"I knew you could not be trusted"

If someone told me that I could not be trusted, I would want to really look at myself and see if this is true. Am I one to tell secrets or be dishonest in any way? I grew up in New York City where most people were honest, even if you did not like it, and told you how it was, no matter what. It used to bother me but now, when I have dealt with liars in my life who have really hurt me, I decided I would rather here the truth, even if it hurts, than be lied to just to make me happy. I have tried, though, to surround myself with positive people and get the negative ones away from me, but some I have no choice. I will not avoid them at all costs, because it's just how it is. I learned that I can't change people, only how I react to them. I will not let negative people bring me down and if someone constantly hurts me, I will remove them from my life as much as possible but I won't avoid them at all costs. I just deal with it and give them little time to do much harm.

I try to avoid hurtful people as much as I can. It is really hard when the hurtful person is someone in your own family though. I have one of those in my family. What really matters is how you view yourself. If they cannot see you for a kind and honest person then I would avoid them as much as possible.

I have a very sensitive soul. I do try to stay away from people who are hurtful or who can bring me down. I have to do this in order to survive. Instead I try to keep happy, upbeat people around me. I do understand that this isn't possible at all times. In these situations I just try to limit my interactions with the people who can bring me down. I think this is a perfectly healthy way to live. I would be at the bottom of the barrel of depression if I didn't self-preserve in this way.

Hi dear sure these were really harsf words and really very painful and hurting U know dear, its saying here in our part that " injury by sword can be healed but the injured u got by words can never be healed"" U can forget those words If U betray some one trust that its understandable but if u did not do anything and some one say to u then its hurting. Wish u all the best and take care

myself i am not changing myself for anyone, as long you are very true to yourself and you are real. then nothing wrong. like with me i am very straight with people, and sometime i can be hard on them, but i am a good person, i am very honest. but if someone like that, i don't have time for them, specaily if they want you to change to fit them or whatever. i often had a time where i had family wanted me to be like them and belive as well handle things like them. but hey this is who i am like it or leave. i have no problmes cutting off ties with anyone if i need to do it to keep myself real.

Yes that can be very painfull if someone said that to you.. I never had that before.. I hang out with all kinds of persons, and I don't care what they say against me :D I know how I am, they don't.. Have a nice day..

You need to be around honest and positive people. I would be hurt also. Try to surround yourself with people that are nice and treat you nicely.

That statement sounds to me like a verbal control move. It sounds like something an insecure person says to try to win you to their side of an argument. I would probably stay away from them and if I am around them, I would avoid personal discussions.

Did you do something that would warrant this? If not-- then I wouldn't worry about it. I don't live my life to please people that say mean things. If I know I was wrong or did something to not be trusted- I would apologize and try to make it up to them. If I didn't then- I'd limit my time with them. Life is too short to try to please everyone and deal with people who make us unhappy!

I have found that you can't always avoid people. I have always tried to maintain my attitude that if I did nothing wrong, I don't care. Life is too short to worry about people who are hurtful. They are usually the ones with the problems. They can't face the world as well as others do. So many of them hide their own feelings of inadequacy by attacking others. Don't worry about it. Go on about your life and be nice to the person and don't worry what they think. Be the better person and don't feel threatened.

I think it's a healthier way to handle something then be stressed out everytime you talk to them or have to be with them...I do cut people out of my life. I have had some friends that are so negative that I can only tolerate so much then it's adios!

I do not think we (including me) could ever please and come to terms with everyone. In life, it is just too imperfect and full of trials and errors. I do not think we need to live up to people's expectations in the first place as far as honesty is concerned. Honesty to me is a straightforward issue, it is either you are or you are not. No use trying to conform and be mistaken here. Just live to your conscience and most of all to remember to love yourself. Time will prove to them that have other ideas about you. Just do not walk away but take it as a challenge to your integrity. Time will tell so do be patient and persistent. Not forgetting to be a little thick skinned here and stick to your ground.

I bet it did cut deep!! Dang!! I had a friend tell me years ago that I treated her differently when my husband was around than when he wasn't around. I was shocked and really hurt by that comment and told her so for I didn't feel I was any different with or without my husband. In other words, my husband does not define me and who I am. I act this way with him around me or without him around me. It made me so self conscience on how I act that I had to ask a bunch of people about it to see if it were true and I've been told time and time again that no it wasn't true that I act the same with or without him around. Finally I've gotten to the point that "if a person likes me for who and what I am, fine. If they don't then they need to move on because I'm not changing for anyone."Now I had a friend who told me that I was mean to my fur babies because I make them mind me. Well it's better to have them mind me than to let them run over me and not listen and get hit by a car!! Besides, if I were so darned mean then why do they come to me when called and play tug of war with their toys and kiss all over my face when returning from running errands? And why does my 10 cats come flying to me when they're called? Mean hell!! I've been called several different things in my life and frankly, I don't care anymore because I am what I am and that's that. Now have I become reclusive? Yes I have very much and I like it better this way for it lessens the chance of getting hurt again by some one's choice of words.

I do try to protect myself from being hurt. Nut the thing is, in this life, there is no way of knowing who will hurt you in the lng run. It could be done by your closest friend, or even a mere acquaintance. It's life mystery. The least you can do is protect yourself from being way too involved so that when the pain comes, it's sort of muffled. I do that, but I always fail. I promise myself not to be too close to someone so that they will never be able to hurt me deeply. But I am wrong. I always end up being hurt that I think I can handle it now. People tend to say hurtful things when they are overcome by emotions, and maybe, just maybe, that person who said that to you didn't mean it that strong. I don't know the reason behind it, so I can really say. Me, I have some expressions that may hurt strangers upon hearing them, but I only use them with my friends as a sort of friendly endearment and sarcasm. There isa difference between saying it to friends who know what you mean and to strangers who don't.

You make a good point. When someone says that to me, it's their loss, and it's their cut off. Just because they think that of me does not mean that that is how I am, on the other hand, even though I know better than what they say, I'm still not going to hang around with someone who would be that hurtful.

no cut them out, if you did nothing wrong to them and they are that blind to see you don't need them you do not need to be abused by anyone ever. They don't trust you, then there is no reason for you to trust them either. You must associate with good people that is how we grow as individuals, hanging around people that will put you down will only keep you down.

it is really a situation that hurts so much. when anyone is not sure about your true way, its really hard to make them believe. i actually experienced this other way. i was not able to trust a friend. i never told him though. later he cheated big time.

trust is a very important thing. if someone says they do not trust you, they are really telling you something. i would protect myself from people who don't trust me.