Meeting An Online Friend For The First Time

That sounds so sweet, I hope it all turns out well for both of you. I think sometimes more of ourselves, more of our personalities come out thru the written word. This might sound strange or not make sense. I think it might be easier to hide (ourselves) in person then online. Who we are comes thru when we are talking online, I hope you understand what I am trying to say. I have met lots of terrific people here on mylot, I feel like I really know some of them. We have become friends even though we probably will never meet in person. Take care and have fun. Oh BTW welcome to mylot, I hope you enjoy your time here.

Good luck soul-- u know what they say beauty is skin deep i think that u both r lucky people for finding that kind of relationship on line.If u feel this way about her and u have not even been physical with her yet i think u have a good thing going on there u all got a chance for 2 years to really get to know the person inside each other so now meeting for the first time to touch its so amazing u r right to feel that way of excitement and nervousness because u guys r hoping that u stand up to each other expectations hey just relax its going to be just fine u already got the hard part off already just be yourself. Good luck man all the best.

Congradulations to you and your friend I hope everything goes very well for the both of you. My online meeting people to spend time with never has gone very well lol but I didn't talk to some of them for very long before we met. I was looking for love in the wrong men I have however made some very very good friends who are male and they have always been there for me, altho we have never met in person I do feel very close to them. Don't be nervous you will be fine just remember all the times you felt good online when you have talked with her and things will just fall into place.

Feelings are feelings. It doesn't matter whether they develope from seeing someone daily or talking to them over the phone, or the net. Being excited and nervous are just normal in a situation like this. You would feel the same way if friends had set you up with another of their friends, right? Same difference, I am sure. I have a suggestion. We have done this several times. Tell this woman to write down where she is going to be, for how long, and a phone number where she can be reached, at all times Put this in an envelope and give it to someone she trusts, telling them when she expects to be back home. YOu do the same thing. Just because you are a man doesn't mean something couldn't happen to you during this meeting. This is not to make you even more nervous. This is supposed to make you feel a little more safe, knowing that you know and she knows that there will be people who know where you are, should something not go right. Like I said, this is just a suggestion. Something that we found to be useful for all concerned. Things will be fine. Just enjoy meeting her and have a good time. Good luck*S*

Well, I got my hubby thru internet. Luckily for me, he is a gem in disguise. We are married and have 2 beautiful boys. When I met my hubby, I didnt think he is the man for me because of the long distance. We chat alot online and met each other 2 times a years. This relationship goes on for 2 years until I take the courage to move to him. Lucky for me, it works out. I have friends that met people online and get married and later divorce. So it still very much depends on yours fate.

If you have been talking to her for 2 years and you love everything about her, surely nothing will change when you meet her in person. It is an exciting and nervous time when you first meet someone in person, but it would also be my guess that somewhere along the way you fell in love...Kudos to you for being her inspiration!!! Love begins with friendship!!

[i]Hi soul_life, wow..that is cool! Actually, I have a lot of friends who met their lovers through txting or chatting, and what you are feeling is just normal and I am sure she is also feeling that way but as long as you will continue to talk regularly, you will be able to overcome that nervousness, that is only part of your excitement! Congrats and then good luck![/i]

Oh I had that kind of feeling too. Actually my husband and I is somewhat like your situation. I was excited but nervous. I just don't know how will I approach him or talk to him face to face. And I think it is a normal feeling for online lovers or long distance. All you need to do is act normal don't get so nervous fight against your nervousness. I know it's not that easy. Talk to her like how you talk via phone. Eventually you will realize that you are now talking more and more and all the nervousness are all gone and you feel now comfortable with each other. Good luck to you! I wish you the best!

Your feelings are very normal. I met my partner online like this and I fell in love with him before we met because he seemed so wonderful. I knew from experience that no matter how wonderful a person might seem when you meet them online it might not work in the flesh. You have to meet to know if the chemistry between you will let you take the relationship further. In my case it worked. We met had dinner and he was every bit as wonderful as I thought he would be. We have been together for over 4 years now and are very happy. So yes you will be nervous because you do not know if it will work, but that is so normal. Just go ahead with your preparations as you would with any other date. The only difference is that you know this girl better than most girls you ask out for a date. I really hope everything works out well for you. I really believe in online meetings and I have tried both kins before. My experience is that when you connect to a person on line you get to meet the inner person first and I think that is really the best part of a person, that is the real person. I am sure everything will work out in person and you will be very happy.

I think it is very normal. For one thing by meeting online and talking without meeting in person, you have had the chance to get to know her without the distraction of physical interaction. You like her for the person she is and not what she looks like. The real test comes now that you all will actually be in close proximity to each other. You have to realize that each of you have had something of a fantasy about what it would be like to be with each other in person. I just hope you both live up to the fantasy or expectation and are not disappointed. Good luck.

Yes it is normal to have this gamut of feelings. I myself am in an online relationship and my feelings go all over the place. The reason you are nervous is cause like all of us you are human. We all want someone to be with in life, and now adays with the internet we are able to go past just mere physical attraction. She is a big part of your life and the nervousness is natural as you want more than anything for in person to continue with no wierdness online. It is like when you were in highschool and you even though you knew the girl you wanted to take to the prom, were nervous to ask her. This is similar as it is the first time you will get to touch her physically to hug her. Don't stress so much, you have a solid foundation set already as you are already friends.

It's normal to feel nervous since you've never met the person before and there are all these uncertainties. What will happen if the person stop talking to you or vice versa after that? What if the person is scary and rude? What if he/she is a cheat? Things like that are common. Just be natural. ;)

love happens u cant control it it can happen by phone or net or any other source , i think it is possible to have such feelings

It will surely develope feelings even though you guys only talk on the phone. but it was 2 years, it will definitely have feelings for each other. i am glad for you that she will be coming for your birthday hence you guys will get a chance to meet. Maybe you can tell her about your feelings towards her, i guess its pretty normal to have feelings for someone even though u only talk on the phone with her. all the best!

Well, the funny thing about the internet is that people in the internet may be totally different from the person in real life. Things like this can be deceiving and it might create disappointments. So, what you should do is prepare for whatever and just take things easily. Don't get overexcited or anything. Take is as meeting a new friend. Don't push things too far, you need to know people more deeper before committing to anything big. Just be careful, that's my advice. Also, all the best with your meet-up and happy birthday :D (at least an early one for you)