Do you get along with your father?

@cream97 (29087)
United States
October 19, 2008 1:45pm CST
How is your relationship with him? Please share. Thanks!
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@psspurgeon1 (1109)
• United States
19 Oct 08
Well, my bio father was murdered when I was 14 and no we weren't close. The man I call my dad does not talk to me anymore cause of my stepmom not liking me. I think she was afraid I'd overshadow her two delinquents as she wouldn't let him talk to me or anything. One year, he had my car fixed for me and she gave me a reciept of what he paid for christmas. So I don't really have a dad anymore, all the more reason for me to make my marriage work and make sure my kids never feel like I felt for so many years!
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
19 Oct 08
That is very sad to hear!!!Why do stepmoms have to be so wicked?? They try to change how a father feels about their daughter. I also have a stepmom, and she told my dad not to help me get my driver's license, because I have a husband.. I even gave him pictures of me, and he gave them all to his sister, so that she could put them up in her house. He said that my stepmom does not want my pictures in her house.. I have never given my dad any more pictures of me, and not even of his own grandkids.. Stepmothers can be very cruel, evil and jealous! So, I know how you must feel.
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@Tammuz (347)
• Romania
19 Oct 08
Well..this is a tricky question.The relationship with family is not very far from any other relationship.There are ups and downs. If you'd ask me this question 2 years ago..I'd say that I get along very well with my father.But..2 years..is a lot of time.I moved to another city,we almost lost contact for one year.When I came back..well,it's like he was brainwashed by my sister.Instead of the nice 'welcome home' all I heard was that I managed to screw up my life,I didn't accomplish anything so far,I care more about traveling and moving around like nomads instead of settle down,get married,have 5 kids and hate my life for the rest of my days,like everybody else. So..I guess I don't get along very well with my father,since we didn't have a talk since last Christmas. But...patience is a virtue.I'm still trying to keep in touch with him,by phone,by postcards,sending gifts,and so on.I'm still dreaming about the day he'll realize that life ain't about getting married and having kids at the age of 24 anymore.I am still dreaming about the day he'll be proud of his youngest daughter,for being who she wanted to be:an independent woman who's happiness and welfare is not depending (at least not entirely) on someone else. I rumbled a lot..I always tend to do that :)) Best of luck
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
19 Oct 08
Yes, it would be nice if you and your father could reunite. My father complains about me too. I am his oldest daughter and he makes me feel like I am the middle child. He gets so mad with me.. I have done the best that I could in life, and he still does not see my worth.. Nothing about me makes him happy at all. I don't know why fathers are so disapproving of their own daughters. All I know is that I try to not let it get to me.. And you should too. Just continue to live your life, pleasing to God, and I am sure that with him you will never, ever be considered a failure or a mistake!
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
20 Oct 08
How sad... I hope that one day you could meet him, and establish some kind of communication.. I know that you must be thrilled about having a decent relationship with your stepfather..
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20 Oct 08
I don't have a relationship with my father at all. I am nearly 18 and have not seen him once or been in contact with him since I was 10 years old. However my step-dad is the best, I get on really well with him and always have done. He treats me and my brother as if we are his own kids.
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@relundad (2310)
• United States
19 Oct 08
My relationship with my father is a very good one. The older we have gotten the better our relationship has gotten. When I was growing up he was away from home alot working so it wasn't as close as it could have been. He has been an instrumental role model in my son's life since I am a single parent and a male role model is not in my home. He has been what I considered a better grandfather which in turn makes him a better father to me.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
19 Oct 08
That is really great to hear! I hope that you continue to have a wonderful relationship with your father! You are very lucky to be able to get along with him, in the way that you do!
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• India
19 Oct 08
Since my dad passed away when i was just three years old, i could not say anything about it. Anyway happy mylotting.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
19 Oct 08
I am so sorry to hear this. You were so young when your father passed away.. I know that he is smiling down on you from Heaven..
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• India
19 Oct 08
You are right. I hope so.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
19 Oct 08
Yes, I hope so too. He has a wonderful child..
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@missybear (11391)
• United States
19 Oct 08
No, he's a retired plummer.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
19 Oct 08
Okay.. I see.. Well at least he is still living..
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@missybear (11391)
• United States
19 Oct 08
My dad is very far away in germany. I only seen him twice in 24 years, but we talk on the phone. Not that much, holidays and birthdays mostly. I love my dad and I know he loves me, we just so far appart it's hard to get together.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
19 Oct 08
I know that you miss him and love him so dearly.. Someday, he will be back, and the two of you can go out to celebrate.. I know that you will be glad when he gets back home. Is he by any chance in Iraq? If, you don't mind me asking...
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
19 Oct 08
I am so sorry, I meant to say, is he in the Armed Forces?
