Is this considered an threat?

Im going to be honest here and no id have to disagree with others....If he was a real father he would ahve taken the money for one and two if he'd steal money from his own child then he'd do it to anyone. and not to mention it takes a REAL man to say yes i took the money. It wouldnt have to go as far as going to the police if he'd jsut give the money back. Family is one thing yes but stealing from your family is another. To be honest if i was in your situation id give him 1 week to give me my money or put it in the mailbox and after that it would be done with however if he choose not to id take him to court faster than he could blink. Sounds mean but you know what the truth is the truth. Everyone says bloods thicker than water but not all familys are peachy king and everyone has problems but stealing is a big problem.

cream do you know for sure that the guy you went to see is'telling you the truth? is your bond with your father'good enough that you would know if he is the one lying? One or the other is lying to you so you need to know which one it is? Has your father lied to you before? i dont know why he should get mad at you unless maybe he is telling the truth and the other guy did lie to you.this seems really tangled but I do not know your dad like you do either. Why not just ask your dad for that amountof money without any threats of anykind, jus say dad I need x number of dollars, if you can buy me a trailor then you can pay me this x number of dollars. if he will pay you then just let it go dont make an issue and dont ask for anything more from him. seems he is not on good terms with you, is he?

He is getting angry because it is his way of making you feel like the bad guy. He is trying to put the blame on you. Did you ever get a receipt? if not then you will not be able to go to the police because you have no proof. They may talk to him for you and try to reason with him but they cannot press charges to get your money back. I sincerely hope he gets a clue and just gives you your money back before he ruins your relationship hun. Hugs and good luck.

He must be nuts. He is trying to escape the situation. And turning it all around with you. He needs a help by specialist. So he will be back on his senses.

I dotn know if i would run to the police with this quite yet. It is family, and though we dont always get along with them, we need to try to work things out without getting the law involved, otherwise the relationship can and usually will be permanently damaged. Your main question was "is this considered a threat" well it does sound like a threat, but i have a saying, if i really mean something when i say it.."its not a threat, its a promise" its a threat only if u dont follow through.

Unfortunate thing happened. I watched a lot of court shows wherein a daughter sues her father, a relative sue each other. Very very sad when the other party don't admit that they borrowed money and promised to repay the other party. As your case, too many people are involved. You need to settle everything first with your father with no other people around. Just between the two of you. If your father denies any money he borrowed from you then better take him to court. If you have any written promissory note which your father had signed that he indeed borrowed money and had specified the date when he will repay you, then you will definitely win the case. But, if there's no note, only verbal agreement between the two of you and there's no witness of handing of money to your father, then better kiss your money goodbye. The sad part on this situation is your relationship to your father is being tarnished. It's up to you if you want to rekindle your father-daughter relationship. Hope you will find a way to get through this.

If your father stole your money that is the issue and he needs to give it back to you not give it to someone else. Getting someone else involved leads to confusion, as it apparently has. He said he gave it to him for you and the guy said he doesn't know what your dad is talking about...this leaves you hanging. In a way it does, unless your dad can produce a receipt for the man having the money then he still owes you. Take proper actions to get your money, like send him some dates letters and make copies for yourself, any phone calls write them down and what was said and by whom, also the dates. If it is not paid, take him to small claims court. If this is what it takes to get your money it may have to be done. It doesn't really matter how they perceive a phone call from you, he acknowledged owing the money and needs to pay it. Unless he does want further actions taken against him, right? You need that money. You may have to find out from your court system what the limit is on how much you can retrieve from small claims court. It is different in different states. Some it's $1500, yet others up to $5,000. Having as many written papers on your side and things to prove your case is best for you. Like he was the only other person in the home besides you and your children at the time that could have taken it, the conversations with him and his wife as to the return of the money, the fact that he said he was giving the money to someone else for you, anything that will help you prove he took your money. Especially a paper trail showing you tried to get it back and him saying he would get it back to you, or phone calls taped, or text messages saying he will get it back to you. Save everything. The best of luck to you dear. We have all I think had family steal from us, it's not pleasant at all. it puts us in a precarious position. They have to learn they can not take advantage of us.

