Is it possible for a woman to be too pretty for a man?

@cream97 (29086)
United States
October 6, 2008 7:41pm CST
If the woman is very pretty and the guy that she is seeing is not all that handsome, Is it possible that a woman can be too pretty for him. If she is, then she should not be with him because of this. Do you think that this is fair? What if it was the other way around? Do you think it is possible for a woman whom is very beautiful to be with a man that is not so handsome, but if he is okay looking? What are your opinions on this? Please share.. And be honest..
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@Angelwriter (1954)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Do you mean if the man and woman are both happy with each other? Even if one of them is supposedly "too pretty" for the other one? Why in the world shouldn't a pretty woman be with a not so handsome man? And why should a handsome man not be with a not so pretty woman? If the couple doesn't have some kind of hang up about looks, then what does it matter whatsoever how pretty or not either of them are? My opinion is, how pretty one of them is should be the last thing that's considered as far as whether any two people should be together. It shouldn't even be the last on the list of why people shouldn't be together. It shouldn't even make the list at all.
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, it should not. It is all about how the two of them feel about each other. Thanks for your response!
@Shar1979 (2722)
• United States
7 Oct 08
i have seen a lot of couples just like that but who am i or who are we to judge if they are not good for each other? they have seen something in them that made them fall in love with each other. looks are just the outside beauty. it's not really fair for others to judge couples based on their looks.
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, it is better to ignore them so one can't get caught up in their ignorant crap. Thanks for responding!
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, it is not fair to judge one on this, but do you realize that people are so ignorant to even think as this..? What a shame.. Thanks for your response!
@Shar1979 (2722)
• United States
7 Oct 08
that's part of life and human nature, i guess. better to just ignore them
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• United States
7 Oct 08
Is it possible for a woman to be too pretty for a man? Yes. The reason for that is because men are intimidated by women who are really pretty. They are afraid that she will turn him down and make him look like a fool. That is why men are intimidated by pretty women. Same thing for women who sees a really handsome man. Both men and women can be cruel sometimes.
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, the both of them can be very cruel. Thanks for responding!
@dandan07 (1906)
• China
7 Oct 08
Beautiful and plain are on the two sides, but they can not exist without the other. The appearance is different between a man and a woman. So I do not think people will compare their looks in most cases. Sometimes there will be someone says " Hi, look at that guy, you can not believe that he can marry with such a beautiful girl!" But I do not think he/she thinks the pretty girl makes the guy unhandsome, more often he/she feels uncomfortable why he/she can get one like him/her.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, this is true! Thanks for responding!
@relundad (2310)
• United States
7 Oct 08
I don't think that "too pretty" or "too handsome" are really just a figure of speech and basically doesn't exist. Even for what some people consider pretty, attractive or handsome, to the next person they may find no attraction. We all have our preferences for physical looks but they are specific to you. I know that I am drawn to certain physical characteristics but that is only initially because after the physical attraction most of it turns to mental. That is why often times you will see a couple and wonder why they are attracted to each other. What we don't see is the mental attraction that they have.
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, it really is about an mental feeling that surrounds the two individuals. Thanks for your response!
@relundad (2310)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Oops...DON'T doesn't belong in the first sentence!
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• China
7 Oct 08
i am a man. and for a man side, i have to say, I love pretty woman very much. especially the character.then the beauty face and so on. a pretty woman must understand a man feeling and pressure of working. and another way to have more beautiful face to do more and more excisede.waiting for your reply.thanks very much.
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, there is nothing wrong with loving a pretty woman. Just as long as it is from the heart. Thanks for responding!
• United States
7 Oct 08
I guess if the couple compliments each other then the beauty probably evens each other out. I think you might be referring the beauty and the beast syndrome. I've seen it both ways and it made me wonder what each other saw but sometimes we are privy to what the other person has in their heart that makes them attractive.
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, the heart speaks the truth and it does not care about the outside appearances. Thanks for your response!
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
7 Oct 08
To be honest, not everyone choose someone because of their looks. Some people are beyond that and look for someone with a great personality and inner beauty. I think that is where people get themselves into binds, because they are only concentrating on how someone looks, not whether they are a good person. I do not choose for looks, if they happen to be good looking and a good person, that is a double plus for me.
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, I look for both characteristics. They are both important. But, what I am attracted to most, is the man's personality. Forget about the looks, that is not nearly as important as to how he will treat me. Thanks for responding!
• India
7 Oct 08
this totally depends on the individuals if you are a kind of person who value external looks, then definitely they will not be with their partner and if you are the kind of person really looking for person who is good hearted then the external looks doesnt really matter but this will take time to know about a person and i am not a kind of person who values only external looks
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, that is very true!! It is all about what you are looking for. I go for the inside, this always shows me that real person! Thanks for responding!
• United States
7 Oct 08
Im not all about looks personally just because looks can fade. However i would have to be somewhat attracted to the guy otherwise it wouldnt work to begin with. Yes there is some men and woman that seem to think LOOKS is EVERYTHING and its not. The woman can be pretty as anything but dumb as all get out so i mean whats the point of it really. there is flaws on everyone and everyone is different.
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, there are flaws in every person. And a woman can be pretty, but be dumb in the head.. Thanks for responding!
