what do you think of a woman who has 8 children before she was 25 years old?

i think it is sad because she missed out on her teenage years and this is the time when you are supposed to hang out with friends and have fun. i also think it is sad because she relies on the government to pay all her bills and that is a burden to the rest of society.

Thats really sad. I heard them saying something about getting peoples tubes tied if they are living on welfare and sadly I think they should it would probably be cheaper then just letting them have all the kids they want. By different dads where in the world are these dads. Bring all of them to court and she would probably be rich lol. Maybe the economy wouldn't be so screwed up if it wasn't for people like this.

I think it is very sad that your friend has lived her life this way. I wonder what made her do it . If it was a lack of education, or a lack of training? Perhaps she was abused early in her life and that is all she knew. Whatever it was, it is sad. I don't regret the "system" helping her out financially as much as I resent the lack of support that the "system" has given her in teaching the right way to live. If parents don't do it then schools should do it. Clergy should step in, also. Mental health counselling might have helped her early on. It would have been better for the "system" to pay for therapy for her in the beginning. Her life could have been so much better. -Also, her children's lives could have been a lot better. they are the true sufferers here. They are probably not being taught what they should know about life, either.

wowww... it is incredibel... being a mother at 12 and have 8 children when she is 25??? what does she think she is doing??? and it is from 8 different fathers as well... i can't believe it... she is ruining her own life and teenage years... i won't have a child if i feel that i am not ready yet mentally, physically and financially... that's why i haven't had a child yet until now because i want to be a responsible mother... take care and have a nice day...

I think people like that should have their tubes tied after three kids. I also think they should be made to go back to school and then go to college to get a two year degree. She can do it, even if she is lazy, which with that many kids, unless she is a bad mom, she is busy every minute of the day. So if welfare is giving her all that, then they will help her with daycare so she can get her education and support her own kids. I know there are people out there that know all about the welfare and think they can live on it forever and not work. But the world is changing and I know at least 3 states already that make the moms and dads on welfare get out there and finish school and get a job.

Given the situation your friend was in, I don't think this is healthy for her, for the children, or a responsible use of resources. HOWEVER. This doesn't mean I feel this way about everybody who might have 8 children by 25. I feel that if someone is in a secure loving relationship and continues to be in one, and they are consenting adults or legally emancipated, then there is no issue to how many children they have, especially if they are financially, physically, and mentally independent. I really dislike when somebody lives off the government and then has children while doing that, but I also dislike people who think people who happen to be young should not have children. Whether some people like it or not, there ARE some very young couples who are good parents and completely independent and there is no reason they shouldn't have children.

I think if the state is supporting her, they should have taken care of that after she had 3. That is so many to ever be able to support on her own. I knew a girl that they took 3 of hers away from her and made her get a tubal.

They can make mmore off the system than they can working. and its a shame that she was so young with the first one. And I hate having to share my SS with people that never worked a day in their life I had to work very hard to get what I get and so did hubby. and then there arethe illeagals getting stuff that they refuse people in deep need for things like food stamps when in between jobs. Y a work like heck then out of a job for like a year and have to fight tooth and nail just to get a feww food stamps to feed your family then ya have the ones that have all these kids! Makes me so mad. Some states have put in they can have no more than 2 kids and after so long they have to get a job! think something like 3 years!

I seriously do not think anything other than this, sooner or later she will pay the concesequences of having 8 kids young, body wise and mind wise, that is a lot of stress for anyone. I am going to imagine that sooner or later she will not be able to just get the check, she will have to work and well find out that sooner or later kids grow up and she needs to support herself.

This should be classified as a mental illness! Very sad for everyone involved!

oh my goodness at 12 years old this man that touch my daughter will have gotten a beat down just because of messing with my 12 year old.her parents should have protected her by going to the law on this man.she still a child herself.i can,t imagine how hard it must be for thei person.she don,t know who the father of these children on my goodness this is bad.i wish her nothing but good fortune because she is going to need it.and i know she miss her mom.

That is a shame. She had her first one at 12 now thats just too young. Did her parents ever think too put her on some form of birth control after she had her first child. I am 29 years old and I only have one child and it is hard so I know its hard to be 25 with 8 kids and they all have different fathers now that is a shame.

