Anger and hate eat you up from inside

I have learned over time that it does me absolutely no good to hold a grudge. i have a few people who have enraged me for one reason or another. The way I deal with those people is to just cut off all communication with them, and move on with my life. If they call, I ignore the phone, if they send me an e-mail, I do not respond, if I bump into them on the streets, I turn away. Just eliminating those people from my life has given me more peace. Holding on to anger will only hurt you. Chances are, these people don't give it a second thought. They are moving on with their lives. Why should you let anyone have that kind of hold on you?

Oh once a upon a time something like this happened to me, but it was in the work place. And yes, the stress of it can make you mentally and physically sick. I just spiraled downward and I was not a happy person anymore. I was sucked into her negative world and it was hard to battle. Sometimes I still battle the scars it left on my self esteem - although I hide it well. I had to let go of it the hatefullness, loneliness, helplessness, bitterness and all the other negatives. It's not an easy thing, but if you don't make an effort, it will never go away. I just kind of woke up one day and said, hey, this isn't me, where did I go? And started the journey back.

I do not hate people but hate the wrong things they do to the society and when they spoil mood by doing some thing wrong it hurt me and to get rid of I leave the place for a while and keep my self busy in one or the other activity and after these memories are faded I am normal again. I do not keep the hate and anger permanently with me because I do not want to be eaten by the anger and hate from eternal.How you see it please comment and have a nice day.

Hi Klaudine, these are negative emotions, and can affect you badly - not only emotionally, but also physically. Sometimes it can make you lose focus on the important things of life; and takes away your enjoyment in life. So I've learned not to let these experiences crowd me or rent unnecessary space in my heart. It's not easy; I find it hard to forget a bad experience, but I am able to forgive. Forgetting will take some time. Your life is worth more than this - learn to enjoy life and slowly let go of these unhappy times! Take care !

before i use to get angry more and i use to get so irritated that i use to shout on others but after my marriage i could realise and learn lessons. we get pampered at our parents place and we take advantage i feel and after my wedding i need to adjust with everyone i had to face some difficulties of family too and i really learnt what life is and i started adjusting to it and from then i even started controlling my anger and i had to do it as compromise plays a big role in a wedded life. and from then i just try to adjust all things and i really feel sometimes life is just to adjust. and i really dont feel like keeping anger on anyone and i just forget it and avoid it. its very difficut but i do it but one thing which is even more difficult is to see the person again and again whom you get angry on.

I think it is possible to make you sick.. But I think it would make you mentally sick.. But not physical.. Have a nice day..

i had that feeling, and maybe i still do but i just rationalize it. you are right, anger really consumes your entire being , and worst is whe you look back once the tide is gone, you wouldn't realize the aftermath once u saw what is left behind. its normal to experience anger , hatred and resentment, we afterall are bound to experience those emotions. its up to us how we manage ourselves within and after the storm. its nt really easy to experience negative feelings and thoughts. i too had had my own share or maybe stil has.

Dear klaudine, how you doing? Well, as you know, I am just living the life as an optimist. Its not difficult for me now, well, there are strikes of anger but not hatred any more... I do love to live life happily without holding grudge... I have had many ups and downs, but I stopped holdiing grudges... I tell to myself - "Am I so free enough, don't I have to do anything important rather than wasting time after thinking this rubbish?" And then everything else turns on to be important, and I am able to shed off the anger... Its all the same, but its all different. Am I a bad thinker? I don't know, but atleast I am able to shed off the anger and hatred this way.... and anyways, these days, it has been so hectic that I am not able to think of hating any one, I just don't find time to do that. In fact, at work, I just cant remember to hate someone or feel anger for someone. I am trying to even shed off the momentary impulses that I have had at times... Well, wish me luck! lol... Just enjoying life to its fullest... and making a longer and happier thing! By the way, have you selected BRs for the last topics of yours... You must do that, I am waiting...

Hi , sometimes letting go of something frees the soul . yet sometimes the pain and hurt is too deep down that you just have to try to forget and maybe sometime later on in life forgive . I like to find the reasons a person did what they did and that makes it easier . I am sorry for anyone who was hurt and it is ok for a bit to be that hurt you are or not wanna be involved with a person .

