Am I a bad mom?

You feel guilty because you love him. A smack on the bottom is a teaching tool. You son, as my sons did , have to learn to respect. You did the right thing and hopefully won't have to do it again. I didn't use a smack as the first form of discipline however when the crime fit the punishment a smack was issued.

I have a 3 yr old son and I can understand that situation. I am not married though so I don't know how to relate "the husband" thing..anyways, kids at this age is easy to lure..you can lure and make up stories...like if you walk extra kilometers your bones would be so strong and you can be superman and things like that. toddlers are really absorber...they absorb what you say...they learn quickly. if you hit them, they would learn to be afraid and that will make them more hard headed. They will do things because they are afraid of the outcomes if they do not do...would you like a kid with low self -esteem? No of course... my son is a confident little rascal...i bombared his ego with good stuff not with negatives...coz if you say negative stuff to them they would learn to repel...and they would bring that until they grow. I usually tell my kid if he wants me to carry him...Ooopps superman fly right? not being carried by their mommies... show mommy ur superman...ohh that's great...that's impressive..and stuff like that..and my son would really walk extra meters...plus my kid is like 24 kilos at 3 years old...it's like ur carrying a half sac of rice..hehehe..

you are not a bad mom you a human but you have to remember that you are the parent and he is the child and there are always consequences for ones actions and if you dont discipline him now he will walk over you later so a little smack on the butt will now kill him once in a while dont feel guilty for your actions i am sure in todays society many parents are going through the terrible twos and threes so just know that you are not alone and you must always let your son know who the parent is!!!! because in todays society many parents are trying ot be there childs friends and allow there kids to do whatever whenever!!!!! parents stop tryin got be your child friend and be there parent they dont need friends at home they need parents so grow up act like a parent and not a friend!!!! happy mylotting chow for now!!!!!

Mothers can never be bad. Mothers always do and think for what is best for the child. U hit him on his butt. That is fine. I know being a mother i never hit my son. But sometimes what happens is when we have an only child , we love him/her so much that we hate to see a tear in their eye. the end result we do everything what they want. we never say a no.never think of making them understand what is right or wrong or what can be done or cannot. We think they are too young to understand. The end result being they become stubborn. So things like this happen. It can happen with neone. Even with me. No exceptions. But what we as a parent need to realise is that the child should be made to understand the limitations to a lot of things. Everything should not be listened to. I hate my son crying. Cannot stand a tear in his eyes. But had to go thru the pain of seeing him cry. I did not hit him. But stopped meeting his unjustified demands. Something like playing with cellphone and throwing it or the remote. Noe he does not throw these items. Infact he comes n gives it back to me when asked. He is just more than a yr old. And believe me he understands and realises a lot. kids learn fast even at a young age. So just be cool. You would soon find a way to this problem.

Just my two cents... I believe disciplining should start at an early age. Be firm, never give in to your child's whining or tantrums. You know what's best for him. Eventually, this will pay off and will make him understand that he can't get all the things that he wanted. As for your husband spanking your child, I just wish that he is in control of his feelings. I mean, it's hard if you're spanking a child simply out of anger. There are times too that I get mad at my kids. What i do is, I try to stay away from them for a while to blow off steam. When I'm "okay", I confront them and try to explain things. Fortunately, I do not have to resort to spanking 'coz believe it or not, they do understand what I'm saying (my kids are 6 and 3yrs old, by the way). Never underestimate the minds of these kids. ;) Wish your family well.

NO. spanking your child does not make you a bad parent. i think the old saying " spare the rod, spoil the child" fits in this case. I think that by spanking him you made him realize he was going to get punished if he didn't straighten up and this in turn may have kept him from getting out into traffic and getting ran over. I do not believe in child abuse, but i do think there are cases when you will have to spank your child to teach them right from wrong.

Well it depends on how hard you've hit him. If it was just to shake him up to his senses then maybe it is just fine but if you hit him hard that he is physically hurt then I would say its really bad. Well kids are really like that they want to test our patience with them. I am not a parent that also like hitting them. As far as I recall I haven't hit my child. I do shout at him when things get our of control and fortunately he obeys immediately when ordered to do so that is why I haven't resorted to hitting him. I would also dread the day that I would do that to my son.

No that does not make you a bad mom, you just did want you think is right. If I were in your situation I might do the same. Your mother instict run into you and you are just concern about the safety on your child that's why you were able to hit him on his butt.

