Are women fake???

@belk89 (1103)
Philippines
October 9, 2008 6:19pm CST
One time my hubby and i discussed about a theory that says women are fake. I was on the other hand confuse and offended by what he said asked him why he said that women are fake. Then he read me the theory that most men agree that women usually lies about what they truly wants because they are concern of image. They say things because it is pleasant to hear and not because this is what they really want. Women will always say i marry him because i love him but the truth is they marry someone because they have the qualities they are looking in a man.Which is looks, money and fame. The rest are considered as a plus when they felt something for the person they are looking for. Can you pls share your opinion about this guys? Do you think women are fake?I would appreciate a lot all your opinions. Happy mylotting!
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19 responses
• India
10 Oct 08
I really can't understand as to why some people are being gender biased :( If the theory is proved to be true then it also applies for men since they form a subset of wo(men). Not saying this just because i'm a girl,I don't like generalising things. Not all women are fake nor all men are genuine. Take care!! :)
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Thanks for sharing your point of view!. I agree that it is not right to generalized women as fake.Happy mylotting(".)
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
10 Oct 08
Your husband is quite wrong and sounds quite cynical. I did not marry my partner for any of those things. He is not famous and has no money but I think he is good looking. I love him and we are a good match. I married him because I love who he is as a person, his personality, his intelligence. Some women and some men will say what they think a person wants to hear to make the other person happy but that is not fake unless they are doing it to achieve a certain gain. It certainly does not mean they do not love the person. In fact sometimes they do it because they do love the person and do not want to lose them. If that makes women fake then men are also fake as they do the same thing. However you cannot generalize about people like this as it is purely individual and I would say that most people marry for love.
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Yes we cant actually generalized traits of women. We all are different. I dont understand either why would he think that way base on his past experiences. I guess he said that to convince me that the theory is right. But i didnt agree at all.
@Angelwriter (1954)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I think your husband has a very low and warped sense of women. Especially the idea that women only marry for looks, money, and fame. Are there some women who feel that way? Sure. Bet you anything that there are men who only care about those qualities in women as well, but I wonder if he would lump all men in that category the way he seems to lump all women.
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@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Yes true like some women there are men who only look for those qualities in women too.I know he base it on his past experiences but still it is biased. He told me im not like that lol but he said i can be fake too when i lie about certain things inorder not to hurt a person. But that is another case and a totally different situation.
• United States
10 Oct 08
Your husband sounds like an A$$. I'm not a guy but come on. If women are fake for those reasons so are guys. Besides mu boyfrien is NOT rich by any means and he's not famous either. Yeah I think he's good-looking but than again I'm bias. I'm with him because he makes me happy and I enjoy his view of the world that differs from mine.
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@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
I agree that not all women are fake, yes some are but not all of us are lying over what we truly feel because it is pleasant to hear. I dont understand either why a theory like that would be so biased to women. I think each individual are different and so it is not fair to make a generalization and conclude that all women are fake. I think some men lie too on what they truly feel just like some women.
@soooobored (1184)
• United States
10 Oct 08
Certainly, some women are fake. I sincerely doubt Anna Nicole Smith married a rich old man because she was overwhelmed by desire! And there are women who claim they are marrying for love, but really it might be a biological clock, or a need for security. These women though I believe are lying to themselves as well as lying to others. But no, not all women are fake!
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@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Some women are fake and that is true but to say all of us are fake coz we look for guys that has looks, money and fame is not true at all. We all have different outlooks in life and we all have different views too. I was surprised when i found out about this theory. Some men blames everything that happen in there relationship on women without looking at there own mistakes too.
@psspurgeon1 (1109)
• United States
10 Oct 08
You know, I would say that some women definitly are fake, but for me personally I could not fake loving someone and sleep with them everyday and birth their children just for monetary gain. It would be impossible for me to actually live my life as a lie. At times I have had to fake affection for my husband just because I wasn't feeling very loving towards him because of somethings he had done but I wanted to keep my marriage together. So I "acted my way into feeling" which means that I went through the motions of love and it actually melted away the harsh feelings i was having so that we could get things back to normal. I think that guys overreact more than we women do at some things. I think they just don't like to admit to their insecurities so they have to blame someone else (usually their spouse) for something made up. Hope this makes sence, I'm watching tv while I'm typing and my brain doesn't multitask very well sometimes.
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@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
I totally agree with you, men sometimes overreact.If they share there opinion over something they just right away say this is my opinion and it is up to you if you believe it or not. Without even listening first to your side and understand things carefully before making a conclusion. They just right away say things base on there personal experience and observation which i think is unfair since they only meet a few women. So to make a generalization on womens trait is biased.
• United States
10 Oct 08
i agree with NuclearRabbit, your husband sounds like an a$$. did you happen to tell him for which of those 3 things YOU married HIM for? personally i have never dated any man that was rich my any means, nor have they ever been famous. some have been better looking than others of course but beauty/handsome is in the eye of the beholder. the more you care and love someone the more physically attractive they appear to you. woman may say things that arent what they truly want in concern or consideration of ANOTHER persons feelings..mainly their man, whose egos are a delicate thing. ugh..this is rather aggravating to think of..shoot, ive known plenty of men who did nothing but say and act due to HIS concern over HIS image.
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@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Ive known some men in the past who did that too. So i know it is not fair to generalized women as fake. Well i asked him about that and he said he doesnt think i marry him for any of those reason lol but he said i can be fake too when it comes to lying inorder not to hurt a persons feeling. And i said that is a different situation already. Therefore we all have different reasons for faking sometimes and it is not true that we all think the same when it comes to marrying a person. I just shake my head when i read about that theory.
