at what did you get married?.............

@juhi06 (1850)
India
October 12, 2008 10:33pm CST
i got married at the age of 22. what was your age when you got married? or at what age you will get married? and what do you think is the ideal time and age to ge married for boys, girls? will you compel your children to get married at this age??
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• United States
13 Oct 08
I got married when I was 19. My husband and I was together for 2 1/2 years before we got married. He went into the Marine Corps and for about 6 months, we only saw each other on weekends. My mom knew him well and knew how much we loved each other. She was happy for us because she knew we would be just fine. Of course she didn't want me to go because then I wouldn't be her first baby anymore. My husband and I will be married 9 years next month and it seems like we just got married a year ago! I have two kids one is 7 and the other is only 2 so I have a long way to go before that time comes. I will never push my kids to get married but if it's what they want and I know as much as my mom did, then I would be at their side. Of course they better not even think about it until they are at least 18 and it better be real! I have to know it's the real thing like my mom did!
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@juhi06 (1850)
• India
13 Oct 08
i love to know such interesting facts of people`s life!! it is sweet memories of ones life which are more satisfying than the material world!! happy family life is essential for contentment!! enjoy life to the full!! nice explanation!!
@adihindu (1922)
• India
13 Oct 08
I got married at my 24. I don't think there is a ideal age for marriage. Some may get married in 35 too. 50 years back, people got married when they were only at 10 to 13.
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
13 Oct 08
hi dear adihindu, these are social obligations and determined by social laws and local regulations!! now with the changing economic scenario, the requirements are changing fast and therefore what was considered right 50 years ago is not so well accepted today!! well somewhere, around 20-25 is the real age when one should get settled in marriage!!
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
13 Oct 08
yes dear besides being eligible legally there are other considerations too. say for example , people with business backgrounds will get earl marriages , while people with professional background take much longer to settle and so their marriages get delayed!! happy mylotting!!
@adihindu (1922)
• India
13 Oct 08
I agree with you. Its all depends on the society you do live. It may acceptable to most of the persons. But these regulations do not make a mandatory to marriage age. We can marriage after we were majors. In India, they consider 18 and major while, 24 and 22 are good for marriage ages of male and female respectively. But we can make our marriages even after 18 and there is no such obligations.
@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
13 Oct 08
I haven't married, I'm not sure I'm going to marry - but - you never know. If I had a kid I wouldn't expect them to get married - happily I don't have a kid - never wanted one. Just so ya know - I'll be 55 soon.
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
13 Oct 08
hi dear elicbxn , i am sorry for your loneliness. at young age you need a partner and when you are getting older you need him more. i wish and sincerely hope that you get married to a suitable person of your choice sooner. i dont know what are your plans and what you think of it, but as i can imagine being lonely is tough!! take care and all the best!!
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@juhi06 (1850)
• India
13 Oct 08
very good i was feeling sorry for you. now that you inform me about your associates i am a bit relaxed!! happy life!!
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@KUSHANK55 (2437)
• India
23 Oct 08
i got married when i was 25 and my wife 23. we are happily married for the last 27 years now!! well the ideal age is different for all . there are many things to be taken care of !! professional qualification goo dearning and the right match are few of them!!
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
24 Oct 08
oh yes dear these are the primary things!! happy mylotting!!
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
Hi juhi! I think there is no right age to get married. As long as the couple is ready financially, emotionally, physically, they can marry. if they are ready to take care of the kids and let go of their freedom, then its time to tie the know. As for me, I married at age 25. stay happy.
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
16 Oct 08
yes dear red_amethyst!!you are absolutely right!! happy mylotting!!
@caskins (689)
• United States
14 Oct 08
hello my fellow myLotter, i got married at the age of 24 and got divorce at the age of 26. lol. happy posting!
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
18 Oct 08
hello caskins what you plan next, any thing for remarriage? any children?
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
23 Oct 08
hi dear caskins you did not reply further!!
@cindy2003 (196)
• Australia
13 Oct 08
I got married at the age of 27, and had my daughter at 29. It's up to my daughter when she gets married, but im sure we will both agree that it will be over the age of 18.
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
13 Oct 08
hi dear cindy2003, thanks for responding to this discussion ! yes true it has to be after at least 18 years of age!! happy mylotting!!
• United States
13 Oct 08
I was 21 and my husband was 23 when we got married. There is no "perfect age" nor should anyone ever try to force or compel anyone else to get married at any time. Marriage is a choice and you should only get married when you absolutely want to. Also, I won't be having any children.
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
14 Oct 08
welcome dear gloomcookielex for your wonderful response!! happy married life and happy mylotting!!
@eshaan (6188)
• India
13 Oct 08
Its somewhat early that u got married i think ..only my opinion..., but no problems...u acn enjoy for some years and later have children. I got married at 27 a little late....i think ideal age is 24-25 for girls and + 2-3 yrs for boys, but all these things depends on the conditions, like how many brothers or sisters u have, they are married or not, if u are younger and the elder one is too ambitious or getting late to marry due to any other reason, u may also get late..atleast in the Indian society its like that...
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
13 Oct 08
yes dear eshaan many factors really determine the age when you get married!! but getting children late and then marrying them off late is a real burden!! happy mylotting!!
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
13 Oct 08
Hi juhi, I believe that a person should marry when he or she is ready to take on the responsibility. I married at 27 and one of my sons also married at that age. My other two sons were in their thirties. I also feel that when our children reach adulthood we have no right to tell them what they should or should not do. I realize that customs vary between different countries and cultures but I think that many people in my country are marrying at a later age than they did at one time. Blessings.
