Do you feel its ok to be friends with your ex while dating a new bo?

Well if your current BF could accept that then maybe you could be friends but if he does not approve better yet avoid getting involved even in friendship especially if the new relationship is just starting. It may lead to so many issues like trust issues and other things.

It really depends on the relationship you had. I am friends with two men who I dated in the past and it works. We don't talk about relationships and avoid certain questions and it works for us. My new boyfriend doesn't mind these friendships and I think it was a good thing that I told him about these guys when we first started dating so he wouldn't be surprised.

Its depends on the person, if he/she will be friends with there exes, you might feel it is awkward when you're ex called you in front of you're bo, but did you think of this? in you're part your feel awkward, what about in the part of you're bo, do you think they feel awkward when your ex called? their are some people that don't give attention to the past, they believe past is past, but some feel awkward or sometimes jealous, sign of insecurity. For me I rather be friends with my ex, the fact that we have moments shared in the and i still feel that my ex cared for me, though we are not ex. I can't explain more further, my English word where just limited and my grammar is not good. Have a nice day.

Staying friends with your ex is not a bad thing. What's wrong in keeping in touch by sending birthday greetings once in a while? I don't find anything wrong in that. My problem would be if they start to interfere with your new relationship that you might start.

i completely agree with you. it have been very awkward if we did so. so it is not a good idea. plus the old emotion is bound to come at times.

I am currently in this situation. My boyfriend of a year is best freinds with his ex-girlfried. They dated for two years and broke up 6 years ago. They are in the same circle of friends. She is very kind to me and I like her in many ways. The problem is that my boyfriend tried so hard to make us friends that I began to resent him for it. He would talk about her ALL the time. When we first started dating, he made it very clear that she is important to him and that if I am not ok with it, than I am out the door. At first, I was kind of ok with it, because I was new. But now, a year on, i'm not ok with it. It makes me very uncomfortable when they go out just the two of them. Also, she is in a relationship with a guy. My boyfriend and her man pretend to like each other, but they really don't. I don't know what to do. I love my boyfriend, but at the same time, it makes me uncomfortable and he should respect that. We have had many fights over it, and nothing changes. He refuses, it put an end to his friendship with her. It's more complicated, because his friends are her friends. If I asked him to stop seeing her, he is effectively shutting out all his friends, which is unfair. Also, in many ways, I am like his ex, and sometimes feel like he is trying to make me part two of her. I am so insecure over their relationship, but when him and I are together, it is clear that he loves me. Should I break up with him. I love him, and want it to work, but I can't seem to get past him being soo close to his ex.

i feel if you are still friends with the ex then it will cause friction and uneasiness in the new relationship and cause things to be uncomfortable so i say let bye gones be bye gones and move on!!!!!

I don't think it's a good idea. Too many things can happen and you fell in love once, what's to say you wouldn't fall in love again? I don't think it's a good idea to talk to exes when you're dating someone.

Hello apples99 I agree with you totally I don't think it is a good idea either. I was dating someone a short while ago and we agreed to be friends and we said we would still do stuff together and he made promises and didn't keep them. He then got another girlfriend but I didn't like they way he talked about her. Anyway I think he felt too much for me and couldn't handle just being friends. I haven't seen him for like 4 months now and that is fine by me! I felt sorry for his new girlfriend actually

I think it is perfectly fine for one to be friends with his/her ex even after they have broken up. This would definitely depend on how they broke up, and on whether was it a clean break up. Should everything be good, then I totally do not see any problems in them remaining as friends. Mind you, sometimes, these two individuals, have gone through so much together, know each other so well, inside out and have so much in common, they are practically soul mates. There is no harm at all in having more friends rather than having more enemies or having less a friend. Personally, I am happy that I still keep in touch with my exs. We share stories on our current life, share stories of our current relationships, and other stuff. It is good. If it is just a platonic relationship and both sides are clear on the limitations of the friendship, what's wrong with that right? The uncomfortable feeling is only there if the relationship got off on the wrong foot and things were not ended clearly. As for that, there will definitely be that little something nagging and disturbing you when you meet. However, if you're already very committed in your next relationship, I mean...you have moved on. You would see no problems in the past anymore. If a person still feels uncomfy with a certain ex, even when he/she is attached now, then definitely, there is something left hanging in the past. Once a person has moved on, you look forward and the past does not matter at all. =)

Honestly i dont think its a big deal being friends with your ex and being with someone else.Im actually friends with all my ex except one. and Jealousy will get you nowhere. If its your ex then thats what it is so why worry about it. If you other person cant except you being friends with an ex then thats there problem and maybe you should be with that person.

Honestly, I think it's a little too strange. I tried it once and it dramatically backfired in my face. My ex wanted to be friends, at first, but then slowly tried to use our friendship as a means of getting at my current girlfriend. Over time, she made my new relationship that much more difficult by spreading a lot of rumors about me that were absolutely false. She did it ultimately because she wanted us to get back together...and no, that isn't vanity talking, those were her own words. Gladly, that never happened and I am now happily married with 3 kids. I think letting the past remain the past is your best course of action. Clean breaks and all that good stuff.

well, it depend on how u think. to me, i think its fine to stay as fren with ur ex. if ur ex is ur previous classmate, how can u dun stay as frenz? so long as they dun go out alone together. to prevent awkward situation between the ex n current guy, the best is dun talk infront of them. u can use sms to communicate. (provided ur current guy dun chk ur sms :)) i still stay in contact with my ex even though now that i am married. there's a phrase that says "its better to have more frenz den enemy" :)

I personally do not have a problem remaining friends with my exs and I wouldn't have a problem with a new gf remaining friends with her exs either. I think if you are truly in a relationship you should be able to trust the other person no matter what. I mean, you ahve to be able to trust them or you can't really be in a working relationship. Jealousy is so overrated. If you are a jealous person then you seriously need to work on it because relationships are based on trust and understanding. Having friends is important in one's life, and even if those friends are exs, they are still your friends. I would never date anyone who was not my friend first, so why should I forsake them after the relationship breaks up if I was happy to call them a friend before. I am still friends with all of my exs who have kept in touch with me and I don't see that changing anytime soon. I do however know that if I entered another relationship with someone else, both my ex and the new interest would have to understand that I was not going to give either one up for the sake of the other. If neither one could handle that then they are welcome to break off any type of relationship with me. I think frienship is the tie which supercedes all ties but those of family. Sometimes, it even supercedes that as well. So anyone who hooked up with me would have to accept the fact that my exs are my friends or they are not meant to be part of my life in any other way but as a friend. I totally trust myself and others to make the right decisions in life, not everyone can handle such relationships. I accept that fact, but I will not change who I am to accommodate their beliefs and comforts.

NNNNNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOO.....Thats a definite BIG no.....according to me a relationship is either there or its not....Friendship can end in love....but love in friendship...Never.........