I try not to spank my children often, but sometimes they do need it. It's natural to feel bad or guilty, but you also need to know that you're doing the right thing by teaching your child to obey you. He could have hurt himself or been hit by a car, so you had to correct the behavior, and since he wouldn't calm down or listen to you speak, then you had no alternative. I think you did the right thing, and I would have done the same.

hi there. sometimes, as mom, we have to exercise tough love. dont feel guilty when you spank you child. even the Bible says "Spare the rod and spoil the child." but make sure when you do it, its not out of anger but out of love. then after the child calms down, explain to him why you spank him. tell him that you love him and want him to obey you because you want him to grow being a good person. taking care of toddlers takes a lot of patience. please read the book "Train up a child" by SALA. hope it helps in disciplining you child.

No it doesn't make you a bad mom, I rarely spank my kids I mostly send them to their room or a time out on the first bottom step. But sometimes I get so frustrated when they don't listen like at stores or somewhere that I give them a little spank, nothing hard like I'm beating them but just so they know that I'm serious and it's not a game or joke and that I won't tolerate fits especially if they may endanger themselves.

no ,you are a good mom.when your child is doing a mischievous action.you dont hit him ,for you are loving him .you dont want to make him get some hurt,this is the mom 's love.but it is wrong ,Spoiling the child to be equal to that has harmed the child.it is a trueth.........

Are you a bad mom because you feared that car that passed you by could have easily struck him? Of course NOT. You felt guilty because you couldn't think of anything else. People say things like get down to the child's level and speak in a even tone voice with them... my cousin tries that with her children but it rarely works. You hit him on his rump not on his face. If you hit him on his face then yes feel guilty. But on his behind no.. don't. Once you hit him (next time) take him aside and ask him (when you get home or have the time) do you know why mommy did that? Explain how scared you were... he'll get scared to once you say a car could have hit you and you could have been hurt real bad. Children understand the concept of pain. You think my hitting you hurt honey, a car hitting you would have been worse. He is at that age where it is near impossible to reason with them because they get more stubborn. So no blind_eyed you are NOT a bad mom rather you are a wonderful one to care so immensely! =)

i think you are a kind mother.for a toddler,their demand sometimes indeed unreasonable,after all they are kids.but like your hubby treat kid badly,i'm not appreciate that means.that's too violently.for kids,they are lack of enough knowledge to get what their parents are thinking,even they don't listen to what parents speaking.there is no need to be guity for you,just treat kid kindly,enough.wish your family happy.

Hitting your kid sometimes is appropriate. You did that for his own benefit and not because you have some intention to hurt him. If I were you I think I would do the same because if I don't hit him he would not obey and if he ran ahead of me and being hit by the car, I would regret it much, much more. The thing you did was expected and it was normal. And it is also normal for your son and it is considered as a phase of learning on his side. He will now understand if he doesn't behave good, he will get punished. In this world we also follow the same rule, so you are actually helping him to learn how to live in the reality. Having to take care of a 3 year old boy is the hardest moment, I think. This is the moment when they are fastest in action, but still not wise at all for their own safety. They are willing to try on anything without the slightest hint of fear. This is time when you will have to be patient. No, you are not a bad mom. Instead, you are a terrific mom because you help your kid to know not all the times he will be pampered. He already learned his lessons now. Next time he would recall you hitting him if he disobey you while trying to cross the road. And he won't repeat the same behavior because his bad behavior is not approved by you.

I think there is a difference between hitting and spanking. It sounds like you spanked your son. Hitting implies abuse. I don't think a wack on the bottom with your hand once or twice is abuse. So, no you're not a bad mom.

You are definately not a bad Mom. Your child was misbehaving and putting himself in a dangerous situation. He needed that smack on the bottom. Don't feel bad because you love your son and not only want to teach him right from wrong, but also keep him out of harms way. If he obeyed you after the smack on his bottom, he obviously understood that what he did was wrong. He is at the age at which he will learn things quickly, but also try to push his limits. It is important for you to be consistant in any disciplin so he knows his limitations with you. If not, he will walk all over you as he gets older.

Never ever think that what you did would make you a bad mom. That particular incident for instance really needed you to act on your initiative since you don't want your child to get hurt. Don't feel bad about it, I know your kid is smart and he understands you. My mom spanked me before, at first I hated her but I slowly realized that she meant good for me. Talk to your little boy and explain to him in his level why you did that. ^^,

i do not think you're a bad mom. sometimes children throw tantrums and are really hard to handle when they cant get what they want. i personally do not believe in hitting a child, but there are vertain situations when you got to do what you got to do to get their full attention. some children, specially thsoe crucial ages, no matter what you say, since they're too young, they will not understand you, and the only way to get them to follow you is so hit them, not very hard, in fact just as lightly as you can, but enough just to make them understand that you mean business.

well, dont be so upset, u r a good mother, u know, kids in this age always be naughty, when he's growing up, he'll know how much u love him....