me and my big mouth....

i THINK YOU ARE talking about your sharp tongue and not your big mouth. The person who knows to talk will not have any kind of fight or regrets. Thats why known people say " Think before you speak".

take it slow then and think before talking hugs

i agree with you that our mouth can be a very deadly weapon if we did not use it properly and can really hurt other people... that's why i always try to speak less nowadays and think first before i speak... if i think that it is unnecessary, then i won't say it... take care and have a nice day...

You are always kind to others. I don't think you would ever say anything intentionally out of the way to anyone.

Hi, Zelmarq.. We're the same. My family says I have a sharp tongue since I say whatever I want regardless.. I am very frank and straightforward especially to people close to me. But they don't understand that I'm doing that for their own sake. But then maybe I should speak less impudent to get my point across. I can't control my mouth to blab and blab almost about anything so I often hurt other people's feelings. But sometimes I don't regret saying them. Now, I'm content being a friend to people without being tactless since I can only talk to them through text messages, email and like here in myLot, through discussions. I can edit my choice of words and make it sound a little tact. lol ^^v

There is a reason there's the saying "the truth hurts", because often it does. But sometimes we need to hear it in order to realize it fully. But it's true, tact is another thing that needs to be considered. You can still speak your mind in a tactful way, although even then, sometimes it can still hurt others. I'm glad that you've learned something new about yourself, and have found it's something you don't like and are taking measures to change that. Kudos!

it is always better not to utter all the words that are in your mind. all times you are not sure how others will take them.better to look at the scenario and then act

Learning tact and when not to say something is one of the most important lessons we learn in life. Good luck.

Yeah I know how that feels! Sometimes that happens to me too. Most often occurs when someone makes mistakes. I have to admit I shouldn't be this way. When things like these happen, I always feel guilty and gosh sometimes I just hate myself, you know? I often wonder if I am too demanding, too impatient or too perfectionist!

Oh Zelmarq, I don't know what you said, but everyone sticks their foot in their mouth, once in a while..I know yesterday I probably said something I shouldn't to this lady on the phone, but I can't take it back, but I can go on..

Well, you are not alone. I am sure most of us have said something we should not have said. I know I have. And even though I try to think before I speak, sometimes it just comes blurting out. Good luck!

Good..... I have seen certain people with the same kind of problem.... they can't just keep their mouth shut.... so, that many people get hurt....... but, I tell them, if the topic which is not related to you and your field or you are not interested with, you just go away from the place........

i think, most of us would have done that unintentionally, but in case, you've learned that you hurt someone, i guess it's what you'll do that matters, if you sincerely apologize then maybe the person would understand. and after that, we would be more cautious of what we are about to say...

I did the same things before, and really hurt some people. So I began to watch my mouth. When you want to say something, think about it clearly before you say it, that will be better. Before you say you should think about what would you think if someone said the same thing to you. If you think it is OK if someone says to you, then it will be OK if you say to other people. So think before you say.

yes sometimes it is hard to keep quiet about some things and when you hurt someone you can sometimes feel very sorry for what you have said, I know these days I try very hard to just turn away rather than speak out about a lot of things...

it happens to me too.my tongue causes me lot of problems.so i now keep my mouth shut tight.

yeah.. even i am trying to train my mouth. it is way too honest and frank!..lol.. but then along with this it also is sometimes very insensitive and harsh. i guess the best way to control your mouth is to control your thoughts. train your mind to ignore things that are not your concern. if that sounds way too cold, then be it. you are not going to change anything by speaking, at least by not speaking you wouldn't get yourself in trouble. although sometimes i am glad i spoke what i wanted to. the thing with talkitive people is that if they stop speaking, things start suffocating them from inside. so once in a while its good to soeak your mind, as everyone has shortcomings, if i talk too much, then i should accept the fact. merely stopping all of a sudden will affect me mentally. i tried it a few times and i've felt miserable and defeated, just cause i dint speak what i wanted to. talking too much gets me into trouble. fine. don't people who don't talk much get into trouble?.. well i don't say that one should actually always talk harsh or too much. but then you really can't change the way you are after a certain point. stretching yourself beyong that just makes you stressed out. all you should work on is to be genuinely sensitive towards people. once you are, then automatically no bad or hurtful thing would escape your mouth.

Well I think most of us are guilty of becoming like that at times especially when we know that we are all telling the truth we sometimes blurt some words that are not supposed to be blurted out. Well I guess past is past and what is done is done and we could not do anything about that anymore. Well if you still have the guts to say sorry then that may be good for you and the person you've hurt. But if your pride is still that high maybe try to lower it then ask for forgiveness for the bad words you've said about him/her.

Yeah, our tactlessness can get us into trouble at times or draw others into it. But you know, sometimes a woman is so honest or impulsive that she behaves or talks unmindfully..

I try to be tactful whenever I am talking to someone about a delicate subject. Sometimes I will even agree with them rather than say something that I know they do not want to hear at the moment. Some people are very sensitive and you have to be careful of what you say and how you say it. My husband on the other hand has no tact. He will say whatever and ask questions that he should not ask. Like the saying goes, the truth hurts, and some people do not want to hear the truth.