my daughter is perfect, what do you mean?

HI there. Yes, i would love my daughter the same also, but i think the doctors are wrong in saying that she's not impared. Maybe not now she;s not impared, but what about when she starts to crawl, walk etc, then it's a different story. I'd get a second opinion.

Ahh, you have the mother's love. Nothing is quite as powerful as a mother's love and protection. Congradulations on your baby girls. Nobody can make this decision for you just know that whatever decision you make will be made out of love for your child and nomatter what you decide, it will be right. your child will understand. If you opt not to do surgery now, it is something she will be able to decide herself to do when she gets older. I have had to make the decision to put my child under anesthesia for surgery and I cried every day until after it was over and she was ok. It has been benificial and I don't have regrets. You love her and that is enough to get her through any discrimination that some cruel little kids and some adults may have. Your kind and encouraging words will make it all ok. Good luck, I will think about you.:-)

[i]I feel you dear. Congratulations on your two girls! This is a really difficult situation. It's something that requires a lot of thinking. You want your daughter to live a normal life like everybody else then at the same time you don't want her to experience any ailments caused by the surgery. Like the others said, I think you should get a second opinion. If they really tell you that the child's development will be deferred in the process, it's better that you have the surgery when she gets older. But like they also said, follow your heart. You are her mother and you know what's best for her. God bless and your two beautiful baby girls! [/i]

when we have a new born angels the first words of the doctor said is " your little girl/boy is perfect" we are very happy to accept that words for it is not so easy for us to have a baby with a side effect for there are some situation that it cannot help the surgery to make them complete one. but by the way i am happy that you have a prefect babies.

Such a tough choice to have to make. I would say you have to do what is best for you and your baby. But I have raised my daughter and now her son and he is a little over weight and the kids make fun of him I love him any way but the world is hard if every thing is perfect so I think if I was in your shoes I would have the surgery for that reason. You have to look at her future and I think when she becomes a teen she will be glad you got it done. Good Luck

Congratulations on your twins. My answer may not be popular here but I just want to ask one question and tell you one story. First the question: (this will not be easy) what happens when she goes to her grad and wants to wear grown up, high heeled open toed shoes? My daughter and most of her girlfriends wore these type of shoes for their grade 8 graduation. I know that the thought there is something wrong with your child is hard. I have another child that ended up with a type of brain damage due his birth. So I really do sympathize. Truly. He has ADHD which is a type of brain damage. He has numerous problems with social interaction due to the ADHD. The other point I would like to make is I had a friend that was actually in our wedding party that I made sure that she could pick out whatever she wanted to wear for foot ware because she had a club foot. She was extremely self conscience of it. She confided this to me numerous times over the years. Obviously this is a choice you must make yourself. But now you have lots of input from this site to help you. Please do not think I am trying to offend with anything I have said. I just wanted to inform. I hope I wrote everything delicately enough, if not I am truly sorry.

amberjean3 hi I think you should have the surgery done while she is young so it will heal more easily and you will know while it will be shaped differently she will 'be able to do all the things little girls love to do. Of course you love her so you will have her foot repaired now instead of much later . you can help her and you should. I injured my left foot whileexercising and due to the incompetency of my then doctor it was not repaired when it should have been .the quack didnt know a ruptured tendon from a simple sprain. then what could have been a simple surgery had been compounded by waiting too long. now all the foot surgeon could do was put me in special shoes with a heavy brace on myleft foot so I can at least walk.All these years and I could have had my left foot repaired when it first happened had I had a good doctor. so go ahead and get your darling all fixed up now. good luck and god bless you and her.

I love your love for your daughter. I think you should ask for a second and third opinion.

you know the only wish i have right now is to have twins to complete my family..and for them to be delivered normal and with no deformation whatsoever. i'm so sorry to hear that..how old are your twins anyway? i think you have to wait for your daughter to understand what situation she has. then maybe at the age where she can fully understand, you can ask her what she wants with her foot (surgery or no surgery).. just continue assuring and telling her that you love her nonetheless. good luck..my prayers are with you..;o)

she'd be perfect, get back and touch her side, comfort her first through these times, then you make her go with that decision. IT IS NOT YOUR CHOICE you just give her the choices, you'll love her for her choice and doesn't have to put you as decisive dictator(sorry for the term) just go with the flow, pray, scream it out and hope everything will be alright. the decision is beautiful, when the choices don't have the shadow of the doubt.