it more because they want to make us proud. As a parent, i think we just have to continue giving our children all the support they need for them to have the confidence to make them believe that they can reach our expectations and even more. Whether they receive honors or not, as long as they are giving their best, i believe that they deserve a word of appreciation at all times.

Hi, is Recognition Day sort of a prize giving day for good academic or field results? We have seen parents who push their children to the limits on their academic or any results; the poor kids have to deal with loads of homework, and added to that, are their classes on art, music, dancing, language...whatever their parents feel that their children should take up. I feel that parents should provide guidance, motivation and love; not force or punish the kids for poor results. Some parents just can't accept that their kids are no good academically, or is it a matter of pride ?

As a parent,im not after to the recognition,awards or honors of school. The most important is if your child learns and understands lessons that teachers taught in schools.Recognitions encourage children to study harder and make parents happy.Recognitions sometimes is the cause of misunderstanding between teachers and parents,who want their child to be on top.

I know of parents who compare their children’s marks with their friends and the child is then judged by its performance. What a completely weird and wrong way of tackling a situation where a child itself is either feeling let down or left out because of not so good performance and on top of that, instead of comforting words from the parents, the parents are make the child feel all the more guilty. I have never egged my son towards awards or excellent marks. He is only 9 and he knows that he has to maintain an A in all subjects and that’s all…I am genuinely happy as I know that the time has not come for him to aim for the stars. Let him enjoy his childhood, once in high school he will automatically understand the values of awards and if then we feel that he has it in him, we will encourage him further.

I don't think parents should get angry with their child they may be trying as best as they could and alot of times it has more to do with the parents then with the child. If your child comes from a well structured home then the child will do better. Not saying that they have to have 2 parents they can only have 1 but it the parent is showing they care about them and their school work then they would do better at school and see that it is important. If they are constantly getting abused and their parents don't give a crap then why should they?

I think it is very inreasonable, if the child is trying their best, then why be upset with them. Awards and certificates don't determine how you parent or how smart a child is. I agree with you that some parents just go over board, and hurt their childs feelings with their high expectations. Parents should be supportive either way. All children learn in different ways, and it isn't necessary for them to recieve a certificate for a parent to know that their child is doing their best.

When my daughter was still on her elementary grade i used to guide her and join her in her study habits and even taught her anything they teaches in school.I used to scold her when she got low scores during examinations but then i realized that we can't force the child to do things beyond her capability.So i just accept whatever she was able to achieve.She was an honor student fron nursery until 3rd grade but after that she never recognized anymore until we moved here in the US on her 7th grade she was recognized again.

djoyce71, I do not get angry at my child when she does not receive any awards or honors on Recognition Day at school. I do feel quite sad though, but for her and the other kids that do not receive awards or honors, not myself. I have seen children cry because they really wanted a award or to be honored in some way. It is just heartbreaking to see that! I agree that kids should be awarded if they work super hard and make good grades but I do not agree with the schools making teachers choose one child out of the class to be awarded for good listener, neatness, most helpful, friendliest, etc. I know that there is more than one child in each class that is a good listener, neat, helpful and friendly. I feel that the teachers should be allowed to look at each child individually and choose their strongest point and give each child a award reflecting that. No child deserves to feel they are a nobody on Recognition Day. They each deserve to be recognized in some way to help build their self esteem and to encourage them to keep striving to do their best.

Hi The parents should not feel bad about the child not getting the award or honor.I think they are being unreasonble and demand too much from their kids.All kids have different attitude and capabilites.Their self-esteem takes a beating when they are constantly taunted that they are unable to win any award or recog.I am totally against parents demanding such things from their kids.

No I would not be angry, all I ask is for my child do the best that they can do. Sometime the standards are to high for a child to accomplish I can understand that, I am not perfect myself why should my child be. If my children do receive honors I would certainly be at the ceremonies to support them. I am one for giving my children memories that they can look back on and be proud.

This is a very good way to shame the child into believing that he is good for nothing. He will then, because he believes this, never get any sort of good recognition. If only parents could realize how much harm they can do to their children!

Absolutely not. I don't care if my child receives awards as long as my child is doing his best and working his hardest. His self-esteem and self-worth are more important than a a silly piece of paper. If he was upset that he did not get an award I would talk to him and try to make him feel better but I in no way would be upset or angry with him.

yes its there sometimes we get angry on our child n then remove all frustations on the child which is not right bt sometimes our child does some wrong things which makes parents to hit them or scold them which i feel is right. n i think first u have to make ur child understand things with love n effection n then use the step of scolding them. what do u feel on my comment do u have any suggestions? do u have children , if yes what u do in this kind of situations?

I think the parents are very unreasonable. It would be nice if the child has some awards or honors. But if the child didn't get any, I think the parents would just have to boost their child's morale and appreciate what the child has done best. But I couldn't speak for other parents though, those who have problem child/children, so I can't really understand them. If parents wanted their child to achieve but didn't get any recognition, then I think the parents should put the blame on themselves. At a young age, the parents should have done things to instilling the child/children some studying habits. When I was in grades 1-3, what I was made to do in preparing for examinations were study my notes then they'll give me a practice test after reviewing. It's really funny remembering those. I remember my mom and dad giving me those practice tests (written on yellow paper) and I'd hurry to turn on the TV after answering those. Those helped my top the class and the whole batch. But I didn't get any recognition on Elementary Graduation day because I wasn't able to do my best in grades 5 and 6. I also didn't get recognized during High school, but I did get a leadership award (hahaha, and a loyalty award ). My mom didn't get mad at me. We were still happy, because I know I did what I could. I didn't do my best though. But in college, I got distinction on graduation. It was sort of like 2nd honor for the whole batch. Maybe if a child is given a chance, he/she can prove him/herself later on if the parents give a chance and full support.

i agree with you, besides medals and honor wont determine a persons success. its their guts, and ability to deal with the situation that matters.

No, I do not get angry if my kids don't get awards. I expect my kids to do their best always, if their best is a c, I'm ok with it as long as it's a passing grade. I would rather have a hard earned c over an easy A, any day. However, if my kids are purposely slacking off, I will have a good talking with them and take away privileges like video games or friends coming over after school.