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
7 Oct 08
But who judges who is too pretty or too handsome? I think if one is uncomfortable and thinks that the other person is not a good match, then better to leave them alone. Be with someone only if you love them and they love you or else problems will arise. Don't be with someone for any other reason.
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, that is the way to respond to a situation as this one! Thanks for your honest response!
@dookie03 (578)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Truthfully a lot of women are judged by their bodies not really how beautiful they really are. It's kinda scary like that but that's the way the media has made the human eye look for in a woman. I do understand what your saying though. When you see a couple and just think, wow she's so much better than him or vice versa. It all depends what you see in the other person i guess.
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, it does all depends on what you see in another person. Thanks for responding!
• Malaysia
7 Oct 08
Hi Cream97, i heard some comment from my friend before on this topic. I consider them are a group of pretty lady. . Normally they would not select or choose handsome guy for their partner, only for ok looking guy. The reason is because not so secure and comfort, they would like the feeling of someone love them more. Some how, i do see before a handsome guy attach with a girl which looks normal, not sure the same reason or not. . How also, as long as both parties happy, who cares.
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, I have heard the same thing too. A woman will go with a man because she believes that he will do right by her, that is why she chooses a man that is less attractive. Thanks for responding!!
• Malaysia
8 Oct 08
Hehe, can see that girl might have same feeling on this too. Welcome and glad that able to contribute to the discussion.
• China
7 Oct 08
I think it is not problem.Love is blind,and it is only need you love the other.Someone looks bearty or handsome dont affect their love.Maybe someone think he want fall in love with beauty or handsome before they meet togerther.All thinking will be changed with the things developing.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, love is indeed blind.. So blind, that it misses whom the person really is.. Thanks for responding!
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
7 Oct 08
[i]Hi cream, That is very possible and I have met a lot of couples who are like that! I remember my cousin when she got married, everyone was asking why this man, blah blah blah.....because he was not good looking at all but she loves him and the guy was very good and gentle also and treats her like a princess! LOL! So, we really need to consider other factors aside of physical appearance! So, it is possible for a woman to be pretty for a man when people do not know the real story of the couple![/i]
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, it is true! People just don't know the entire story.. They only see what there eyes will let them see, not their heart.. Thanks for responding!
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
7 Oct 08
Pretty or handsome is in the eye of the beholder is what should be said here. One person's pretty may not be the same as someone else. Also a person's personality helps determine their overall prettiness too. Kindness and humor are active to me as well. But with that being said there are times that I see a very good looking person with someone who is not very attractive at all and wonder "why" on earth is that person with the other person? LOL
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, I am sure that we all have asked ourselves this question.. Thanks for responding!
@successlog (3172)
• China
7 Oct 08
ok, my friend, i have own opinion on this topic.But please don't mind what i am writing if you feel my words are wrong and not polite to the pretty woman.For me, i think as long as the man are rich and can meet all the woman's needs.hat will be no problem with them.I feel this society is very realistic. i feel the beautiful women always would like to marry with the rich man.whatever he is handsome or not.maybe a few ones are not, but i think a big part of them would choose it.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Not every woman wants to marry a rich man.. I have thought about it. But, there will be problems. He may be very suspicious of me and think that I am after his money. But I am not. Thanks for responding!
• United States
7 Oct 08
Face Value has no face value without a good hear and personality behind it. Looks fade and a true and kind heart never will. You should never measure a person by their looks. My answer to you is simple, if the looks of the other person are that important to us, we must be a wee bit vain ourself.
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, that would be correct, vain a person would be. Thanks!
@icegermany (2524)
• India
7 Oct 08
as you tell let me be honest and share with you about this. you know i am not praising myself but i need to tell you that i am quite pretty and beautifull and when i had to get married i had got more of proposals and wherever i go everytime may be a marriage or a any function or just go anywhere and i had a proposal next day in my house for my marriage and when i got married i had only one thing in my mind that whom ever i marry i am not going to give preference to his face and it has to be secondary for me and the person whom i marry have to be good at heart first of all, a nice human who have to care for me and love me and lookafter me. this was in my mind and i finally found my husband who comparing to me is not so handsome but fine and ok for me, infact i should never tell all this for my husband but just to explain you i have mentioned this and hence i am very very happy with him and found the one whom i was looking for. you know all smart and handsome persons are not good humans and also all ugly fellows are not good humans so everytime decide on the basis of humanity and how good the person is and how happy can he keep us. and i always prefer the human should be good first and face is something given by god and we just cant help it. and just imagine if weree the people not having beauty how would be if a person reject us and hence you can understand how it might have felt. it is not that all smart people are bad but just give priority to the people who are good at heart and not judging by how they look.
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, I am a beautiful female too, and I don't go by looks either. Looks can kill! Thanks for responding!
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
7 Oct 08
There are a lot of couples who were in that situation. They married someone who is not attractive but are rich. Usually women who were pretty married a not so attractive guy for a lot of reason. One is financial security and fame. While others simply find something interesting about the persons personality that makes her fall in love with the guy. It is a rare case on guys though specially if the guy is rich, they usually have a pretty wife. While other guys who were attractive they usually married the women because of money.
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
7 Oct 08
Yes, it goes this way too! Thanks for responding!