Your friend is too young to be having so many babies at such an early age. At this age, she should still be at school and having fun like the other kids. I believe she went thorough a lot of pressures and stress. I am just so sorry that noone stepped in to try to help out where her parents failed. Anyway, pray that her future get better and her kids gets a bright future..

someone needs to tell her about birth control.she haven't learned yet, that the men only what one thing.what is she going to do when they stop those checks.she need to give them up to someone who can't have kids or someone who can afford them.

I didn't think it was such a bad thing when I read your title. I thought to myself that's her choice. My grandmothers had 8-9 kids by the time they were 30. So, I didn't find that part strange either. Now the part which I thought was a problem was....all the kids have different daddies. AND the fact that she is on welfare and the kids are paid for by the government (which indirectly means it is the money you give as tax). Now, I wouldn't be very happy with that part.

That's too difficult. I'm pretty sure this mother who has 8 children really had a difficult living, it's not easy because at the age of 12 she has already her 1st child,that's too young to become a mom. It's good that the government help her and her children for them to eat. How about the father of these children? It's not really easy, so, better think of the future before having a child..

You say, annjilena, that this woman is your friend, but you do not speak of her in a friendly manner. So often it is easy for us to judge someone when we are in better circumstances than they are. Yes, she has made some poor choices in life. I believe the main focus here should be on the kind of mother she is. Maybe she is doing the best that she can in a bad situation. I'm not trying to condone her behavior; simply observing that if you are truly a friend you should try and persuade her to return to school and better herself.

It's probably too late for HER, but not for her kids, & any she may YET have. The children need to go to a good home to get decent examples of parents, who will teach them how NOT to wind up as their mother has. Sad, but that's life when parents fail, as hers did, to not only =teach= her, but & PREVENT her from doing stupid things. Bit the KIDS must NOT be made to suffer for this! Maggiepie

First child at age 12 and a total of 8 children by 8 different men (or probably boys). I'd say that this makes a good case for forced sterilization. One state in the US does not increase a woman's welfare check after the 2nd child. They pay for 2 children and that's all. Sounds like a good idea to me. If she can't raise all her children on what the state pays, she should give them up for adoption at birth. There are many families who want children and could take better care of them. My best friend in high school quit school in her sophomore year to get married. I pretty well lost track of her. I finished school, moved to the city and went work. About 10 years later, I found out where she was living and went to see her. Since my husband was overseas at the time, I thought that this would be our chance to renew our friendship. However, I discovered that wee had absolutely nothing in common. She already had 8 children (she finally had a total of 10), and I only had one at that time. Her husband was a construction worker who worked in the summer when the weather was good. In the winter, they lived off welfare. I never saw her again.

I think in a way it is quite sad. Your friend has missed out on so much of her own life for a start, besides becoming pregnant underage which can't be good for her body - she has barely grown up and developed or got used to her body as it should be never mind all the strain a pregnancy puts on your body. I also feel sorry for the children having different dads, there can't be a true family bond.I am sure she loves all her children. If somebody purposely puts themselves in these situations and then the tax payers have to pay for their chosen way of life - this is unfair because there are so many other things that this money is needed for - healthcare/education(for your friend it seems)/housing etc. I can accept a mistake as it may be a sinister reason why a very young person (especially 12)may get pregnant or just stupidity, but to do it 8 times is totally irresponsible. I got pregnant when I was 17, it was a mistake, I thought about how my life would bethe fathers and how the life of the child would be if I had carried on with the pregnancy. I couldn't provide a decent life for my child and at 17 there was no way I could say I would be with the father for the idefinite future and I certainly did not want to be a single mother, that is not fair on anybody. We both came to a joint decision of the best course of action and although I felt incredibly sorry for doing this to my baby, it may have suffered more if I had have continued with the pregnancy.I learnt a huge lesson from this because I lived not knowing if I would ever have a child and if that had been my only chance,but I know I couldn't have grown up, learnt about myself,worked and found my husband if I had have gone through with it. I now have a 2 year old daughter that has a stable and happy home life where she does not want for anything (but is not spoilt) - I made the right decision, but I only knew this after she came along knowing how hard it is and what a strain it puts on your life having a child. I could never put my child or myself through a life of benefits and 8 different daddies.