what is the biggest problem?

the bigegst problelm that i ever ha din my relationship with my fiance is tha i was his frist girlfriend and hehad a big problem growing up. he ha snever cheated on me but it took him a while to act like a boyfriend. anothe big one is my future mother in law!! she treats him like a baby and only cals him when she needs money, and tried to make everyone feel bad when we dont give it to her.

My biggest issue is trust. I've been cheated on, not by my current boyfriend. but it has caused issues for me now. and I have a hard time trusting anyone.

Chantal, I think the key is Shared Vision. When both of you clearly articulate and take ownership of a Shared Vision then it is easy to test thoughts and actions to see if it helps meet the shared vision. Let me use a fictional couple in their early twenties to illustrate my point. She and He agree on a Vision statement for the next three years: "We enrich ourselves by helping others with integrity and no indulgence on our part". When it then comes to choices deciding on whether to buy a car or take public transport, whether to buy an economic car or a gas guzzler, whether to take an expensive holiday or help a school in Africa or just about anything else of importance the couple discuss their desires in the context of their vision. If their choices support their vision then they have a mutual commitment to the vision and all the other good things naturally follow. We must not confuse vision with GOALS. For example a goal is "We need to have a mortgage free house in 5 years". Goals arise from the Vision, but the Goals should never be a substitute for vision. Lack of common vision is the most fundamental problem that I have encountered in a relationship.

I think that the biggest problem I have encountered is the faithfulness from my partner issue. I have been burned many times. It makes it quite scary to pursue even friendships.

The whole thing depends on the individual couple's relationship, of course, but I've seen many couples fail over two main issues. One is money, whether not enough or spending disagreements. Expectations are a problem for many, too. If a couple hasn't really made all their expectations clear, it's hard or impossible to live up to them. That leaves on or both terribly disappointed.

I would have to say that one of the biggest problems I have encountered in my relationships is communication. I always wanted to talk about things but my exs didn't want to or couldn't care less. Communication is essential to any good relationship. That is one thing I will always demand in a relationship. Another problem I have encountered is trust. I trust my partners wholeheartedly, but I have found that they lack the same compassion to trust me. I don't think that you should have to worry about trusting the other person in your relationship. If you are really committed to someone or if you care about them, then you would trust them enough to do the right thing. If you can't trust them then you have no right being with them.