Does Grnadparents have right to hurt grandchild physically?

Excellent discussion topic. I believe with all my heart that the only people in the world who have ANY SAY about how to discipline their own child are that child's parents. Not the grandparents, not the inlaws, not other family members, not friends. This is of course assuming that the parents are not abusive or neglectful. Since you are the mother, YOUR MOTHER has no right to make a decision like that when YOU disagree with her. I do not want anybody physically disciplining MY child except me - but I do not physically discipline. My mom would never do a thing like that either - knowing that I don't and also knowing that I would not agree with it. I have already stated that when I am a grandparent, when my own kids have kids, that those kids are THEIRS, not mine, and THEY will be the ones who make the rules and the boundaries regarding their children. Discipline has many forms, and it is designed NOT to be something harmful but something to teach and help someone determine how to conduct themselves in life. There are many many ways to discipline which do NOT involve anything physical and nothing violent, and it would be very wise for more people to take note of that and learn other ways if they do not already use them. If somebody hits me, by heck I am hitting them back and not hedging around the issue or being kind! If anybody else got physical with my child, I would really want to smack them around - although it would probably be more proper to file a lawsuit against them and call it assault and battery, abuse, etc.

It is your child and they do not have the right to do anything to that child you do not what them to. It is your responsibility to protect your child even if it is from his/her grandparents if they are going to cause physical harm to them. Now you can stop your parents from seeing the child if you want as long as you do not live with your parents. You can tell them if they want to have a role in the child's life then they do not physically harm the child or you will take the child away and never let them see it again.

I am a grandmother who helps care for her grandchildren, and I reserve the right to spank them if necessary, with their mother's permission. I don't see anything wrong with a swat on the bottom, but spankings should be used only when other methods have failed to get their attention, and should be given rarely to be effective. I don't to spank them all the time, for every misdeed, but they know I will if the situation calls for it! And I seldom have any real trouble out of them. But if you don't want your mother spanking your child, then it is your right to tell her so and expect her to respect your wishes.

i understand disaplining, timeout punushment, grounding ect but i honestly feel the only 2 peolple who can delivery spanking, a slap on the had , anything phiscial are the mother and the father. i belive the law backs this too because i ahve seen grandparents be broght up on charges pressed by the parents because they ht the kids

Nobody, including grandparents or parents, has a right to hurt a child. It won't engender respect; only fear. Instead of fostering improved behavior, it just causes more violence. Parenting classes are offered all over the world so that parents and grandparents and even babysitters can learn constructive ways to discipline a child. In many cases, the courts require parents and others to attend these classes because violence, which includes a little spanking, is absolutely unacceptable!

hi eve! well, i would never let anyone hurt my children, whether it be my husband, parents, etc. no one has the RIGHT to discipline your child but you. now, if you were to have someone watch your child and give them guidelines for disciplining your child, that is a different story. my parents watch our two boys often, and they know that they can discipline them however they need to. but my husband and i trust them- they discipline them in the same ways that my hubby and i do and would never hurt them. if you don't think that your mom can watch your child without physically hurting or being abusive to her, then don't leave your chid with your mother.

of course not!!! i won't allowed my parents to hurt my children ever physically and i don't think they will do that anyway... they never hurt me when i am still a child and they are a very loving parents... so i don't think they will ever hurt my child when i have one in the future... take care and have a nice day...

hi eve nobody but nobody has the right to hurt or punish your kids but you yourself. not grandparents, not by hitting or spanking or beating. if you give them permission to give your kids time outs,or standing in the corner fine, but they have no right to hurt your children at all ever.You are not over reacting. You have the right to have them obey your wishes at all times. they cannot hurt your children, that is against the law, and they could be prosecuted for doing so. I would neverlet anyone punish my kids but me, and I did not hit them or spank them either.

You have the last say in how your child is disciplined. When i am caring for my Grandchildren i will swat them on their little bottom if talking does no good or if what they are doing is dangerous. Thank goodness my Grandkids are very good for the most part and i can only remember twice that i have had to swat my oldest (6y/o) and never his 3y/o brother. I Babysit my 3y/o g-neice and have since she was a couple weeks old and i think i have swatted her a couple times when she was smaller and would run in a store parking lot or something like that. Ignoring her is the WORST punishment i can give her (she REALLY REALLY hates that). But as long as a parent is around i let them take care of the punishing (i can be the good guy) but if i am sitting them i WILL do what is neccessary to keep them safe and if that means swatting their bottom then i will and if their parents don't like it they can keep them home unless they are going to be here with them. But like I said it is the parents choice.

