why do i feel like there's discrimination in myLot?

hi,Aniakim; i come here later than u ,anyway,it can be said i am "newer' than u . so i can understand the feeling of u.i sometime even have the same indea as u ,but now i realize,reasons may be as follows: 1.we haven't recognize friends as many as those "older mylot members",as a result ,we don't have stable response sources. 2.we don't know which kind of topic can intrest here mylotters and gain more responses believe me ,time can solve all of the problems.and we r on the way to become mylotters,everything will change better,right?

Hmmm....I don't know. I know my few started discussions didn't generate much traffic at all. But I've been jumping into other's discussions and the waters seem just fine there. Also the 1 friend request that I actually made hasn't been answered. That does make me wonder a bit. But I could start getting paranoid if my discussions continue to be virtually ignored. I've only been here 3 days though, so I'll wait it out and hope that it changes when I've been around a bit longer.

I don't see the discrimination as you have said, your profile page says you've been a member for a year so you are not really a new member, you just do not have a lot of activity. The more discussions you post and answer will get you more involved with other mylot members and help you get more friends too. I hope things pick up for you, do enjoy mylot, it is a great place to be.

First off I just don't like the word newbie.. new here or not, I just don't like the word it sounds degrading. I consider everyone on mylot equal.. whether others think this I don't know.. I think a mulotte is a mylotter no matter how long they been doing this and anyone who is not a mylotter just hasn't dicovered it yet or is just not interested. Hope this makes sense.

I got in with a group of members that have been here for a while. I have quite a good time. I'll add you as a friend okay. Hope you have fun.

its just my first day but i'll try not to be like that. i see something i want to respond to i will. if not i wont. i'll also try to start interesting discussions that people want to respond to.

I would say paranoid, but again, I've been apart of mylot for over a year and my attendance recently is pretty slim. I don't normally pay attention to who's posting what I just respond to the topics I find interesting. true, I did notice some people, maybe I argued with them about some type of issue or even agreed with them. I don't think people are purposely avoiding you. I'd say, just ignore the person actually and post what you think.

Oh that is so not true.I have been a member here for more almost 2 years and I just go with the everyday flow here at mylot. It doesn't mean because you are a newbie here older members are discriminating you..I actually don't care if your a newbie or oldbie. I just answer discussions..post discussions..add friends..check my earnings and that's about it. And take note I don't choose discussions I answer whatever discussion I see. I don't answer discussions that I really don't have the answer to..So don't think that way because nobody is discriminating anybody in here..There's no seniority in this kind of sites.

hi aniakim I think like all societies there are cliques here but mostly we are really nice people and if you keep responding,we will see your name aniakim and s ay I must respond to Aniakim as she is always responded to my discussions,also build up your friends list so you have your] own set of friends who will also respond to you. welcome, good luck and God bless

I'm a fairly new memebr and felt quite odd at the start as noone really responded to me. I've started a few discussions but only ever get a few responses at the mo'. It's getting better, I've found that when yu make friends with someone you are more likely to receive responses from them as the see what you have been saying in their sortie, so it's often the first list off discussions they see and respond to. I'm sure it will continue to get better, but in the meantime I've sent you a friend request and maybe this will help you get a better view of the site.

I honestly cannot say that I ever felt that way. I did feel lost at first not knowing my way around myLot, but I just kept looking for discussions I had some interest in, commenting on them and finally I ventured out and started a discussion of my own. I did feel a bit of pride when someone with over a thousand posts to their name responded to my discussion, and immediately requested friendship. I surfed around through the discussions seeing who was commenting and discussing things I was interested in and requesting friendship. It took a while to feel comfortable, but I never felt discriminated against.

My dear I think you are just being paranoid. There is no discrimination here as far as I could observe. The online relationship here does exist but newbies are always welcome to join. What do you mean that you can't seem to penetrate. The ways how to penetrate are in your very hands. If you post a discussion and not much responded, it is not because you are being discriminated. It is because your topic is not interesting to most of the Users. I myself will not respond to topic that does not interest me because that will not earn me anything if I can only contribute a one liner post. It is just a waste of time. Now if you can't seem to find the best topic that will attract people here then go to the discussions of others and participate. You are always welcome to participate. Nobody will bar you from doing so because each participation whether newbie or or oldtimers will always add up to the earnings of the Poster. In your discussions make sure that you are posting helpful and sensible information. Make it as long and substantial as you can so your reputation here will increase. Your success here is in your hand not on anyones. Now I encourage you from thinking negatively. Stick on your goal and go for it. I want to add you in my friend's list so that if you have a discussion that will match my interest I can always contribute. But of course if your post a topic where I have nothing to share you cannot expect me to respond either. Okay, I wish you all the best here. Cheer up and start posting. God bless!

Hi there! Well, when I joined mylot I never felt any discrimination at all or maybe I was just lucky to have gained friends easily. You said that the older lotters seem not wanting to mingle with new ones? Well why don't you mingle with them? Respond to their discussions and let them know that you are here. You can always have the access to respond to their discussions right? - so just feel free to share your views and interact. Everybody is welcome here in mylot. Ciao!

Aniakim, I don't think there is intentional discrimination. I think it is more normal relationship building. We each only have 24 hours in a day. Part of the responsibility we have to people that we have accepted as friends is to give them a "bit of ourselves." In MyLot this is our time, our comments and our replies. Summary: We don't have an infinite amount of time or energy. You were worried about not having people reply to your posts but look at how many people have taken the time to give you a bit of their energy.

i never feel like that since the first time i joined here... but i think it is very common for new people to feel like that everwhere... not only in mylot... they feel like a stranger and think that they can't get along with the older people... i feel like that too when i first join my church... but to be honest, it is only your feeling... it really depends on you... if you can be active enough and make friends with everyone here, you won't feel left out and discriminated... take care and have a nice day...

i think its quite natural in any forum. initially the old members will feel reluctant towards newcomers. may be as some just start sending referral links, this idea comes. But after you prove your worth, you are well accepted. I have seen that in my acse also.

well, i dont think it's really discrimination, ive felt that way when i was newer here too, but now i understand that they didnt mean to discrminate me then or something, it's just that people who have been here for sometime new each other and has done a lot if interactions which made them closer, it's not discriminating at all, it's like knowing the person and being familiar or acquainted with each other. it's not really hard to know people.. add a lot of friends and you just have to show up here more often, the more people get to read your name, that would leave and impression on their mind.. and also try to respond back to those who responded to your discussions, that how interaction is done here..

Well, i do not support your statement. Mylotters are one of the most friendly communities on the web. But sometimes it so happens that due to lack of activity from the part of new members they do not get noticed.

Hmmm...I wouldn't think so. When I first started here, I felt lost, trying to find my way - but there were myLotters who were willing to share info, and give advice. I've been here about 3 months - and I haven't seen this discrimination - maybe it's because the interests that you have are not similar to others. Like for me, I could only respond to discussions that I've knowledge of, or am interested in - so I think it's the same for everyone else! So have fun and keep posting!

Not really. I started 2 days ago. But so far those who have responded to my discussions have been very friendly and polite. I hardly feel any discrimination. Some coming from the older members as well. I dont think they meant to ignore you.