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
10 Oct 08
Correct me if I am wrong, maybe you two have misinterpretations. As what I thought maybe your husband pointing to "some" women were fake and not all. Besides, he has a wife and that's you. If he generalize it all that means he is stating that you just married him for the sake of looks, money and fame? I don't think so. I believe there are some women married men for the sake of money and fame. That's what they say trophy wife or husband. But there are some women married their husband it is because of love. If it was all about money and fame, then they shouldn't have poor couples with dozens of children. I have to agree, some are fake and some are true
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
Well he really told me that he was talking about women in general. But he specifically said that some women can be fake in some aspect. There are women who may be marrying because of love but can be fake at some point when it comes to expressing what they feel. He told me that me for instance lie about what i truly feel about some people just to avoid hurting there feelings. Well on that matter not only women can be fake. Men also have some lies perhaps not on the qualities they are looking for a person to be there wife but when it comes to expressing what they feel towards women. They always say flattering words that will make women fall in love with them. They dont show who they truly are coz they are afraid that women will lost interest on getting to know them, and for me that is also considered as faking.
@taface412 (3175)
• United States
10 Oct 08
The answer is yes and no. I believe us women are fake for many reasons....and we are trained (subconsciously) to be this way since the day we began speaking. It may even be genetic LOL. But seriously watch a group of women and then watch a group of teen girls and then watch a group of little girls. Even though there are age differences there are similarities. We are people pleasers, not many of us go against the norm, and not many of us are even honest with ourselves....leading to self-esteem problems. Now on the money and fame stuff...yes there are some women out there (more lately I've seen) that are like that. But that shows me they have an insecurity about themselves. Because an honest person knows how to achieve those things....through hard work. But the same canbe said for men. And yes people do look for the qualities they wish to see in themselves, it just differs with what we are looking for. Not all are just looking for materialism.
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
I like your point of view regarding this matter. Thanks for sharing!happy mylotting(".)
• Dominican Republic
11 Oct 08
JuMm... we're not fake, we just dont want to say things straight up to the face and men get to the point right away. I think that that bothers them, cause maybe, just maybe, we want them to do something they cant: know what we want by givin them the least ammount of information... Yes, we are complex and I'm sorry but its like they say: Men are from Mars, women are from Venus, 8D Happy MyLotting and have a nice day! Xp
• Dominican Republic
18 Oct 08
thanks to you Back at ya! Xp
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
Thanks for sharing your view regarding this matter. I appreciate it a lot. Happy mylotting!(".)
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
10 Oct 08
My view is that: some women are fake, some men are fake, and we are all fakes sometime. Could it be though that he has been hurt by some women and so generalizes? I've had a few women lie to me, but I can't extend it to ALL women are liars. So if all women are fakes, is he including you? Or is he saying all women besides you are fakes? I think if he doesn't answer carefully, then he might find himself in big trouble and that won't be fake.
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
Good point, both can be fake at some point. Happy mylotting!
@anne12d (676)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Not "ALL" women are fake!!! Those people are gold diggers... LOLS!!! Women are true to themselve as well as true to others. Honestly, I can't do such things to a man or any person in particular... I hate USERS and taking ADVANTAGE of weak people. Because I don't want to experience such things so to prevent it so, "Dont do to other what others might do unto you."
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Yes sad to say some men think we are all alike just because some women are doing that. I think it is not fair to generalized women as fake. I hate that theory lol Anyways thanks for sharing your point of view. Happy mylotting!
@ziggyngr (14)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
are women fake? well, some. but i should say majority are not. i still believe that women now still show and express who they are and what they really feel. though, a lot of women now a days are into the rich, handsome, high end type of guys. there are still women who use their hearts and are honest to themselves and to the people they love.
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
Thanks for sharing! happy mylotting(".)
• Bangladesh
10 Oct 08
All women are not fake.But they definitely have some problems.They cant take decision when needed and in danger.They always find better option even relating with his boyfriend or husband.And remail impatient all the time.They want comfortable rich life with deaf,dumb,sexless boyfriend rather than living with real loving husband/boyfriend.
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
Thanks for sharing! happy mylotting(",)
@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
10 Oct 08
hi belk89 hahaa, what an interesting topic this topic is often being discussed among my male friends unfortunately, yes we found out some women in our lives are fake but they don't represent the whole women of course i believe that in love, everyone would search the right one me myself want someone that i can be comfortable with, someone that can make me smile everyday but if what make the smile is the money ? well .. haha, it's all back to us .. LoL thanks belk89 :D
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Thanks for sharing! i agree that some women are fake. But im pretty sure youll find someone who will truly love you. Thank you for being fair to women in general. Happy mylotting!(".)
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I'm afraid I have to disagree with your hubby, belk, because all women certainly don't fall into that category. Real women don't have to apologize for knowing what they want and not being afraid to go for it. As far as that's concerned you could also say that men are fake because just as many of them as women lie about their true motives.
@donna22 (1116)
10 Oct 08
So really your husband is saying that you married him for his looks, money, fame. Al least you know their is nothing wrong with his self-esteem (except maybe being a bit high lol) If I wanted to marry someone, yes i would have to find them attractive, but thats attractive to me. They wouldnt have to be a typically good looking man. Money wouldnt make any different and neither would fame so your husband is wrong.
10 Oct 08
No and I think it is nonsense, also it worries me that you are wondering if he is right. I would not marry someone for money or fame, and my mother didn't marry my father for either as he had nothing when she married him. I think some women are fake and so are men, but not the majority in any sense.
@Paula08 (33)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Fake is such a strong negative word. However, from how I understand what you have just said, your husband may have another meaning when he says fake. Actually it's not at all offensive.
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Youve got your point, perhaps he didnt really mean fake in a bad way. But still it is not right to generalized all women. Thanks for sharing!