I would say take that guy with you and both of you go to your father. You cannot go to your father alone because he taking advantage of you. What you need to do is to get this guy to go with you and he will tell your father that he never gave him the money. That trailer bit is an excuse. Your father never intended to give back the money to begin with. If you can find witnesses to the transaction then that would help. I doubt if it will stand up in court unless you have a paper trail.

don,t get upset you did nothing wrong he owes you and he needs to pay i know you hate to go to the police on him to get him to pay you, but if this is the only way you can get your money and get peace you do what you have to do. see people don,t remember when you have done them a favour they forget and like you said get mad at you don,t worry it,s going to be ok. have a bless day.

[i]Hi cream, Maybe he is just defensive about it...I am so sorry about this, I know you're in a tough situation and just disappoint also with your dad, he is supposed to be the first person who will support you and never put you in a situation like this... ANyway, I hope he will realize that he is very unfair to you now and wish his wife will also advice him to act like a father![/i]

First off, the police is not who you would need to contact. Yes, in a sense he 'stole' money from you, however, you handed him to the money to pay this other man, correct? So the police would not see it has theft. You could take him to court over it, but I'm thinking the court cost would be more than what he owed you, of course if you won, he might have to also pay court cost. But, in order to do that and win, you would have to have documentation, a receipt from you father for the money he gave you, a canceled check, etc. Would the man that was supposed to have received the money from your father testify to that fact? I know that from you discussions, your father, for whatever reason took advantage of you, and used the money for something else than what it was intended for. You may be better off just letting it go, but let your father know that unless or until he at the very least is honest with you in what happened or returns the money you will have no contact with him. Tough, yes, but it may just be what it takes.

As so as you said " I will give him six days to come up with the money and if not then you will take further actions." That is a threat right there. I think in this case your father is right that you really can't prove anything and the police are not going to do anything about it. However your best bet is to take him to small claims court but even then you have to prove that you gave your father money which is going to be hard if you didn't get a receipt. Also you will also have to pay a court fee and with the money that you did give your father is it really worth it? I suggest you just take your losses and forget about it. Let this be a lesson to you not to give your father money and always have a paper trail of the money that you give out.

Sadly, I have to say, it really looks like you dad is the one who took it, not the guy he supposively handed it off to. I know you can't afford to, but personally I would count it as a lesson learned and move on, forget about the money and my father. Obvioulsy, he has not your best interest in mind. As it is, no it was not a thread you made, just an ultimatum, a notice of legal actions in his future, if he doesn't pay you your money back. $90 don't buy a trailer. Doubtful he will buy you one. It's just another excuse. Really sad to be used by ones own father like that. Been there, done that, with FIL. My husband was devastated. When my FIL finally came to his senses, he made amends, apologized and paid us back double and triple. I think he still feels guilty about it. I think until your father ultimately understands what he has done has ruined his relationship with you and his grandkids, and with everybody involved, that it was something terrible to do in the first place but especially bad when ones own kids are involved, may then he'll try and set things right. Until then, forget about him.

i had something kind of like this happen to me but i cant go into detail about it.. its crazy how people tend to find threats in something that has nothing to do with it..

well, even if this is considered as a threat, so be it... i'm sorry to say but your father is really acting like a jerk and he is really mean to steal money from his own daughter... so i think that you are doing the right thing... if he doesn't return you the money within the specific time that you had given him, then just take him to court... i don't know whether you can win though unless you have evidence and witnesses to back you up... good luck... take care and have a nice day...

I'm confused...but let me tell you what I understood..Yes you sounded like you were threatening your father. Why would you call the police against your father? He is your father right? How big is this money if you don't mind me asking that you will do this to your own father. I would never do that to my dad even if he owed me loads. Maybe if you both talk with each other calmly you might get a solution to your situation without having to fight. Tell him that you just need your money back because of your purpose for it maybe if that's the way you handle it maybe he will sort it out. Sorry if I seem to offensive..I just have very high respect with my parents and so does people here in our country.We don't do that to our parents. I just wanted to understand your situation. Take care and I hope this gets settled soon.

Yes, it is considered a threat. Basically saying "or else" in any manner is considered a threat. It seems rather hard to believe that one more person is now against you by taking your money - your own father? Wow, talk about a dysfunctional family. Don't any of you actually talk things out like normal people? Or does everyone just talk "at" each other, never really resolving any problems?

Really. Don't get mad at each other. You are family. If things get worse you would really regret one day. As far as possibly settle thing amicably. God bless.

woh....either u have crappy parents or a lying boyfriend..no offense..but isnt there some legal action you can take?