Dear klaudine, You have understood that keeping the anger and hate eat you from inside. So why let you be eaten having know the cause of it? Yes, there are and there have been people like that for me also. I will keep my anger for them for certain instances. But I will not keep it for a long time. I just forget it because it harms me only. Virtual world is not a real world. You don't know who I am. It is good to learn but it doesn't give the comfort where a good friend of yours could give.

I think that anger can take a lot out of someone. It takes a lot from the person's life and can cause disruption. I don't feel that it is very healthy for an individual to harbor too many feelings of hatred and anger. It can eat you up inside and you won't be able to function because of the crippling effects. I find that I just try to forgive and move on. I like to focus on constructive instead of mulling over yesteryear's hurt and animosity.

Oh yes, I certainly have, many times! I'll give you one memory of mine: See everyone though I was somewhat shy throughout my school years, I'm not really a shy person at all when you get to know me, I just wasn't interested in what everyone was doing or talking about at times, that's all i.e. i may see a group of straight up ghetto black kids who seem very rough and are discussing a Lil' Wayne album or whatever, I love rap but I don't like what's out in the late 2000s and I absolutely can't stand Lil' Wayne and the roughness is a definite turn-off for friend potential. So one day in high school, I just came back from the principal's office because he wanted to talk about my grades (I was in a very bad and mentally draining relationship with someone who was bipolar and that distracted me from school at the time), I was on my way back to class and I was just straight up depressed and upset. So this big fat black girl who was the LOUDEST one in school and had the most friends said out loud: "Aw, Look, he's so quiet!" I so wanted to knock my fist right through her forehead and crush her worthless excuse for a mind/person that she was. UGH! But yeah, I get what you're saying though. It makes you want to become the next Adolf Hitler and not punish by people's race but by what people have done to you.

Well forgiving a really bad person is really hard...and I really hate a person whom I don't even know.... well what should I do? I'm a friendly person but yet still there are people who dislikes me and I don't know why... Its really nice to hear once you forgive, you forget all the things you done him wrong....I'm proud that your such a nice person....GodBless

I know how you feel.... sometimes people do stuff that makes you so angry, but you don't say or do anything about it and it starts to eat inside of you. I'm not trying push religion on you or anything but when something bad happens to me, like you I sometimes keep it inside but then I pray about it or just leave it up to god. This might not sound logical but it helps to clear my mind and I feel the some of the weight of it come off. When I do that it seems like things always get better.

yes I have, but the strange thing is after years I actually forgot about what they did. I usually put them on ignore or just moved out of the place so even if I forgot I don't have to deal with them at all until I remember what was it exactly that made me hold grudge upon them this way it's safe for me too I don't have to make the same mistakes trusting the same people again and no it didn't change me to the worst person, it taught me a lesson I need to base my decisions in the future constant anger may not be good, but if this anger makes you take steps to protect yourself and your loved ones, it won't change you to someone worse but it will change you for the better and stronger person

I absolutely agree. There is really no reason to hold onto hate since the only thing it really does to you is isolate you from the person you are holding a grudge against. Eventually, by that line of reasoning, you will completely isolate yourself from everyone in the world and what could be more lonely than that? It's not worth it. Raise your self esteem some other way than by proving to yourself that you are in the right -- for the sake of us all -- thanks.

Yeah it's truth.That Anger and hate eats us from Inside.Anger gives us sadness and sadness gives us the feeling of hate.

Anger and hate really are more harmful then all the other vices together. i too was a normal guy who use to forget and forgive until a sudden change of fate and like you i too started hating and seeking revenge after the incident.it completely changed my life, myself my attitude. I too live here in this virtual world for months. But finally i realized, I reflected back into my past and realized my foully. I had became someone else and have lost complete track of the person i was. I was at loss all this while and In order to be successful in life we need to compromise and adjust with life. Take life slowly and as it comes helps you to understand life. I understood this and now i am back to normal and enjoying life. Though i still love this virtual web world but i learned to balance it with the real world too

You weren't able to control your anger and now it is the anger that controls you. When it gets out of control, it will lead problem to your overall quality of life. Yes, I once had an experience of hating a person to the max. Instead of becoming a worst person, I turned to a better one. I always kept in mind that the person I hated most is not worth it. I lived with that anger for years but I always kept on fighting not to destroy my life because of it.