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
14 Oct 08
yes dear pos123 reaching adult hood completingtheir education and getting into a job or profession and /or business are all prime things before you set your foot on the path of marriage and whenever you are ripe get set and go for the right candidate and get married! well the caste and country regulations are to be followed!! here in india there are castes who arrange marriages during childhood !! now by enacting the laws some minimum age is fixed for the girls at 18 and the boys at 21. but there is no maximum prescribed nor can it be provided!! there is no compulsion either!! one can have its own decision on the issue!! and remain single throughout ones life!! happy mylotting!!
@mayka123 (16605)
• India
13 Oct 08
I had got married at the age of 24 which I feel is the ideal age in India for a girl to get married.
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
14 Oct 08
hi dear mayka123 perhaps you are right!i will still add to it .any time after 18 if the girl is not getting education nor is in need of a job!!and business class families do it around that age after looking for the right match!! if the girl is getting higher education and /or serious about her own career one has to wait till 23/24!! happy married life and happy mylotting dear friend!!
13 Oct 08
Hi juhi06, I got married at 27, I know it a bit late in life and my husband was 20, we have now been married for 28 years last June, but have no children because I cannot have them after 3 miscarriages. I think the right age for a wmone to marry is 22 because she is young enough to have children and mature enough to be a mother. Tamara
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
14 Oct 08
i am sorry for dear tamarafireheart, that you are without children and not going to have it ever again. yes child rearing and upbringing is the most important part after marriage and involves various factors!! and being physically fit is one of them and with women taking up jobs and businesses it has assumed more importance than ever before!! happy mylotting!!
@savypat (20216)
• United States
13 Oct 08
I got married at 17, I have never regretted it. I really only wanted a family and that's what I got, now I have GGrandchildren at the age of 65 so I can enjoy them. I think eah person has to decied when they want to get married. Many people make a mistake no matter how old they are when they marry, just look at the divorce rate.
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
14 Oct 08
yes dear savypat the disturbance in marriage has resulted in increased divorce rate so it is all the more important to verify the credentials of the match!! and the family!! only after satisfying the go signal should be provided . and that is the reason why many couples are going in for so called love marriages rather than arranged ones! a early marriage is no guarantee of an sweet married life bu the chances are more for the adjustment of the girl in the new family!!
@amoisan (240)
• Canada
14 Oct 08
i got married at 27 but me and my wife were togher when i was 17 it took me time to get up the nerve to jump in to marrage i thought after haveing 3 kids and being togher for 10 years i should go all the way and i never regert any of it or never will.
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
14 Oct 08
strange are the ways of life!! is it not dearamoison? wonderful that you have a happy family and three lovely kids!! good luck and happy myloting!!
@meizyty (190)
• Indonesia
24 Oct 08
I got married very late at the age of 29 but I am very happy now with my good husband and my cute baby. Somebody decided married if she/he has find the right people as wife or husband.
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
13 Oct 08
I got married just weeks before my 24th birthday. I don't know if I have an opinion what the ideal age is. It would be different for different lifestyles, I suppose. I will compel my child to get married only when it is absolutely the right person.
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
13 Oct 08
thanks dear makingpots for responding to this discussion ! sure you are right dear no ideal age can be uniformally suggested as a rule for all to follow! it has to suit ones circumstances one is in ! happy mylotting!!
@icegermany (2524)
• India
13 Oct 08
i had got married at the age of 23. i think the girls get matured early and are more wiser at the small age when compared to boys. boys really take time to understand life and how life is and all its ups and downs. while a girl start thinking more wisely at the age of 20 but it is not the case with boys they still behave like childish and dont understand things. so i think for girls getting married after 20 is really not a problem but boys have to atleast cross their 27 and then i think it is a bit fine and they can take responsibilities and start understanding life. i think every person have to marry only when they are ready and also wish to get married and they should not be forced to get married as it is not a relation concerned with one person and it involves two lives and hence it should be done only when both the people agree and are ready to get married.
@despompa (472)
• Philippines
24 Oct 08
i married at the of 19. too young though, lol!! but i am ready to face the married and i have proven it. now i am 6years married and blessed to have a happy relationship. i don't think that a right age to marry really exists. i think it's how mature you are. maturity doesn't come by age neither, but it is when a person decided that he/she is ready for the big commitment. i am very happy and contented with my life had three kids. i sometimes feel down whenever i feel that what i planned for didn't fall into place exactly as i wanted but when i come to realize that maybe it's not how He wanted it to be then i accept it that way.
@arthi_88 (1516)
• India
13 Oct 08
I am not yet married and wont be before I am completely independent financially and i think there isn't any ideal age to be married...it depends from person to person...and no ne should be forced to marry at a certain age if they dont want to..Best wishes for your married life.. Have a nice day!
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
13 Oct 08
yes dear arthi_88, yes with he changing scenario this is additional qualification!! to be financially independent is rather more of a prerequisite these days!! thanks for the wishes and i wish that you too get the ideal mate early and get happily married soon!! happy mylotting!!
• India
13 Oct 08
I am 22 right now,still single. Just waiting for my guy to come in his horse and take me with him :-P Well I feel the ideal age for girls to get married is 24 while for guys is 28-29. Anddddd I will never thrust my views upon my children. I hate my parents doing that to me,so how would I do that to my children. Will definitely leave things to their choice bcos it's their life,they have all the rights to decide about it Cheers :)
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
13 Oct 08
yes dear savitha_r86, perhaps you are right. and i wish your prince charming comes on his plane and not the horse and flies you away to your dreamland!!!! and thrusting the opinion on children is never the best idea!! it is a question of their life!! we should respect their opinion fully!! happy mylotting!!