What's wrong with being polite?

Do people draw a line, when it comes to being polite? When they pay for something or are in a relatively better of position socially or at the work place or sometimes within the family . This is what i have tried to ascertain from this discussion. You certainly do not think that way and freely express your acknowledgement and politeness. It's the way to be. At work your politeness will certainly earn you the respect of your colleagues and most definitely will help in calming those around you. If your friends think that you are being too sugary, then this question is directed to them. What indeed is wrong with being polite ?Is it that people take you for granted ? That some people will always do. Being aggressive or over assertive only distances you from people and gives you a false sense of earning respect and surety. Thanks for the great response as always.

I do agree that a lot of the seemingly impoliteness, the egoes, the false pride...become more evident when some people climb the social ladder in terms of affluency and power. What is more disturbing is the fact that many young people today create and inculate that attitude delibrately with the notion that one can get to this status by being over assertive and impolite. How wrong they are. They most definitely need help. Redefining codes of conduct within the new generation by different means of expressing it is fine as long as we also learn to adapt and not forget the ways of the old. It does sometimes happen that this shrug or a word of slang expressing gratitude by a youngster of today may be wrongly interpretted by an elderly person. This is one great analysis Mimpi and thanks again for helping me as well to understand this metamorphis.

Thanks Alok for your inspiration. Being polite and at the same time being assertive is really tough. It requires a great strength of character and personality to do that actually. We should always try to reach there. Alok, as I was responding, I got an opportunity to analyze the metamorphoses pf code of conducts over the years (Courtesy: you ). Correct me if I am wrong. 1. In old times, in the age of my grandfathers, politeness, as in verbal and physical dispositions, was but so normal. People were generally decent and they would go beyond their means to make someone feel special. 2. Then came a generation where people were more or less polite in verbal terms if not in manifesting it otherwise. They would be polite and kind with Thank yous and My pleasures ....but intrinsically they would not mean it. 3. The present generation has redefined the codes of conduct. I have friends and cousins belonging to a much younger generation who would not say anything like that. May be only a smile or a shrug or whatever would suffice. And strangely, others of their generation pick up the vibe instantly. They are smart and different. This may not be taken in right spirit by the elders. But it’s their unique way of showing gratitude and a new way of the generation. 4. Then there is one category, constant and unvarying with their lack of manners to the extent of being rude and uncivilized. This is mostly the affluent class who thinks they can get away with it outright! This insensitive and coldheartedness attitude is gross and by and large affects the society. And I think you hinted at that in your discussion. Its offputting to see the spoiled brats with the infallible indulgence from their elders who are no less boorish. They think of no ends of themselves! I think they need help.

It takes a lot to control one's temper and be humble. Once one reaches this stage being polite becomes so much easier and means more. The important thing is to be polite irrespective of the postion and i am glad that you are this way. Thanks Dpk and have a wonderful day.

Yes, it requires lots and lots of maturity and patience to be 'polite', I agree with you. Have a great day to you too!

Thanks again Dpk.

I did check the link Bala and the admiration and respect for your thoughts is most certainly there. I'm glad we have this wavelenth.

Likewise friend.

Being assertive and polite at the same time. Not easy, but works best. Thanks Lingli.

Thanks James. I'm being polite here. . As a common courtesy being polite to everyone is something i do agree with totally. But as you have said, in position or power people do tend to put aside the politness for reaons being indifference, rudeness or more. Money too at times takes away the politness. People do at times think that by paying someone for something or for a service rendered, the politeness can be dispensed off with.

Undoubtedly, Being polite does enhance one's personality. Thanks for the response.

It certainly seems to be that way today. Being polite and extending courtesy is something the younger generation of today seem to think as weakness. Thanks

It certainly is the best policy. Thanks for the response

Being polite certainly earns you the respect of people around you. As you say one can also expect politeness and respect in return. Thanks for the response.

I would most certainly agree. What a a great world this would be if everyone was polite and considerate. Thanks

Thanks for the response.

Absolutely Munchkin. You will recieve the respect and couteousness of people in return for your politeness. Thanks

"Sissy":- Now people who call you that need to learn a thing or two about what being polite means. Itis a special feeling of getting a smile or a thank you in return on your expressing it. Thanks for sharing your views.

What you say is true. Thanks for the response.

It certainly helps you gain respect and i would more than often try to get to know the person better, and it for this reason and your politeness that i have sent you the friend request. Thanks and have a wonderful day.

A lot of people sure do need to be kind and considerate. Thanks

"When something is your right"- One could take an example of being in a postion of power ,like your subordinate hands you a report or a document that he is supposed to give you. Nothing wrong in being polite here is what i feel. Thanks

I agree your views as well. Politeness can help you win over people. Thanks and have a great day.

Yes, we do tend to keep away from people who are rude. Thanks

I like the saying. Thanks for it.There is nothing wrong with feeling good and being polite can indeed be contagious and change the mood of people around you. Have a wonderful day.