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@missybear (11391)
• United States
19 Oct 08
Oops i put it in the wrong spot. He's a retired plummer and the reason that he is in germany is that we are german, but i got married in 1984 and came over to america.
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@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
21 Oct 08
Most of the time, I don't wanna talk to much with my father. He just pushed me so hard though he didn't know that. Since I went school, he has never been satisfied with my achievement. All he said would be that you should work a little harder. Anyway, I know he wish me good luck and I will treat him well in return. But it is really to have a heart to heart talk with him
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@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
well i am not close to my father ever since, until i got married and live far from my parents i rarely contact my father. i know that he is special to me but i never felt that he do cares for me. sometimes i am thinking that he never give an attention to his siblings because we are too many. but i really respect my father and still i love him.
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@fasttalker (2796)
• United States
21 Oct 08
My relationship with my father is great. I must admit I am one of those Daddy's little girls that everyone hates! LOL We go out to eat dinner every Friday night and always have, even when I was a little girl. He has always been there for me and as he is getting older I am always there for him now. If I need something I woul call my dad before I would my mom. Although I love my mom and get along with her great too. We have always been close and I am glad that I still have him in my life! He is 78 years old today!
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• United States
23 Dec 08
My real dad passed away when I was very young and I did not have a chance to really get to know him . My grandmother and grandfather raised me. So my pop was my dad. We fought like an old couple and snickered and bickered. I think this was out of boredom and teasing each other. He was the best man I have ever met or known. I miss him dearly , and cherish the thoughts and memories we had together. We had our bought , specially when I was a teenager , yet I was a daddy's girl all the way. I wish we had more time to share , yet I know he is with me and he watches over me .
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
27 Oct 08
Now that I am all grown up, I am a Daddy's girl. I can tell him anything, and I listen to him too. Hey, parents are human too, and sometimes need an ear to listen to them.
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• Australia
22 Oct 08
Yes, I get along with my father. Sometimes we do have disagreements but we get over it, I reckon I have one of the best father's.
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• Philippines
21 Oct 08
hi. I am close to my father. I am even closer to him than my mother. He tends make me spoiled when I was a child but now that I am grown up, he became strict and greatly interrupted with my decisions specially when it comes to my studies. In College he forced me to take Bachelor of Arts major in Political Science. When I graduated, thougtht it is all over. But no. He forced me to take up Law. As a daughter who is so much dependent to him, I adhered to what he wanted. But one thing I disobeyed him is my choice of religion. Actually, the religious institution I joined is not a religion but a full gospel one. I disobeyed Him because I know in my heart that above my father, I have a greater Father whom should I follow and should give my life into--God. I love my father but I love my Father in Heaven more. I obey my father here on earth but I should obey my Father in Heaven above all. Godspeed.
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• Philippines
24 Oct 08
It was lso good, though I find it really challenging as he is a little bit strict. I'm happy that I'm discovering his new attitudes as we get along everyday. He is loving. He is understanding but I don't tell all my secrets to him especially about lovelife.
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
20 Oct 08
Hello cream. I get along with my father as well as my mother. But when something important comes, I prefer to talk about it with my mother, as she is more aware of the understanding of us kids as always though it is the same with my father.
@ryzach (1544)
• United States
20 Oct 08
My father has been gone from this earth for 11 years now but when he was here we got along great. We could talk about anything and he sure had some great stories. He was the kind of guy who could talk to anyone, he just had a great personality. When he told his stories on how "things used to be" he had your total attention just by the way he told the story. He could also tell great jokes too. I miss him alot and always think of him and hold onto to the precious memories.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
20 Oct 08
For the most part I do. He can aggravate the day lights out of me sometimes but I love him and always will however, he has hurt me bad today and I'm teary eyed over it but I'll some how find a way to talk to him about it but in a way that I don't want to be praised but to be reconnized for mine and my husband's efforts for we've become invisible and my brothers are celebraties in his eyes.
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
13 Nov 08
We have a really good relationship. He's always been the one that I could easily talk to. Every time I was feeling low, he'd let me sit in my room alone for a while, come up, and start talking to me about something that he felt was close to what was bothering me. And he was always right. If he wasn't, well, ... he was 98% of the time. He always knew me so well. Probably because I'm a lot like him
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
No I don't. he was self absorb man and have no communication with him since last year and only talk to him when I have no choice, he abandoned us for some girl 12 years ago and now he has 3 kids from that girl and he still keeps on philandering and now he also have a kid from another woman. he is not much of father to us then and we are somehow grateful that my mom and him got separated. and now we were indifferent towards him.
• Ireland
1 Nov 08
My relationship with my dad is great :) i can talk to him about anything and we have a very normal father son activity......skydiving :) ha but yeah i love him loads, he is great :)