How to deal with shyness?
By likaes
@likaes (496)
Singapore
September 12, 2008 8:28pm CST
I'm sure some of you have experienced shyness before? What's your best way of dealing with it so it doesn't get in the way of your life?
I think some people are just shy because they think too much.
Do you just go all out and do it, somehow, and not think of the consequences?
Or do you have some other way of dealing with this?
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5 responses
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
13 Sep 08
When I was a little girl I was so shy I used to hide even from my relatives in an outside loo with no light and I was terrified of the dark so that is shy...I think it is just a case of being so unsure of yourself, I had no confidence in myself at all...but it just took one person to come into my life, someone special, he lifted me by having faith in me and gave me that confidence I needed...i think it just takes someone to show you , you can do anything...
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
13 Sep 08
I think what you have to remember is most people even the confident ones are really a little shy inside but some are good at covering up..take a lot of celebrities, you will find are really shy but they are very good at putting on an act...
The person who helped me was a singer and musician and was in his younger days a very popular performer, on stage he was outrages, wild and had thousands of girls screaming after him but when I met him I soon found out it was all a cover because he was so shy .... I think you you think about making other people feel good in your company you automatically lose the shyness...
@failsafe_o5 (103)
• United States
13 Sep 08
i was a very shy person... actually i really still am only i've learned to fake it. and i guess i fake it well.
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
13 Sep 08
I think you're one of those people who just try and overpower their shyness through force of will. I've tried that a few times, but sometimes it doesn't work as well for me. Although it has worked, and I'm able to get rid of my shyness for a fleeting moment. Though if people ask me questions I break down =/
@lucy67 (819)
• China
13 Sep 08
i think the main reason for one's shyness is that he cares too much about others opinions about him. if he is more confident and doesn't care what others will say, he can feel better. but shyness belongs to one's character, so it's not so easy to change it.
@katkat (2378)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
I’m a shy person with strangers or people I don’t know very well but with the people I know I’m not a shy person. I force myself to talk to my classmates, especially the ones that not my friends. I tried to socialize with them to overcome my shyness. I start to talk to other people in my Architecture Department about professors and subjects. It’s not much caused I’d still feel shy whenever I approached someone but at least I beginning to overcome it. Socializing is a great way to overcome shyness.
@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
13 Sep 08
I hear you. Shyness makes you miss out on a lot of fun. It's really inconvenient. I'm trying to overcome mine. Try to rationalize your fears, ask yourself why your stomach is tightening and you feel like you're make of marshmallows. Why?
It also helps to stop thinking and just say what you want to say and do what you want to do, and do it quickly so you don't get a chance to get nervous. You're more capable of overcoming it than you think, once you start to overcome it, it gets better and better.
