when you become a parent , will you raise your kids the way your parents did?

my mom raised me well, i'd probably say yes, she was loving, caring, and warm. but there are a few things that she has done that i won't do like telling me she has cancer when i was 11, i think that may have messed me up a little. oh well better sooner than later i guess

I did raise my daughter with many of the values that were instilled in my by my parents. My sister, brother and myself had a good upbringing. Our parents did the best they knew how to do in raising us. My daughter has turned out well and I'm pleased with the results. It wasn't always an easy task but all turned out well.

I raised my children like my parents did but not in all aspects.I loved and cared for them and promised myself I will provide their education my parents were not able to provide us.Although I owe to them my being a good person.They may not be perfect but they did what they can.

I believe my parents have inculcated the values a good person should have. But I know that they made some mistakes in raising us. If i become a parent one day, i know I'll be imparting to my children the values, teachings, beliefs and important aspects of parenting I got from my parents that I know will be a leading bread for my children for them to become good and responsible individuals.

my answer is NO but don't get me wrong i love my parents so much.I'am raised with what we called a not so ideal family....i'am a member of a broken family.i don't grew up with my mom or even with my dad they are both busy with their own life ok they're good providers but i don't think that is enough i know there's something wrong although they say they love us but i dont see and feel it. now i have my own family ...i have two kids now,I make sure that i'm always there for them.i want to watch them grow,i will attend to their needs......i want to give them the best care in the whole world.I want them to feel that i love them so much.

I can honestly say that I want to be as much like my mom as possible. She made sure we had everything we needed growing up. She was a homemaker, but she also guided us with homework, went to recitals, was on the PTA, and assisted with tough life issues like dating, first jobs, and leaving home. My dad...well...he was a dad in title. I definitely do NOT want to be like him nor do I want a husband who just thinks he can bring home the money without interacting with his family. There must be a balance between parents when raising children or the kids will grow up with many questions and frustrations. I have a daughter and a son on the way now. I hope that I will have my mom's patience and nurturing attitude. My husband is a good day already. He's very active in our daughter's life so I don't think it will be a problem when the boy gets here.

No. My parents showed no support at all, well except for the money to buy our basic needs, they do not attend parent-teacher meetings and activities in school. Well enough ranting, but the bottom line is that I grew up feeling unsure and insecure about my capabilities because I never felt appreciated by my parents. Those are the reasons why I'm raising my child differently, we interact everyday, I praise his every effort, reward his achievements and correct his mistakes. I educate myself by reading books, magazines and asking advice from psychologists who are also mothers. I also apologize whenever I now I am wrong and I let him reason out whenever he did something I did not like. The picture I attached was taken after I took my son to the doctor for his booster shot vaccine. He was very cooperative that I decided to take him to the mall as his prize.

My parents didn't raise me the way I wished I was raised but, I'm a mother myself now and knowing what my parents did wrong in raising me helps me be a better mother. My mother never wanted a daughter and favored my little brother. My father was a workaholic that thought he could buy my love while I was growing up. But, I know that my children need equal love and attention and they don't need EVERYTHING they have ever wanted because then they will grow up to be spoiled like I was and thats not the way my children need to grow up. I still wish I could get ANYTHING I want when I want it and...my husband gets annoyed with it and I know it's not the way I want my children to be.

Well I've raised three and I am still raising 3 more. I have raised my children with the same morals and values that my parents raised me with. There are other areas that I handled differently. I fostered a more open communication policy than my parents did. I encourage them to respectfully speak their mind even if they disagree with me. That just wasn't the way things were done when I was a child. You did your parents said and didn't question it or you faced consequences. But with each generation we learn and understand more about ourselves. Now we know how important open communication is in order to protect our children from preditors as well as to ensure they are getting good information when they have questions about life.

I should say yes... I really admire my parents and i was so blessed and thankful that i have a parents like them, they are strict and put some rules but they make sure that we understand the reasons why. We are raised very well and god fearing, though our parents cant provide anything that we want but still they make sure that we understand why and what life is.. We grow responsible and with respect and that is what i want to be with my kids.. I want to raised them the way i was raise..

I think our parents are the greatest men in the world no matter how they treated us. Love is the same though with different expressing way. I don't care the way they raised me, I only know they love me beyond loving themselves, that's enough. So I will raise my kids with same way my parents did.

nope, not at all for sure. i'll raise my kid my way. nothing against my parents but there are some things that i sure did not like my parents raised me when i was a kid.

Ofcourse I'd be a good parent for my my kids as my parents were to me. But,i'd be a bit strict to them. Will not immediately get them whatever they ask for if it's going to be all that useful or necessary. Will bring them up such that they know d value of money & time. To put it short,will not pamper like d way i'd been pampered :-D

Absolutley not. Although my parents did well raising the six of us children they were always working. They never came to ball games or concerts or anything we did. They were always working. I can understand why though, it is tough to raise six kids and I know they struggled alot financially to make ends meet, but I would have gladly given up a few things to have my mom or dad watch me play ball or perform in a band concert. They did ok by us kids, but they were never there.

i love my parents a lot but i dont think that i will grow my child the same way that my parents raised. at present what i say to u may be changing as time changes. i wont be compeling my child in any issues. BUt will grow him very well.

I always told myself that I would be a better parent than my mother and father. And in a lot of ways I was but not in enough. I found myself making sure that cooked for them and taught them how to clean up afer themselves and how to be polite. (my mother didn't do these types of thing with me. She pretty much just yelled whatever it took to get me out of her face.) And I never ignored my children. But I did yell at them, a lot and I wasn't even aware that I was doing it. My point is it takes a very conscience effort on a daily basis with every aspect of your own behavior to not raise your children the way you were raised.

well yeah the same thing goes with me... i would raise my future kids the way i have been raised by my parents with some slight changes due to the surrounding atmosphere... although, i'm really looking into raising my future kids in a healthy environment as best as i can... Smiley,

When we are small, we love our parents but at the same time thre are differences too. When you grow up andhave yor own kids, you try to make up for the things you thought you did not get as a child and what you got you take for granted. Mostly if a personhas beendeprived of something he makes sure that his children do get it.

I think it is tough, unless you have had a traumatic childhood, to differentiate between partening styles. I think we all have things characteristic in us that were placed there from our childhood. I think yes, I have raised an am raising all five of my kids a bit like my parents. Although I do not agree with using a belt for punishment, I have and use some of their parenting techniques. I think my parents did a good job. It took me many years to say that. It wasn't until I was raising my own kids that I looked back and realized that I was doing *basically* the same thing they were doing, maybe just a little modernized.

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