Should I stay or juss give up?!

All I can really say that it is unlikely that either of you are going to change. You have to decide if this is something that you can deal with in the long term or not. Think 1 or 2 years down the road or longer, is this how you want to be, is this how you want your relationship to be? You have to decide this for yourself. Can you be happy with him the way he is or is it to miserable to bear? Best of luck with your decision.

You should have a heart to heart talk with your boyfriend. If this goes on for a longer time, I think your love for each other will die down. You will fall out of love with him. And that would be more hurtful for both of you. If you're getting bored with the relationship and feel that it's more of a negative thing for you, by all means end it. You cant hang on to something that's bringing you down.

This is pretty tough, being exact opposites. I think that this should be decided if you still have a feeling with him or not. If you don't, then you better say that to him. There is no point having to try and stay with him if he gets you fed up. It will be a pity if you have had a relationship with him for a long time, when you have to give up. Its certainly not a good thing. You should try check him up with a experienced psychologist, but it might not be necessary, depends on you.

Hi, Fairygirl Don't make yourself so upset! First of all, you should consider what kind of boyfriend you would like to have? Second, does your current boyfriend satify all your requirement? From your description, you two are different types, you are open and active; and he is introverted, if you love him, you should love him all, including his deficiencies, or else you should give up! Good luch with your life!

Fairygrl- Normally the whole "opposites atract" thing does work, but when a really outgoing person ends up in a relationship with non-outgoing person things dont tend to work out. You want to go out he doesnt. Sounds like to me that this is not going to go anywhere. People who normally dont do much, have no social life, rather sit at home and watch movies or whatever will never change. Spending time away from him will not make things better. He might get the idea your cheating on him. Its difficult but the best thing to do is go your seperate ways. Otherwise, try and find out things he likes to do. Do things that he thinks is fun for awhile, and maybe that will get him out of his shell. Either way good luck.

hi there fairy girl first of all a lot of relationships are rollercoaster rides....their might be a reason why he is acting this way, maybe its money problems which it usually is, maybe he is trying to just take a break from working so hard to make ends meet that he just wants to relax and watch the game , that is something easy that doesnt involve any effort or thinking , is it right? no? you shouldnt be work or effort , you should be the escape not the game...but maybe you dont make that easy for him by always pressuring him to talk or go out , why not make the first move by saying hey babe i got us tickets to the movies on friday on me , or i rented some dvds we can wastch this weekend while snacking in bed, why not play cards together or board games i know these things so corny but they work i was in a similar situation and my relationship is a little better, what i did is i started to act like if we just started dating all over again , you know laugh at the not so funny jokes, always try to look extra pretty , call him during the day to ask how he is doing and tell him i miss him, leaving little notes around his closet in clothes...i think people forget how to date when they live together and its important to keep dating in a relationship , go outto dinner sit down and talk, even if its mcdonalds just sitting down eating alone is a perfect time for conversation. keep it interesting, sometimes we as women like to complain about the guy not being fun enough or interesting enough , but what are we offering besides constant complaining about the relationship , does that makes us fun or interesting would u want to spen time with yourself, we complain alot more than we realize even with simple facial expressions.and dont focus on little things like that, although they are in important and need to change , try moving away from that and start focusing on the possitive , does he respect you , is he somewhat affectionate , are you his friend and him yours , is he faithful , does he work , does he have goals , does he love you. there are so many possitive things we sometimes overlook and focusing on the small stuff isnt worth it....tomorrow is never promised so cherish the present and make the best of every moment.

Its good to know that you love someone. Ya just stay away from him for a few days and if even he loves you , he will surely come back. TRUE LOVE ALWAYS COMES BACK.

That's a tough one and I hope you don't drift apart because it might be a thorn on the road towards a broken heart. If you dwell on it so much, that's because you really love him and there must be something greater you want to do together but he's so settled in his own ways he doesn't want to participate. I don't know how you guys met and how it came to where you are right now but it seems his worries has gotten the best of him and if paying the bills and being on top of things are his priority, what about you? I think he's thinking that will alleviate further if not any problems that might arise in the relationship. I know for instance when my husband is unease, he'll usually be in a constant trance and simple things like going out, making love and things that makes us like children is drained away into worries. So notice how his behavior is and try not to trigger those things which makes him give you the attitude. Be a little nicer than usual and kill him with a little more kindness. It might go far enough that he'll recognize his own attitude if he finds one and grant you a little more leeway. It's a secret towards making things work. Pick up the spark by doing random things that'll make him go goo-goo ga-ga again. Start working that girl power of yours!

