Do you get tensed when a problem arises???

Yes,very frankly I get tensed and till the problems gets solved I am full of tentions.But then of lately I have started to be cool and make sure that the problems gets solved and I have also realized that there is no use in us getting tensed like what ever happens would happen for the best and there is no need for us to get tensed. Regards

Hi Vidhya! I dont get tensed when a problem arises.I will handle that situation smoothly and I will solve it in a peaceful manner.My mom will get tensed even for small matters but my Dad will handle them frankly as me.Thank you for having this discussion.Happy mylotting

I am cool to handle tensed up situation. Generally I approach the problems as if I can solve them soon. This positive mind had caused many troubles in life too. I can not forget the troubles came out of my positive mind. But still, without getting into troubles, I could solve them. As this is an online forum I don't want to put those experiences here. It won't help others who were also involved along with me. Well, normally at home, women are the one who come up to save men in trouble. It is from the time unknown - from the time of Ramayana! OK, then women takes advantage out it too! good, must be. When men are tensed up and feel like spoiling the situation, women comes to rescue them. That is the successs of married life - sharing the burdens together. Fortunately, I could handle many of the situations, but am not sure of the future!

I do most of the times, I can't help it but I try to control it. Your mom was right when you get tensed you really can't think straight and you won't be able to do anything. You have a good mom there.

Problem arise in the every body life but we should not be tense in period of problem rather we pray to god for solution.only god help us in time of diffculties.to be tense is not solution of problem but it make the problem more complicated .

I am the kind of person who will bury their head in the sand for a couple of hours, and then realise that I have to face the problem, so I will then do something about it. I will never just ignore the problem completely, as I know that I will never get anywhere in life if I act like this.

i think we all do but i think to every problem there is a solution. these problems can cause a lot of stress on a person especially if you can,t do anything about it.a lot of people who try to solve problems don,t do well because they haven,t thought through there could be a solution so they act to haste in the situation.

Hi vidhyavini. Me personally, well you don't want to know me if I have a problem and I find it hard to fix the problem cos I will get really quite angry and then you don't wanna be near me for a long time. If someone tries to help me with the problem they are silly for trying to help me but I will still be thankful for it though. Good problem solving skill I must say NOT EVEN on my part. L.O.L. Catch ya later pretty_babe

Frankly I neve did have this tactfulness of handling pressure ,i really get tensed and feel out of place in a pressure situation. I walk from one place to another and do all sorts of thing when i am tensed. But these days i adopt more normally to these situation. I have developed this think of handling pressure and i am more comfartable at handling pressure these days

i am emotional guy and responds immly rather than thinking and respond. but in seconds i get cool and convince the other who is not fault but i scold the man who is at fault i wont bother at all. i am trying to change myself to respond to feelings rather than emotions

Sometimes it is natural to get tensed when a problem arises but I think, as most people do, I shall recover from the tense condition and immediately consider the solutions. Only facing the problem could tackle it.

At first I get tensed, but after a minute or two I'm calmed and thinking of solutions.. I don't show others that I'm tense, I'll just drink a glass of cold water to ease out and calm my mind.. Happy posting!!

I never get tense when problem arises. I believe that it wont help me find solution to the problem if i panic. What i normally do is i think of a way to solve the problem before it is to late.Most of the time we encounter financial problems. I am the one who normally find a way to solve it so i know how to handle the situation well already.

I think I'm more of a combination of both. I am not as mature a thinker as your parents, though. In the initial stage of the problem I tend to panic first, as I think calmness is something i've yet to learn. Then after thinking the problem through, I stay calm and think of an immediate solution plus alternatives just in case something goes wrong with the original plan. Then after that I wait for the result. I try not to be anxious, of course. That's how I react to problems.

I get tensed but then i pause for sometime and keep myself cool and just keep analysing the solution for the problem , even i cant find a solution i have the positive attitude which never allows me to fall.My parents i dont know how they plan but not everytime their decision is good , but sometimes i feel if i were in their position i would have acted smartly :)

sometime,, but most of the time i keep my mind cool and think about the solution.. yes my have this attitude,, she always get tensed.. i think its also makes me cool.. because when my mom get tensed,, i usually try and think for the solution as well as try to keep cool my mom.. have a nice day..

Well i dont know which kind i am . and all but i know this much that there have been soo many problems in my life and soo many means soo damm many. Many of them are running with me now. Lol. Well anyways when i am tensed, the only thing i can do is to start thinking about it how to make it fine and all. even i cant make it fine. Then i keep on thinking that ohh my god. What should i do now? And then i think of the problem socially and then it troubles me more and i keep on thinking what should i do now in the future to tackle this problem and stuff like that. so i really dont know what kind i am. I get tensed very easily but even manage to fix it . I get tensed even thought i know in the back on my head that i shouldnt be tension becasue if i am then nothing can ever happen. Well anyways nice discussion buddy and happy mylotting:)

I am sometimes both. Sometimes I will stop and think about things when I have a problem to figure out and other times it overwhelms me and I can't really stop and think about a solution. I may freak out at times and break down, but then later I actually do come up with a solution. It all depends on the situation and my mood that day. If I am in a positive mood and feel good, then I have a lot easier time figuring otu a solution, but if I am down and feeling negative I tend to tense up and not even try to look for a solution until my mood has lightened.

Yes, but for some moments only, then I try to find out the solution.

hi there, there r problems in everyones life ...Me personally, well you don't want to know me if I have a problem and I find it hard to fix the problem cos I will get really quite angry and then you don't wanna be near me for a long time. If someone tries to help me with the problem they are silly for trying to help me but I will still be thankful for it though.