If someone breaks your stuff...

Hi dolce_vita78, If someone comes to my house and break anything by accident or otherwise, I would really be furious with them and really tell them off but I wouldn't expect them to pay for it after all it was an accident. Tamara

Stuff is just stuff. It is temporary. If it breaks then it was the end of its temporary time with you. The human body only needs food and shelter to exist the rest is nothing more then our greed driven need to have more then others. An object that holds memories from a friend or family member is nothing more then an object the memory is in your mind not in the object. You do not need it to hold that person dear to you. So why would a person risk the loss of a friend or loved ones respect over and object that is worthless. Our real value is based on that which is in your heart not in your home. That is not to say that if my Les Beardsley (a potter who has transitioned to the next life leaving a large legacy and objects with great monetary value)bowl where to get broken I would not be disappointed but to make a fuss and demand replacement is not going to bring it back or him back. While the bowl is of value to a collector it is also the last thing Les gave me before his transition but it is the memories of a wonderful man that I hold dear. So for me a moment of disappointment for the loss of an object holds much less value then the memory of the person who gave it to me and the value of the person who broke it. This exact topic is something that my Grandmother is struggling with. She has had to leave her home of 45 years as she cannot care for herself and it anymore. The memories in this home holds great value to her it is where my Grandfather transitioned, where they spent their last days together, where he built cabinetry and tables and chairs for her and us; but these are just memories and they are not physically part of the house they are in our minds and hearts. We are not losing him we are gaining Grandmas safety and the objects that can be removed and saved will be safely brought to those who can love them as much as they did. Someday those object may break but we will not loss his memories or the memories of Grandma or the memories of our lives in that house; those things will forever be in us.

Well it really depends on how that person broke my stuff. If that person has accidentally broken it and asked for a sincere apology then of course I forgive immediately. Otherwise if that person blames me for his or her carelessness in breaking my stuff then I would be mad. For example if that person blames me why I placed my stuff there then I would really be mad. It's not my fault alone if I placed my stuff there it is partly your fault too because you didn't look at it right? Fpr me as long that there is a sincere apology I am ready to forgive.

If it is an accident then i can't do anything about it and i would just feel sorry.I always try to avoid hurting other people's feeling so i might feel sad but i won't be mad whoever accidentally broke it.

If one of my valuable stuff break by someone, i would be get mad.I may feel so much angry specially if it has a memorable value.But that's an accident, you can hit or slap someone for it. It's up to him/her if she offer to pay it or replace it.SO next time, i will not going to display my valuable stuff to the place which someone can touch it.Cheers!

Well if they broke it on purpose heck yes i would be mad and make them pay for it and if they dident pay for it then thats when i hold a grudge against them. If it was an accident then i wouldent be mad.

I get very annoyed when people are careless around my things. I get x-trememly p!ssed off if something gets broken...even accidentally. If people had been careful in the first place.....I don't expect people to care about my things as I do. I don't expect them to read my mind as to how much my things mean to me but I do expect respect!! I expect people to look where they're going and to be careful. It's not like I have stuff everywhere and it's hard to manoeuvre around them...things get damaged or broken when people are careless and thoughtless and have no respect for people's belongings

I used to get really upset when something of mine was broken but over the years have realized that it doesn't matter if I get mad or not , if something is going to get broken in my household it is going to be something that belongs to me lol and although I am upset , I don't tend to get angry about it as I know it wasn't broken on purpose and getting mad is not going to change the outcome . It doesn't seem to matter if it is someone I am close to or not as the outcome is still the same so my reaction is the same as well .

If it was a complete accident then it would be very hard to be mad,but I see what you are saying,if it was a thing of great sntimental value then it may make you feel a little peeved.There have been things broken in our house,usually we just sweep the bits up and carry on as normal,there is little you can do about it,its gone its gone.

Hey Hey When my bother and me were kids were broke a few things that my mom loved . She never got mad or acted out . She did cry when my brother was bouncing a basket ball and it flew down the steps . It ended up traveling and bumping into a table where my mom kept her virgin mary statue . That was her sisters and from childhood and meant alot to her . My brother was grounded for the ball and not being more careful . With kids if it is an accident what can you do? Now that I am older I have lost things . Mostly because of a move, or being clumsy . My fiance broke a candel holder my gram gave me . I will admit i did yell, but then calmed down . One of my cats broke one of the first meaningful crystals my fiance gave me . I cried and cried! He felt so bad that a year later at xmas he bought me another one . Guess, what?? That broke too . I guess some things are not meant to be . I have some nice things, but nothing at a crazy price where i would freak out on someone . All the things that mean something to me are tucked away safe

i will kill that person who will break my stuff .. because when i am angry i don't leave that person ... lol

first of all i want to tell you, you have really good stuff to start your discussion and i liked your discussions and hence i reply them. now comming to the your discussion, i really feel angry if someone does that if its a someone not close to me i have to compromise and wear a fake smile on my face and just tell them its ok.and i can never expect them to pay. if its a very precious thing then unwillingly i have to tell them to compensate its even more better if they understand by themselves and compensate for the material. if the person close to me have did that then i can yell it him and remove my anger and he himself can realise what he has did is wrong. but if the person has did it by mistake and he never wanted to do it then i think i will surely be angry but i will realise it later and also understand that mistakes can happen from anyone and if its a precious thing atleast a part of it he have to compensate. if its happened from the children then we just cant do any thing and can only scold them. or just forget it.

Well i have experience it already but its not a friend of mine but my own brother! he had ruined my new cellphone which was given to me by my hubby. I was so angry at first but then i realized theres no point of crying over spilled milk. So i try to forgive and forget over that incident. It is pretty hard for me because it is a pretty expensive phone and it was ruined.

i will react according to the value of that thing in my life.if it is a very important thing i will feel great angry with him.also i will enquire in whether it happens by his mistake .. if it is i expect him to pay for it...and surely the reaction will be different to those who r close to me and are not.

it depends on how it happens... if it is an accident, then i won't say anything... you can't do anything about it anymore anyway... so there is no use in getting angry... but if it is done purposely, of course i will ask the person to pay for it... take care and have a nice day...

I will have to talk to him or her. I'd be rude enough if the one who broke it is a stranger and if that stuff is very special to me. As strangers, they should be really very careful in handling others' stuff. They should handle it with tender care.

My reaction will different between someone close and to close. If they breaks something really important i will get mad and i want them to get a new one. If by accident i will forgive but still need to give new one back.

Well I experienced that and yeah I get very mad because one of my friend broke my guitar that is really important to me because that was my first guitar since I learned it but then I found out that it's only a thing and nothing beats friendship so I just accepted his apologize because I know he didn't meant to break it.:-0 GOd bless and have a nice day..:-0

i dont care if he or she is my close friend cos friendship is more important than anything. if not,maybe i will ask for him or her to pay for it.

slap and let him or her replace it!