I think that the parents or guardian has the legal right to do it, if I am correct. But it is a stupid move because it's just parenting through intimidation, which will make the child probably learn to express themselves with violence. If the kid is living with the grandparents, they have a right anyway, but if you're in the picture then you have every right to tell her to step off and let you parent. If she does it and you don't, the kid is going to hate her, and that's her problem!

no ways...........i think no one except for any one parent should have this right........both the parents also shouldnt be strict with the child.............either of the parents should be strict and physically a child shd never be abused not even by parents so grand parents at all dont deserve to do so in any case

I don't believe grand parents or parents for that matter have a right to hurt a child-i am a grand mother and i have a 5 year old grand daughter-she is my princess and the thought of hurting her would never enter my mind-I love my grand daughter and would only want to protect her and keep her from any harm-I can't see any grand parents hurting their grand children.

Grandparents does not have the right to hurt their granchildren physically. They must SPOIL their grandchildren. If the child is out of line, they must explain that that behaviour is not acceptable and report the child to its parents. Parents don't even have the right to hurt their children. There are many ways to discipline a child without using violence. Any grown-up hitting a child is a BULLY.

noone has the right to hurt a child physically, or mentally. i was abused by my father growing up, and i still resent him for it, still to this day. if your child can't defend its self from harm, then its up to us parents to do that for them. don't let ANYONE do your child harm.i know i don't want my child to ask himself, why didn't my mom help me? like i used to ask myself.

I dont know exactly what you mean by physically hurting the child, I mean it is like a tap on the butt or hand? Or do you mean a beating?? If it is the last one NOBODY has the right not even the parents. We have 7 children, are raising one granddaughter and have 9 more grandbabies. I have given a tap on the hand and told them no when they repeatedly went to grab something that they arent allowed and after telling them no numerous times. I have also given taps on the butt for like running into the road after being told over and over no. To me thou that is a discipline tactic and not abuse, I would never hit them in anger or harder then need be. I also leave it to the parents if they are here, if they dont take care of it, I talk to them the parents and tell them you know so and so is off limits. Remove the child from the item first and tell them no and do that again a few times.

It's difficult to say.I spank my nephew sometimes too.He is insubordinate and don't like to study.Oh,my god.I think granparents have the right to do it.

i agree with you.. there are more polite and kind way to discipline your child better than hurting them physically. if, only if, you must give punishment to discipline your child, you shouldnt hurt them very hard coz it can effect them physically and mentally

My parents would never hurt my child. I have perfect faith in them. My husbands parents would never hurt my child either. I can't imagine having that fear. It must be terrible. I imagine if I was afraid that my parents would abuse my child I would never leave him alone with them. However a swat on the bottom, if done with appropriate force is a good teaching tool, and not abuse. I think my parents have the ability to make the right call on weather or not my son needs a little spank now and again. I wish you the best with your mother. what a hard situation you are in. May God be with you. Good luck and happy mylotting.

Of course noone has the right to do that. You are the parent and your parent shouldnt be interfering with this, unless it was the other way around. The only thing you or anyone else have the right to do is to protect a child, not scar them in any way. Discipline is a must but to my oppinion your way is the only right one, talking and explaining is the answer. If you let yourself loose it to the level when you have to hurt someone you suppose to love, then you are the one with the problem. I know children can push you to that limit, but as a grown up you shouldnt let that happen. I think you should stick to that rigt of being a parent and protect your child and let your parent know they are wrong and you will not allow this!

Your child is your child. No one has the right to hurt your child no matter who it is. If your child is left with someone, tell them how you want your child punished. If you don't like the way they are disciplined, take them away from that. You should be able to take your child from your mom or whoever without feeling like you shouldn't do so. If they don't like it, oh well. I don't believe in smacking my kids. They get things taken away from them, sit in time out, or lose certain privilages. Of course they get the dreaded lecture, which they hate. Those are worse things to do to a kid without hurting them. My mom and anyone else that watches my kids know that is how I discipline them and they stick with it. You are not over reacting and have every right to protect your kids.