If you are no longer happy with the relationship then there is no point of staying with him. If you were fed up with his behavior and you have lots of things not in common then i dont think the relationship will work out. But if you felt you still have a feeling for him then talk to him first before you make your final decision. Let him know what is bothering you and what are the things that he do that makes you unhappy. And if he tells you theres no way he will change then thats the time you start moving on and find the happiness you were looking for. Sometimes even how much you love a person. You also must give yourself a chance to be happy. Life is too short to live each moment miserable, make the most out of it while you still can.

hi Fairygrl, i have watched a discussion program on TV two hours ago and they were discussing the same subject...it shows that, guys these days want their girls to be under their wings! but we as girls should not let such attitude ruin our freedom and our own movements no matter what... go on with your working life, and try to be in touch with him...just try to have a balance between him and your goals and other activities... life should made of balance distributed between your career, your guy, your parents, relatives, friends, fun, etc... it might not be easy to do..but just give yourself a try... being a part is really healthy for your relationship... Smiley,

I think both of you are just totaly differend from each other, I will advice you to quit the relationship. they is no need being in a relationship, where your partrner doesn't comcider your own side of view, but if you love him enough to bear the burden, then you should just keep the relationship for love sake

Hi Fairygrl, it is hard for people to advise you on the situation. It should be you to decide what to do. You are correct where other myloter can comment, but important is you would like to continue the relationship? There must be some reason to tie both of you together, that's why both of you in love. So let search back that feeling for both of you and believe it will bring you to another level for the relationship.

I strongly advise you to get rid of your boyfriend as soon as possible!

Live without passion ,you waste your life. You are unique in the world ,so try your best to make you feel valued. If you still hesitate to seperate with your boyfriend , you will no longer endure yourself , and some day if your boyfriend feel tired of you , or abandon you , what you should do? Your sympathetic insistance will do great harm to you soon. Don't torture yourself mentally any more! In my point of view, true love should bring each other freedom and pleasure , otherwise, it is a hell !

I think when your in a relationship you both have to work it out. Not only one who should understand but both of you. Respecting each own identities, growing together and learning from each other. What counts most is how deep is your love to understand all the hurts and pains that sometimes you have to even embraced it. I think you need to have time and space to be alone. For both of you to think if it will work out or can you both work it out. How far can you go with your relationship. How far can it be that you want your own life even your in a relationship. If it was really meant for you he will accept everything about you not a hindrance of making your own life also, but making you feel good for yourself. You know what usually reasons of annullment is psychological incapacity. Before it's to late, and both of you will just waste your time and expecting nothing in the end. I think before you go you have to be open up with what you feel for him to think or even realize if he reallyt loves you. God be with you!

firstly, you must ask yourself how much do you love him. do you love him enough to put up with this kind of behaviour for the rest of your life? if the answer is yes, then there's nothing to talk about already. don't expect him to change because he surely didn't expect you to. i feel that expecting a partner to change is only going to result in bitterness and disappointment. how would you feel if every time you reject his request and he tells you 'but i changed for you'? so a short time away from each other will let you be clear about what you want. take care and i hope you come to a conclusion soon. cheers ;p

Hi Fairygrl, sorry to hear that you have been through this situation. Yeah, maybe you just have to make things simple when you can't fiure them out. From ye discription, he is really a passive guy and not so passionate and romantic about relationship. You have to consider for what you love him and will he make you happy and whether you can make him happy as well. I have been into three relationships and then I seal the deal with my current bf. I have also been in similiar situation as you with my ex. And I used to worry about him and reflect if I had done sth wrong. There are ups and downs. In the end, I am tired of all this and I left for a new city for my new job and several months later, we broke up. But now, I just feel so peaceful with my current bf. I never worry about anything except myself and I am always on his mind. If the guy keeps on letting you think too much, and feel the sense of unsure, or unsafty, or concern too much about whether this relationship is gonna work out or not, instead of having so much fun together and satisfied with each other, you may need to re-evaluate him and the whole relationship. Just leave yourself alone for a while, I thnik you will get an answer. Happy everyday!

you love your boy friendlot.you try to to be with him. then sit and write waht are the qualities i him and you common. try to list out the qualities and attitue which is him him not like by you. Try to communicate with him in such a way that hfirst understand respond. either try to change him or tolerate and wait patiently for change. I feel you should knowe the difference btween infatuation and real love.

At first , you must know if your BF loves you or not. Then you can talk with him and tell him your thought about the relation . I think your BF will understand you. Maybe your character is different from your BF, so you feel so unhappy. You like to play outside, but he likes to stay at home. I also run across the situation. When I studyed in the university, I fell in love with a girl from Hei Long Jiang. He was so talkative, but I was silent . So we did not like the hobby each other.In fact, we loved each other very much. If your BF loves you , you also love him. I advise you to value the love. I have been regret. After we lost, we will regret without valuing at that moment.

Hello there! I feel your pain!! Sometimes men can be hard to deal with. My advice to you would be to turn in the opposite direction for awhile. He will not know what to think...Celebrate and watch a sports game with him.. Make yourself some pop-corn, or chips n dip.. Offer to share and get involved in the game! Praise him when the bills get paid... Make time with girl friends and go out and have fun with them.. Maybe he will get more interested in going out when he sees you are having fun.