Have you ever thouht of adopting?

I have thought of adopting many times but never have for the main reason I woudldn't be able to adopt a child as it cost so much to adopt . Although I never did adopt I did have the privildge to help out another child . I have four children of my own and took in a teenager when her own family didn't want her to live with them anymore . We kept her til she was of legal age to be on her own and although this was not a long period of time she will always be considered a member of our family . She is a very sweet and special person and I do accept her as one of my own even though she has a mother out there that she still see's . When she needs something she comes to see me the same as one of my other children would and when she needs a mother figure I am there for her . She had a problem with the bank last week and I called as her mother to help her out . She is too old to adopt as she is a young adult now but I did what I could for her and will always be there for her the same as if I had adopted her . If I were to ever win a lot of money I would really consider adopting even though I have five children and am getting up there in age . The idea to be able to give a child a home that they can always call their own to me is one of the nicest things we could do for a child without a home :)

My wife brought this subject years ago. I do question the reasons behind why people want to adopt. Is it because they are childless and want a baby to enrich their married life? Or is it because they want to give another chance to a child instead of living her or his life in a child institution? One of my colleagues adopted a child from another country. She refused a dark tanned baby and her reason that in our country he will suffer of racism. I have criticized her mentality. Adoption is not like shopping for a new car. But on the other hand she is right that adopting a child of another colour or race might be a disadvantage for the child. I do have mixed feelings on this subject.

We have one daughter. She had been wanting a sibling. So my hubby and I looked into adopting. We signed up for information. We received a few packets and a phone call. But shortly thereafter we discovered we were pregnant. We have not pursued it further at this point. Trying to concentrate on the new babies arrival. I think most families that adopt are just glad to be blessed with a child.

Hello, I would adopt a child if i was not able to have one . even if i can have a family of my own i would think of adopting kids from all over the world . i would love to have so much cdifferent culture in my life . there are so many kida out there that need a good home

For me before ready to move from being to adoptive parents, you will be sure. I'm not sure because I'm still find about decided to make this type of commitment for the sake of the child that is involved and the whole family members. One thing important for me this way is not easy but the process can change the life of everybody involved for good. This may be the point in life time where you realize how important your role as an adopted parent is.

I hope you don't mind me posting because I'm not planning on adopting, but I am a mother whose son was adopted and since then, I have spoken to many adoptive parents, adoptees, and first parents like myself. Most APs I've spoken to have said they love their adopted children as much as their bio children (or love them completely and unconditionally like they would a bio child if they had one.) Most people will not adopt if they feel like they can not love that child the same way. I'm not sure what you mean by abandoned children. Are they in foster care? Most infants are not abandoned at all and are very loved and wanted by their first parents. At any rate, I'm glad that you feel good about doing something nice for these children, but children should not be adopted as a charity case. It puts too much pressure on them to feel grateful, like they owe their parents something, etc. Finally, please remember that in order to be adopted, that child lost his first parents. The truth is, adoptees have two sets of parents. That is their truth. People that can understand/accept that may not be ready to adopt. I hope I answered your question and gave some insight into the complexity that is adoption/

We have two boys and plan to adopt a little girl a couple of years from now (our younger son is just 22 months old and we want to wait a bit). My neighbour has a child the same age as our older son (8 years) and they are going to adopt another girl. I don't think that there will be any less love or affection for an adopted child....from my part. If I can think of the students in my class as my own children, then why not a child I adopt? It depends on each person and how they think and feel about this issue.

I have thought about such a scenario and think that to be natural. It is good to have one child own and then to adopt a child. Of course, there are some conflicts which arise as whether you might be partial to own child compared to adopted child. Whether you will have the same affection for the adopted child or not. Those are the conflicts you need to face and overcome for this endeavor to be successful. Cheers! Ram

I thought of adopting a child before a son was born to me. But after the birth of the son I did not think about adoption, but it is a good idea. God lives in every child and one who adopts a child will actually be serving God through the child! Is he not?

I have 6 children, all boys. I would love to have a girl one day, so I have thought about adoption in order to have one.

I had always wanted to adopt a child. I am the only child of my parents and I had pestered my parents to atleast adopt a sibling for me, but they didn't heed my idea. So, I thought atleast I should adopt a child and care for him/her. My husband also had this idea. But our families did not favour the decision. So, we abandoned the idea but we are doing some other things like sponsoring children's education in shelter homes and such. That is the least we can do now.

I'm not against adopting but I don't see myself raising someone else's kid in the future. I will onl consider it if I have a fertility problem and there's nothing else I can do to conceive a child of my own. Otherwise, I really can't. A dog I can adopt, but not a baby. I would always know that he or she wasn't mine and so I wouldn't love him or her completely. WHich is unfair for the child, because he or she definitely deserves better than what I can give.

Yes i have thought of adopting. When hubby and I got married it took us 4 yrs to have our son, after the first year of trying, we discussed and looked into the idea of adoption. The only reason we never did start the process was we knew our chances were slim to be approved because of our financial sitatuation. Fortunately someone up above seen that we had a lot of love to give to a child and finally allowed us to get pregnant.

its great attitude great people will have such thoughts, but it is not easy as you think.

I have two adopted children. They were no different than their little brother, who came later. We love them just the same. Contrary to popular belief, there are not many children available for adoption. For that reason, I would say leave these available children for the childless to adopt. Another way to go , if you really want to help children, is foster care. These children are in limbo and need a good stable family life. Sometimes they can be adopted later on. good luck and thanks for wanting to help children. They need people like you.

Yes I have discussed it several times with my partner. We already have a child of our own and my wife was willing to adopt another child. If you are a good parent you won't make a distinction between your natural child and your adoptive child.

My husband and I always said that we would adopt my neice if something ever happen to her mom b/c she does some crazy stuff and we wouldn't want her to leave the family even though now she doesn't really want to be part of the family. The things her mother is teaching her and how she gets treated she will probably end up pregnant at a young age. Not really.

We never considered adopting as we have had four children but we use to foster which was very interesting and rewarding. You soon got fond of the children you foster and it is sometimes a wrench when they have to go back

Yes, I'm thinking of adopting....not for me though, my sisters, BECAUSE THEY'RE BOTH TAKING THEIR SWEET TIME TO HAVE A BABY!!! They're both recently married and I just REALLY want a niece or nephew. We even joked about how if they wait any longer, I'd have to be a surrogate for them! ha ha.

I have recently thought a lot about adoption. My husband and I are currently sponsoring a child in Equador and it has been a wonderful experience. I have given birth to 4 beautiful children. They are my life. I have always loved children and love being a mom. My 4th child was born 10 weeks premature and I made a decision to get my tubes tied so as not to risk losing another child. It was a heartbreaking experience during my son's first year of life. He was 2 months old before he ever came home from the hospital, has permanent lung disease, and had endured 3 surgeries before he was a year old. However, now, he is 2 1/2 years old. I find myself wanting another child more and more everyday. I know that I cannot give birth to anymore children, but think more and more about adoption. I do not think that I would treat an adopted child any differently and would love them just the same as my other children.