am I a bad kid?

I think yes , you have something in your heart which prevent you to mix with your family is nothing but this feeling , since they dint love you when you since your childhood this thought is bothering you a lot, well as soon as my brother is born even the love from my mother is not that much im getting back i have also truned 20 just now. i dont think it is good for a anyone to be like staying away from family , as without our parents we cannot lead a good life i mean we also need their blessings in life, if they treat you bad let us treat them good that is what we are taught , we are taught by them too.Dont think your not fit for anything like that try to be caring towards your mom , even a caring word will make wonders, implement it from now on , you may see a difference , your not a kid , your grown , dont fear for any one.. GOD BLESS

Your not a bad kid. It doesnt mean because your parents didnt made you part of a big decision it means you are bad. I think the reason why they do that is because they wanted you to focused on your studies. An your brother is older than you so he was expected to be responsible and a role model to you. I think you just need to hang out more with friends sometimes and get to know people. Enjoy life while your still young. You can only be young once. Your parents love you for sure so you dont need to think of negative stuff.

Don't be too hard on yourself. Have a heart to heart talk with your family and tell them all your insecurities and the feeling of being unloved. You can talk to them one at a time. Maybe, you can start with your brother. Open communication is the key, so open up to them.

It doesn't sound like you're a bad kid to me. You're studying and trying to make your life better, and obviously you seem to care for your family. Of course, I can only state my opinion. I don't know what your family thinks of you, but you seem upstanding in my eyes. Best of luck to you in all aspects of your life!

hey rattler, don't be so cruel to yourself... I understand what you feel and I know the feeling of being alone. I used to feel that way too during my younger years. maybe you're a quiet type of person and you prefer not to go out and stay in your house or specifically in your room (your room maybe is your security area)while your brother maybe is an outgoing and jolly person. Every individual has its own character and personality right? I know your parents loves you coz all parents love their children.( I am a parent also) why don't you try to open yourself to your parents share your thought with them and tell them that you wanted to talk to them-- a heart to heart talk. I'm sure your parents will understand you, who knows maybe you're not aware that your parents also want to talk to you but they just don't know how and when to approach you coz you might seem to be physically visible but mentally and spritually you're not with them and you're not aware of that.are you the youngest in the family? if yes...well, that is quite a common practice in some family with regards in decision making.. I know that you have so many question there in your mind and all I can say is... the best thing you could do is talk to your parents and open up yourself and tell everything you want to know to clear your mind and heart of that kind of feeling you have. Maybe they are just waiting for you to come out in your shell. Goodluck and God Bless

you know what? i think wer just thesame situation.. i dont think either if my parents really loved me.. thats why i have no other way to show them that im important to the family, so i choose to live my life with my own... im in so much pain.. so much pain... but now.. i know what they really meant for me and how important they are to me.. its so nice to be loved.. really...

you are not a bad kid at all in my opinion... to me, you just sound to have lack of communication with your family members and you seem to close yourself from them... so if you want your family to start noticing you and listen to your opinion, then i think you have to start to open up yourself a little to them as well... take care and have a nice day...

i don't think they think you are a bad kid,maybe it means your parents love you very much,they want you live without any problems and difficulties.they are protecting you,i think.^^

NO don't think you are a bad kid, as long as you don't cause any worry or hurt to your family then for me you are not a bad person or a bad kid. Just talk to them of what you feel and maybe you wouldn't feel as bad.

i don't think it makes you a bad kid. and i don't think that you're parents don't love you. they probably just have a favorite. you need to live your life for you and no one else. if they can't handle that it's okay. they'll see the light eventually

No honey, I can sympathize. It's not you, it's your family. Some people's best is never good enough for some, especially some parents.

i don't think you're a bad kid. all parents love their kids so much. don't make yourself down. life is so short that you must make the most of it. make your time a worth while. don't just stay in your room and doing nothing. make yourself busy and forget the worries

I highly doubt that you are a bad kid. I think maybe you should reach out to your family and tell them how you feel. Maybe they don't even realize what is going on. Maybe, they think that because you spend so much time alone, that you are avoiding them. Talk to them. Seriously. This is an issue that needs to be brought out into the open so you can all work towards fixing it.

from the sound of it, it sounds like favouritism at work here. elder brother tends to be favored more to the parents. i am one myself. i has a younger brother 8 years younger than me and i noticed the difference between the way my parent treat me and my brother. i also do not know why and this sort of made him inferior. i am better in studies and managed to make it the uni but he did not. my last job pays twice his current job. but i am on good terms with my brother because we share the same interest in sports and activities and i think that helps in maintaining the relationship. for you, there is another possibilities that your parents may still treat as a kid and this may explain why they leave you out of the big decisions of your family. do not read too much into it. the best way is to approach your family members and clarify to prevent further unhappiness which i can see are slowing brewing in you. take care, there is nothing closer than kinship.

well, i am sorry to hear about that. i think you can try to improve your capacity in study by learning harder, and also try to be more social, at least in your own house. in the past, we were very close each other in our small house. nobody never got an opportunity to be alone in their room. i also never got alone in my room, as i didn't even had my own room . anyways, what i know is that love is reciprocal. if you love your family, they will love you in return. if we have a loving nature, love tends to come to us easily. well, just in my opinion.

it directly means that you are a lot dreamer and more you need to stop your dreaming activity since you are 20 now and start doing daily assignments of your study and you are not a bad kid, you might be a bad student if you dont do the study part of what you had till now

First and foremost, do not think that your're bad, especially when you've done nothing to hurt your family. If you keep on thinking that, you'll end up just the way you imagine yourself to be. That would surely make things worse. Second, as you have said you are still studying and you are therefore not earning any money yet. That is all right. Just strive to do your best in your studies. If your parents are proud of your brother because he earns the most in your family, then make them proud of you because of how you're doing well in school. Third, let me ask you this. Have you talked to your parents? I mean, is there virtually no communication between you and them? If there isn't, then it's time for you to talk and let them know what's on your mind and what's bothering you. But if you guys do talk to each other, how do you do it? My point here is that if you feel left out, try talking to your family. Voice out what you're feeling. Your assumptions will not be proved nor be disproved if you just remain silent. Again, do not think that you're bad. You're just putting yourself down even more. If you yourself don't believe in the good that's in you, then who will?

i shre your sympathies. but i don't think that makes you a bad kid. we really can't remove sibly rivalry in the family or anything that rleates to brother/sister raltionship. parents would definitely be proud of their children's success. and if in any case you notice that they compliment your brother, that is because they wanna share your brother's success. and you will also get your turn after your studying. you are yet to grow up, there are reasons hy they still don't include you in the family decisions. one is that they don't want family problems ruin your studies. there are many good reasons in your situation you just need to think of the bright side of your situation. keep a positive outlook in life.