study hard and pursue YOUR dream...or ...study hard and pursue THEIR dream?

I can so relate with you...my parents kinda made me chose between three course. Medicine, Law and Engineering. Since I was into computers, I decided to take up Computer Engineering...but then ended up shifting to ECE -Electronics Communication Engineering- , which I was totally not into. So now that I graduated, I don't really have the intention of taking up the board exam cause I'm afraid that I don't have the capability for that. But...now, their insisting that I take the board exam. pffft. I was actually planning to take up a 2nd course, the course that I wanted. But now, they first want me to take up the board exam. As for your question, I think we should pursue our own dream. We should follow what we like when it comes to things like that...cause its us who suffers in the end. And for me, whatever course that you take, as long as you love it...then you'll be a successful person.

When I was going for college education, my parents suggested that I choose IT Engg. They wanted me to choose that because it involved money. But I looked a bit further down the road and made another decision.To choose Aeronautical Engg. As I said earlier, they suggested. They never forced me. And I'm very much happy about it. The IT sector in India has gone down and the demand for Aero Engg is on the top. I have to be frank that I cannot eel your anguish because I'm doing what I love and this has been the case with me for most of the times. bourne

I think parents need to be supportive of their child's decision in school. Personally, I feel parents need to stay out of their child's education after they get out of high school. The parents aren't the ones that have to live with their decision for the rest of their lives. They need to keep their noses out of their business and let them pick a major that is useful. I think parents need to make sure they're not going to school for one of those really pointless degrees but that is as far as parents should be able to step.

It's really not parent's job to make you major in certain something that they prefer, it's their job to make sure that their children go into the right path, and teach them the values that the children will need in the outside world. I am currently a college student, which I will DEFINITELY transfer to the community college, take classes there for 2 years, and transfer to GT (Georgia Tech) and major in computer science there. My dad really doesn't care what I wish to major in, as long as I give my fullest effort to whatever I choose to do, he really doesn't care. (as long as I don't end up in mcdonalds or other places like that and be a cashier or that sort of thing...) Well, my dad seems kind of depressed that I am not interested in electronical engineering, because he is a professional electrician (like one of THE BEST in the state) but he really doesn't care too much at all. I like computers, so I am planning on majoring in the computer science, and that's like my passion. Sorry that your parents are making you major in certain something that you really don't want to do or not interested in... but who knows, maybe they will give up on their dreams and let you pursue your own dream. happy mylotting :)

I understand how it feels. Fortunately for me, my parents now realized that maybe, just maybe, I should've studied a different course back then since my passion is drawing and not really programming. I still love programming, but not as much as drawing. I'm a creative person by nature, and to switch to logical side of me for my day job, is a little bit difficult. All I could say is, you control your life. Your parents wanted you to study THAT because they think THAT is the best subject for you. They wanted the best for you. Maybe you should talk to them? Have a heart-to-heart chat. :)

i guess one thing why the parents would insist on a course is that probably they have seen something in it that we can't realize because we were too young to understand it. i mean for one thing, nursing is usually the parent-pushy course to date. the parents could see that in the future their sons/daughters could earn a lot, eventually fulfilling their every dream as they grow up. when i was in my high school, i really did not know what to pursue. i was thinking from accountancy to law to hrm. but i've stopped searching because my parents wanted me to take up nursing. i was reluctant at first but as i got to know the course, i instantly fell in love with it. now i am an RN :) some people are just so closed-minded that they think that their parents just want to take control of their life. but sometimes i think they know better. now sis, i guess if you really love cooking, you can still be able to do it after all your studies. but i do agree that people should be able to finish the course or the dream job that they want. it depends on the person i guess. nursing is really not my dream job before but now, i think i've adapted the ways and i've loved it. if i get successful with this career, maybe in the long run i could still pursue the surgeon thingie :)

I don't think it is right. It's you who should choose not them. You will never enjoy the kind of job you have if it's not what you love doing. You will regret at the end if you will never follow what your heart desires. It happened to me and my brother and the result was not good.

i think i am in the same boat as you... i also study the course that other people want me to do... in this case, my elder brother... it is not really the course that i want... so now i also kind of regret it that i didn't work in the field that i study because i didn't like it... take care and have a nice day...

H[i]i Princess, It's not really good but since you are there already, you just need to finish that and if got time, even you can just enroll for short courses in cooking to realize your dream! I am not in the same situation when I was in College, we were given freedom to choose what to pursue anyway, I don't know if it's true that you will just learn to love your job![/i]

I sometimes feel the same way. I have been in school since I began to remember things. If I am a postofficer, I will be dependable. If I am a cooker, my cooking skill will really be awesome! I don't know what's going on? The study years that we spend may be the best or the worst of our lives. They say either a person has what it takes to study, or they don't. How well we will enjoy it, it is up to us. We are on it! Oh the other hand, I kind of get scared. I am afraid that when day I will not be a student anymore, which I get so used to.

No, I don't think it's proper NOR okay. In my observation, once you become a legal adult (which is 18 here), it is from that point on entirely up to you and you alone what you choose or decide to do with your own life. If that is continuing studies, that's fine - but you do that in regards to what YOU are interested in. If it is not even continuing studies but getting a job, moving out, getting married, having children, traveling, whatever, again it is entirely (or should be) your choice only. I have little patience for parents of grown children who insist on making their GROWN CHILDRENS' choices for them. I don't think this is fair and I don't think this is right, and if I were you I'd tell them to butt out immediately. I think it is a good idea to get a part time job when you are relatively young in order to 1. get experience 2. show people you have initiative and can be independent 3. have your own source of income. In this manner, parents KNOW that you can take care of yourself physically and financially and they may be less likely to meddle in your business as you get older. My two cents? Go pursue your dreams of cooking. You will be a more secure happier fulfilled person as a result. It doesn't matter what your parents think, this is YOUR life. They have their own lives and their own chance and choice to do what they wanted. This is your chance and your choice. Go do it, you won't be sorry.

Those who are forced into what they do not want never do well even if they had the potential; because they lose all motivation. Your lovely parents need to understand that you're a grown woman that has her full rights to choose whatever she wants. Go to a culinary school, there are many I'm sure, especially if you're in america you can find one here and there- since you love cooking, how about taking that to the next level?

i was put into the same situation.i have stayed in school for 18 years.now the thrlling time is coming soon .i will graduate at this fall.put myself into the competitive job market.

No, its not right for them to force you. do what you want, and are best at. Remember, it's you living your life and earning money for yourself, not them.

it is true that in many cases parents want their ward to persue career according to their dreams. it can be due to fact that parents expect too much. they always want their children to fulfill the things they were not able themselves.but it should not be the case. its good to guide, but not force

I know so amny people right now whose parents want them to be doctors, being the the science faculty in unviersit right now. It is honestly really sad becasue alot of these people, some my friends, have a really strong passion for something else. One of my really good friends for example really enjoys physics and would like to become an engeneer. Others want to pursue acting, writting, teaching and other professions. I always encourage them to do what they want to do becasue its their lives not their parents,but many say they dont want to disappoint their parents. When it comes down to it you should do something u feel passionate about, becasue thats is whats gonna drive you to keep going when things get hard.

U pursue ur dreams, if u start pursuing ur parents dream for time being ur parents may be satisfied and they'll be happy thinking that their son/daughters life is going to be gud and happy. But any person can't succeed in any field if their not interested in it.