spanking the kids?????

In the Netherlands spanking is illegal. You can get in really big troubles if people know you do it. But I know a lot of people still do it, simply because they've got no other way to react to the things they're child is doing. Though I'm opposed against spanking, I do understand people doing it. I think it's important to really think about why you're doing it, and if there's no other way to make the child do what you want, or don't do what you don't want. Spanking fysically hurts the child and the child won't learn anything about the reason why the behavior is not accepted by you. It could be that the child sees it as a way to control other people and will spank children at school or childcare. But although I don't have kids of my own, I work with kids and have worked with parents and know that it's hard, especcially these days, to raise them without spanking.

All forms of discipline are dependent on the person being discipline's ability to understand two things; what they did wrong and that the punishment is the result of doing something wrong. If you spank a child who is too young to understand either then I think it has more to do with the spanker's frustration than the child's action. I'm not against spanking, but the line between spanking and abuse needs to be clear in the mind of the spanker. That goes for any other form of punishment. "Time out" is a popular form of punishment, but if the child is kept in "time out" too long, or deprived of their needs because they are in time out, then the line can be crossed very easily.

I believe in spanking under the right circumstances. I spanked my daughter, always on the butt and never when I was angry. I was very consistent with her and haven't had to spank her since she was about 5 years old. She is now 14. I also would smack her mouth when she got lippy. Haven't had to do that for about the same amount of time. Now I can just give her a look and she knows I mean business! I don't believe in "hurting" kids, just getting their attention.

I dunno anything about what religion says about whipping your kids but i think as a parent you should dicipline them by spanking/whipping at the righting scenarios to help them develop into a better person. To much of spanking and to little of them will spoil a kid

In our country spanking is common..we have to do that so that child will know what they are doing is right or wrong.if they did any mistake when they are 3 yrs old if we say not to do that he quits for sometime and later he will do it again...so if we spank him he will know that mom will spank me if i do it again...he will get some fear...thats y people spank the child we cant stop spanking child when he goes wrong...we cant say the age when we stop it lol

Hi, So a few years back in my civics class my teacher told us that there was a law set out regarding spanking. I don't remember it word for word but it was something along these lines: - You could only spank the child if they were between the ages of 3 and 12 - You could only hit them on fleshy areas of the body (ex. butt cheeks) - You could only hit them 3 times and in concession of each other. You had to do one hit right after the other, you weren't allowed to let it sit, you had to get it over with right away. There was a couple of other rules to go along with it but I don't quite remember. Personally I believe that spanking is okay. If your recall the Spartans from Ancient Greece would lay their children across and Altar and beat/whip them until they bled out. The children's mothers would cry out to them to encourage them to be strong. Many of the children would be killed during this time of ritual but it was a time to test a child's true strength. Now obvious this example is quite extreme but it sure goes to show how soft we are on our kids today. Today during the remembrance ceremony I witnessed some teenagers laughing and texting on their phones. I was absolutely disgusted at how arrogant the up and coming generation has grown up to be. I see it everywhere now too, so maybe if those kids did recieve more discipline when they were young this world would be a better place.

First of all, if you read the bible carefully you will notice that there is a lot of information in there that supports war, murder and mass massacres which I certainly don't think is right. Personally, I was physically punished while I was growing up and this doesn't just cause physical pain as a form of punishment, it also causes deep routed psychological problems, which I have suffered with as a result. Inflicting physical pain upon children will not cause them become disciplined, I believe it is wrong and I totally diagree with it. Here in the UK they have now introduced laws against it. In fact, it seems quite ironic that the law here relies upon Christianity, yet the laws they set are totally against a lot of things that the bible supports. A lot of people who physically punish their children, then get the same treatment from their children when they grow and they get hit back!

if the child commit a mistake it should be dealt accordingly, it should pass through due process , every offense should have a proper action. It is okey lift a hand to our children ,it is biblical, just make sure the child understands how, and why he is spanked... as long as the child stops making mistake then its the time to stop spanking....

I only can share how my parents have discipline me. My Dad is more of disciplining me than my mom. I have tried to many whip and being scold by my Dad. When I was a kid I always makes mistake and by that I get what I deserve that what Dad always say. Sometimes Dad uses belt on me but after he talks to me. I also have tried to be tied up outside our house for the very mistake I did. I have also kneeled down with salt and worst I have a night that I can't go into the house but as it was so late Ma took me in when Dad was asleep. I also have many caring moments from my Dad, he loved me I know that but he always say not to take advantage for that as we know how he gets mad. I grow up to be respectful to my Dad and he let me saw and understand what life is and our life. I never answered him back whenever he scolded me as I know what I will get. I became of coming to church and attend activities. When I grow up as a teenager I didn't get any of that anymore but I always get scolded. That's the time I started to feel against on it because my Dad always think I do bad outside and will be like other girl at my place get pregnant so early without someone to take the responsibility or become so liberated and that I am flirting but maybe by him doing that it made me feel challenge and make him see I won't end up like that. I will marry and will give my virginity to my husband and that really happened. I never become hateful to my Dad of all the things he did instead for me it help a lot for me to grow as a mature woman at my age, to understand some of the things about life, and to be more of being strong in all the challenges and trials. But if I have my own kids. I will diffinitely not be doing the same. People are different in ways. We have our own ways to do discipline that we think is best for our kids and for me I have my own but I won't be coming too much for that as I won't know if my Kids were like I used to be. So first we should know how are kids are with that we will know what to do in disciplining them.

i dont see anything wrong in a little spanking specially if it's done to discipline a child...spanking lightly enough to get the child's attention and to make him understand that you mean business....not hitting hard---i dont believe any person has the right to do that to anyone, specially to children---yous or not---a light spanking on the butt or hand is alright, but as soon as the child is old enough to understand you well...

i dont see anything wrong in a little spanking specially if it's done to discipline a child...spanking lightly enough to get the child's attention and to make him understand that you mean business....not hitting hard---i dont believe any person has the right to do that to anyone, specially to children---yous or not---a light spanking on the butt or hand is alright, but as soon as the child is old enough to understand you well...

It's not a bad thing to do unless you beat the child to the point that they can't breath. The best age to start is probably 4 or 5 and once they get older you should only do it once in a while just to remind them that you're still the boss.