Do you think someone is friendly just cause they smile?

United States
October 7, 2008 6:36pm CST
When you see someone smiling, do you think they might be friendly? When I was a kid, I was a really bad judge of character. And, so ended with up lots of bad friends. If someone smiled at me, I thought they were my friends or at least friendly. Kids are naive. I don't make that mistake anymore. But when I see someone smiling on TV, I do think of them as more friendly than someone wearing a frown or scowl.
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• Canada
8 Oct 08
I know of way too many people who smile just to make people think they are friendly. What I find is that the smile is a good invitation to smile back, or if the situation allows, approach the person. Judge the person as they behave, not just because of a couple of nice acts.
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• United States
8 Oct 08
That's such good wisdom! I will have to remember that.
• United States
9 Oct 08
sometimes they do have motives (not really friends) and sometimes they have to (part of the job).but,no-it's not always a sign of friendliness. look at the great apes-they smile sometimes when they're uneasy.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
8 Oct 08
i used to think so... but not anymore... because i had learnt that people can be a hypocrite and smile at you even though deep inside their heart they actually dislike you... and i learn to differentiate between a sincere smile and a fake smile that people give me... take care and have a nice day...
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9 Oct 08
They might be smiling because they are happy, they may have been given some good news and are thrilled. they could be be really unfriendly but because they are happy it could come across as being friendly. I think people tend to smile at other people whether they know them or not as a way of saying 'hi'. I think children need to be wary of people smiling at them and being friendly. Some kids will just talk to anyone and everyone regardless whether they know them or not!!
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@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
People can be fake so i dont right away say a person is friendly just because they smile at me. My boss at work smile but it is usually a fake smile lol. So i know when a smile is genuine and when it is not. Some people can pretend to be nice at other people and change character when nobody is around. So i am very careful in choosing those people i wanna make friends with. But still i love to see people smile when i walk at the mall or at work. It makes you wanna smile too, it feels good to be sorrounded with nice people.
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@albino001 (154)
• India
8 Oct 08
na the reason behind that goes with the famous saying "smile a lot it cause nothing" since it cost nothin people tend to smile ...... no one knows the motive behind that
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@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
8 Oct 08
People can smile and seem to be nice but use that as a way to cover up evil. I would never say a person was nice just because they smiled. It is the heart that counts not the lips. I look past looks and smiles into someones true feelings before I think about an opinion on them.
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I guess I probably assume they are friendly. So is your judge of character better these days, BQ?
• United States
8 Oct 08
I think so. On the Internet you can't see someone smile, so you have to judge on other basis.
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
8 Oct 08
Yes. I'm learning that I might not be such a good judge of character on the internet.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
8 Oct 08
Hello beauty queen. I don't think so because a not-so-friendly person can also give you a smile. Well, one of my current colleagues who is jealousy of me and talks something bad against me smiles at me when he meets me. He is not friendly to me because of his jealous. But of course, I smile back out of politeness when he smiles at me. So it depends though most of the smiles are more friendly.
@steve9737 (918)
• Colombia
7 Nov 08
I think more people like smiles, I have been told to smile more often because I looks miserable when i don't smile, I don't know but I just can't make a fake smile, I just can't, when I try to make a fake smile, it looks to fake and people can notice it, I have a online friend on msn that is always telling me about smile in my pictures that I set up for my display picture on msn, but I think it is more comom on women to smile in a picture than a man, now that I think about I never care about ohter people smiling at me when I was a kid.
@quinnkl (1667)
• United States
8 Oct 08
Smiling is always better, but some smiles do not mean friendly. I am an "eye" person, and you can tell by looking people in the eye, whether the smile or friendship or caring is really there and heart-felt, I think. I consider myself a really good judge of character (so do my family and friends), and have always attributed it to my noticing how they behave, walk, react, and yes, the look in their eyes! :-)
@fwidman (11514)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I guess it depends on why they are smiling. Is my zipper down? Did I just do something stupid? I think most people that are smiling are friendly, at least at the moment they are smiling
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
sometimes i don't feel smiling is a sign of being friendly. many times i feel that i get offended with their smiling. like i feel that they are thinking something funny about me or there is something wrong with the way i look that is why they are smiling. it will depend on how the sperson smile and when the person smile. but many times i am wrong with my impression. i am not good actually. it takes knowing the person for me to understand or know what is the smile or meaning of his smile was. so only then after getting to know the person that i will be able to say if his smile meant to be friendly or just something else.
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
7 Nov 08
I would say that in my experience if someone has a smile then I tend to think they are going to be more of friendly personality. I feel better around someone with a smile then someone with a frown upon their self. People who smile can really brighten your day and chances are they are very friendly people in deed.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
8 Oct 08
Great discussion!!! No, it does not mean this. I have met many people that smiled and are very mean.. I thought once that this was true, but I found out the hard way!! Never trust a big booty with a butt and a smile! That smile is poison!