Would you give second chances?

everyone can make a mistake, so i think everyone deserves a second chance. if it's really needed, i will undoubtedly give the second chance. though i hardly forget things, especially hurting things, i can easily forgive who did those things - if she do that only once. well, we never know what will happens to the second chance we give. yet, forgiving is usually rewarding.

That depends on situation, if he do something unforgivable i would not going to give him a second chance, just looks like your giving him a chance to fool you again and break your heart again. once is enough.Happy myloting.

I think that in certain circumstances that it could be good practice to give second chances to. I have been given second chances by people. Some very significant and important people in my life have given me more than two chances and I am very grateful for it. Sometimes there are instances where a second chance shouldn't be given and it is up to each individual case how to handle it.

I don't really give second chances. Perhaps its because I'm pretty paranoid in relationships and I have the tendency to be more mentally critical than emotional during these moments and... The thing is, before breaking up, I make it a point to try everything to make it work. Everything. Or at least, everything we can think of. I try not to rush into things because I'm paranoid. And because I'm paranoid, I think about a lot of possible things that could occur with a major action, so a long, hard consideration is a must for me. Therefore, when a break up happens, it's because there are certain problems in the relationship that cannot be overcome by a mere change in character or taking care of a bad habit. It's not something like I hate the smell of smoke or my partner gets irritated with my jokes. It's more that we have different fundamental ideals that we can't let go of without changing major parts of our character, or something more traditional; a difference in culture or how we were raised. I think I can be more lenient when I'm in love, but one thing I will really never give a second chance to is cheating. Because if I was cheated once, I firmly believe I can be cheated again, even if I forgive or forget. So while I might accept the person again in the future, there will never be a relationship in those terms again. (hopefully, this doesn't sound harsh, haha!)

I believe everyone deserve a chance to resolve and make amends to whatever mistakes that he/she have done.No matter what the depth of the mistake, people needs to be given other chance.We are human ands are bound to make mistakes, so if you are stretching someone today for a mistake, you never can tell when you will also be tempted and failed.

My dad used to tell me this statement (I do not know where it originated from) Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on ME. Basically, if someone does something rotten to you once, it's all on them, but the second time around, you really need to assess the situation and get away from it if necessary. I have always forgiven and given second chances, but when someone is unwilling to change and they keep messing up your life because of their attitude, then it is time to move on from them, even if you forgive the mistake. So yes, second chances are wonderful, and I give them regualarly, but repeated chances over and over again is pushing it.

i will definitely give second chances... we are all human beings and we do make mistakes... that's what i had been doing to my hubby all these times... giving him chances over and over again... i think if we really love somebody, we have to learn to forgive and forget as well... take care and have a nice day...

All cannot just live without commiting mistakes in their own lives and its really impossible for a human to live so, sometimes even we commit mistakes and just learn from our mistakes even we just do the same mistake repeatedly so its good for a human to forgive another human and live happily if the other person is taking too much advantage of you for being lenient its better for us to move out

I personally give second chances especially if it is well deserved. We all screw up once in a while so we owe anyone who screws up a second chance. About 3rd or more chances after wards it would depend on the situation and the person.

JannaLee yes I do believe in a second chance, but not a third or fourth, whats with this ideal man,are you referring to a significant other who is not willing to give you a second chance, make it clear for me please?

Most definately! We are all human and we all make mistakes. I tend for forgive over and over again. Depending on the situation I think about the incident and usually forgive. Trust is hard to gain back but it can be done. With some people it's never ending and sometimes it's best to cut ties. But after a half dozen times I can't say I can forgive. Becca

I think give a second to everyone that had ever made mistake with us is relevant. Because to make as a friend is better than make it into enemy. So if someone want the second chance from me I will give. But if he/she make the mistake again. I won't give him/her any chance but I still count him/her as my friend. Keep post happy myLotting...

It is a case to case basis. I wouldn't say i will always give 2nd chance. If the person is worth giving the 2nd chance i would but if the person have done so many mistakes while we are still in the relationships then theres no point of a 2nd chance. Sometimes when you love someone your exerting so much effort just to save the relationship. But there is a saturation point as to what extent you can forgive and give a person a chance. Sometimes when you let your emotions make decisions you are often abuse by the one you love. They think it is fine to commit mistakes since you will forgive them anyways. So as much as possible i see to it that the person is really worth fighting for and the relationship is worth saving.

of course..all ppl make mistake in their life and they can have 2nd chance for them to change it..if me..i hope there was 5 chance for me..coz i need get it perfect..if u broke...dont glue it..just buy it new for them..much better...like the word say "u break it, u pay" dude..hehe

never give a second chances to my wife i just remind her if she do something wrong, but for my employee i always give third chances if they still do wrong i give them letter to quit.

it seems you have very good idea. but i guess all do not have a heart so bigf. if that person breaks up with cheating and in bittersense, its not always possible to forgive and give chance.

It depends on the situation. If such thing caused me a big problem, it probably would take some time to heal the wounds. I actually forgive and give second chances. It's just that I make it a point that the person will really feel that the other chance I'm imposing is really worthy of him or her.

Nothing could ever be the same even when you give second and third chances. I realize this to be such. Every day we are given a chance to change ourselves and consequently change our lives, this is inherent in life. We seldom take this chance to change and we expect people to accept us the way we are without our ever even taking the time to change ourselves for the better.

i'm one of those very fortunate people who gave and received a second chance. i had not had a serious relationship for many, many years. i met john and was attracted to his looks, same age as me, his sense of humor. but, i was so used to being a single woman that it was difficult to mesh my life with his. i was so used to being independent. i chafed at compromise. we broke up for about 3 or 4 months. it was awful as he was my best friend, too! i spent time talking to myself. making a list of pros and cons. gave myself permission to compromise. gave myself permission to allow some one close to my heart again. i had to forget the past mistakes i'd chosen for relationships. on valentine's day, i sent him an e-card. we are soon to be in the two year marker. it is a very stong relationship. i look forward to every phone call and every day. we've both been married and divorced twice. i have no distinct plans for the future. i'm just enjoying the journey. whatever happens; happens.

Of course, I will always give second chance. Nobody is perfect. It would be unfair if I will not give because in my case I will ask for a second chance. But if I will not be given a second chance then it would be OK. That's life. We have different attitudes. In my case second chance still may be extended. I am too considerate. I know this is not good.