loyal or not?

I am loyal to my husband but I didn't come with ownership papers.

I do not think that any relationship should be based on one partner giving orders and the other obeying. If there is anything that my husband wants or that I want we discuss it if it is something that would affect both of us and is important. Little things we usually do what we want as we trust each other to do the right thing.

My husband would never even think of telling me what to do. Nor wo tell him. Our mutual respect is part of the reason we have a really great relationship.

I will follow my husband if it's the right thing for our family. But it's not all the time I follow him because I do have a mind of my own. I do what's best for my family.

There is no way that my husband would EVER tell me what to do. He will sometimes ask if I could do something for him but never tell. A relationship is supposed to be a union between two people not one person in charge. It takes two people to make it work otherwise someone is not happy.

I guess it depends on what the topic is.

My husband doesn't tell me what I can and can't do and I don't tell him what he is allowed to do either. The day he starts giving me orders, is the day I laugh in his face. We talk things over and make decisions together. We respect each others opinions and neither of us give orders.

I agree, marriage makes two people become one and when that happens you both have to talk about things and come to an agreement that pleases both of you.

I would do what he ask as long as it is within reason and not against the law LOL. Oh yes, I would argue too sometime, and usually we came up with a compromise. And when my husband's angry, I never argue back, just let him be mad and then when he cools down, I would talk and get my point across and maybe even get mad. One at a time :-)

yes i do agree with you. i also do the same which you do. i listen to my husband but follow all his orders are not important for me. Because i cant follow the order which i think is wrong. Because i think that if you follow one of his wrong orders then he will expect more from you and will force you to follow all his orders whether it is wrong or right.

I love my husband dearly and from the bottom of my heart. I always seek out his opinion on just about everything. But it is just that... AN OPINION... While he doesn't ask me to do alot, he does give alot of opinions of what I should do or what he would do. I just basically take the information from him that is helpful to my situation and make my own decision. I think though, if he did ask things of me more often that weren't terrible or uncomfortable or morally/legally wrong I would try to oblige. He is very patient and is content with me doing my own things (which include things with our family and our kids as I don't do anything without all of them with me). If he is angry, I will usually take on the challenge. I'm not one to run from confrontation from him and will stand my ground and battle until it is done. It ends quickly and we resume life as usual. But it doesn't happen often and is not severe. When we first got together and for the first six years it was often violent but we did some counseling and he went to jail for domestic battery and since then we can fight it out without any physical altercations and reprocussions...

I never let my husband tell me what to do.I listen to his advice and opinions but a decision regarding what I do is my choice.