what's your opinion on divorce?

I think people rush into relationships too quickly and end them just as quick when one thing goes wrong. In this day and time, I believe people take for granted a good "relationship". Marriage isn't JUST a commitment, It takes dedication, unconditional love, for better OR FOR WORSE.. Not until one thing screws up. If you decide to get married, it should be because you deeply love that person wtih all your heart and you take the good with the bad. The word DIVORCE is one I personally hate. It's easy in time of anger to want a divorce, even though its a hard road to travel, especially if you have kids with whom you're divorcing, but I think if you once loved that person you married, to re-discover that happy place you two were once at. Talk about the happy times and forget the negative. I say if you never make "divorce" an option, you'll never feel the need to think of someone else to satisfy your needs...because in reality, the way you act in the first year of dating isn't how you'll act 10 years later. Might as well solve the problems you have with the one you love, instead of starting over again to repeat the process 10 years later.

I know this discussion is a couple of months old, but I just saw it tonight. Divorce is a tough topic to talk about and to go through, but as a child I dealt with it. Even though it was not easy, I think it was the best decision for all of us involved and I think that sometimes it is necessary. I think that people who stay together for the child/ren are letting their children down because children can feel the constant tension, even if you do not feel that it is there. Children do not always know how to respond to tension and how to show their feelings, but they know there is something going on. I agree with random's response about how divorce affects children and adults, but I think that sometimes divorce is the best choice for everyone. Counseling does not work for every couple, so divorce is the next option. You need to do what is best for you, but mostly for the children.

I think divorce is a bad thing and that people should not be allowed to get married and then divorced so easily,because marriage is supposed to be eternal,and you are not supposed to get married unless you have found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with,and I think divorce should not be a word that is in the media so often,and children should not have to be from divorced parents,and me and my fiance are engaged to get married,and we are going to become husband and wife,next September,and love each other,and we are getting married because we love each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together.

Well so far, my husband and I believe that marriage is not just between us. We made a promise to God to accept the other person into our lives and never part. We cherish that. We have been through HELL in the beginning but we dug our heals in and honored our committment to each other and to God and stuck with it. We wanted better then divorce for our children. We knew we couldn't continue being married like we were, always fighting, but we thought staying married would be best for everyone as we didn't want to become a statistic either. So we went to counseling and made the decision together to change the way we were. It has worked so far and we know our values and what we want out of that aspect of our life. Our children and their future and happiness are the most important to us and we feel like us staying married is the best way to give them that. We want them to see us being happy family and know what to look for in a husband and to have high expectations in marriage. We want to teach our children our committment so that they can carry that into their future. Hope this makes sence.

Divorce is a seven letter word which is easy to pronounce. But difficult to go through. Divorce can never be good for children. Infact it is never good for either of the partners as well. Unless one has already moved out of the relationship. Its a paiful procedure which leaves an impact on the spouses going through as well the children. It is difficult to deal with for the kids. Never know how it effects the mind of the child/kids. If people marry for love then they should also realise marriage means compromise. Not in the literal sense but knowing a person and living are two different things. So once married one should stop building castles in the air and start facing ground realities. It might avoid DIVORCE and the pain all go through.