Do you punish your self when you make a mistake??

Well I don't physically punish myself, but I am definitely my own toughest critic. I kick myself mentally and psychologically for the mistakes I make, especially if it is a big screw-up. My wife has told me more than once that I was being too hard on myself.

I may say something under my breath or get upset when I make a mistake, but I would never physically hurt myself. I am sorry to hear about your friend. Sometimes people need a little bit more help in order to see that their mistake was not a huge deal and that they will overcome it. Maybe she just needs your support and guidance, sometimes people cannot make it on their own.

I did not. I just think all over again. Of where I made a mistake. And how to avoid doing it all over again. Life is a continuous process. If we stop from learning from our mistakes, then we will not do anything right anymore.

When I make a mistake I just keep it in the back of my mind so hopefully I wont make that mistake again. I do beat my self up though when I make a mistake or do something really dumb. I try not to because no matter what I do I can't take what I have done back and what is done is done. I think your friend has a problem and she needs to get help. She might go and actually do something that will hurt her really bad or end up killing her self. I think you need to try to get her to talk to a professional for help. I hope everything goes well and she does get the help she needs. You can not avoid her problem because it won't go away if she has no help. She needs to know that someone does care about her and doesn't want her doing that to her self. I really hope she get's the help she needs. She needs to understand no matter what she does to her self you can't change the past only learn from it and hope for the better for the future.

We all make mistakes. Physically hurting yourself over a mistake is very very unhealthy.

That's horrible, to punish herself that way. I think that's desease, maybe you should suggest her to see a doctor. When we made mistakes, we often feel disapoint at ourselves, but she is different, that's kind of desperate. I don't think we should punish ourselves when we make mistakes, because what is done is done, we can not compensate for what had happened by punish ourselves. What we should do is to learn from our mistakes and keep in mind our experience, and avoid making the same mistekes in the future.

I dont punish myself just because i made amistake because everyone makes mistakes now and then. I do however apoligize to that person and if they are a forgivng person they will accept it. if they dont accept it then I will just shrug and tell them "Sorry, I made amistake and i cant go back and change it, So I have to move on. You can choose to forgive me and we can stay friend or you can choose not to forgive me and we can go our separate ways." Then let them think about it for a few days. I have not lost one friend that way.

Yap i myself too punish myself onto the mistakes which i feel i have done. The punishment is mental rather than physical. For eg. If i have spended much more money than my pocket size on a weekend, then i convince myself of not going out next weekend.

A mistake done is already a tormenting punishment to me, I don't want anymore injury to myself. Everytime I make a mistake, I think I'm being bad and I get guilty and all. It's already a state of punishment to myself. Slapping myself or hurting myself will not get me anywhere, it won't bring back the days and certainly won't help me correct the mistake I've done. What's done cannot be undone, but at least I learned my lesson and will strive hard never to do the same mistake again. I'm worried about your friend, what she's doing isn't healthy, I hope she gets a professional help for this. She needs all the help she can get.

We are human and we all make mistakes. Your friend sounds a bit extreme really. I feel very very bad when I've made a mistake that hurts someone else. If I'm able to fix it and make it right then I will at all costs which makes me feel better. If i'm not able to, then it does eat at me inside for a while and i vow to do everything in my power to learn from it and not make the same mistake twice. I don't punish myself physically but it does take me quite a bit to stop beating myself up on the inside if I really mess up. I definitely hate the feeling enough to not want to go out and repeat whatever I did.

usually i regret,and that continue maybe few days, i think thats aslo kinda punish, and you keeping kinda blue mood, its not good for you health . and i will wish not do it again.

I never punish myself when I made mistake. Instead, I try to learn from them and make sure I wouldnt make the same mistake again.

When i make a mistake, i promise not to do that again as a punishment. and seldom do i make the same mistake. No one is perfact and nobody never makes a mistake. So never try to hurt yourself after making a mistake. What we should do is to remember the mistake and try to avoid making it once again. We can pardon our making a mistake once, but we cannot pardon our making the same mistake twice or even more.

I just get mad and about myself for a while and later on I would choose to forgive myself. There is no sense of hurting myself because I done wrong. instead I look for a way to straigthen what I did wrong.

I do not o this anymore. I sobered up 17 years ago and learned that my self esteem was really bad. Now days I always look at the flip side of the copin when I err in things going on in my life. I may give myself a hard time for a littlew while, but never really punish myself so to say. We are always harder on ourselves than others are. Seems to be human nature I think. I hope this froiend mentioned learns a way to deal with stress and errors she makes. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~

Never. I can feel sorry for anything. I can sacrifice anything but giving punishment to our self or someone else is not my thought.

Hi kissie that is such a shame about your friend, it is an illness and not easy to stop has she got medical advice, I used to cause harm to myself when things went wrong, but at the time my daughter lived with me and one day she started hurting herself I suppose she must of thought it was the thing to do, o my answer was that if she promised me she would never do it again then I wouldn't...since that day neither my daughter or I have and my daughter has now got her own home and son, we are always there for each other....it makes me wonder if your friend needs to have some kind of engouragment to help her the way I did...littleowl

i dont think so that we have to punish ourself when we make a mistake and it is not that every human is perfect and dont tend to make mistakes, it is common and all humans tend to make mistakes but the thing what we have to do is we have to everytime learn something from our mistakes and dont try to repeat it and take a lesson from it. doing the mistake again and again and not learning any thing from that is a great mistake. when we make a mistake we feel bad and we repent for what we have done and i think that it self is a big punishment and there is no any futher requirement to puinish ourself as our repention is itself a big punishment i feel. some people do hurt theirself for the mistakes what they do but they even punish indirectly their parents and their dearones. even the other people who like us also get a punishment when we perform some wrong actions and evetually we are hurting others and this done unknowingly or i can tell due to immaturity. we just thinkof ourself and hurt others. so i think that god is available for all of us and we have to always try to do something good and learn from our mistakes and this is what help us do good things.

Yeah I do punish my self. But not as extreem as you friend there. hmm... she need to think more about how she punish her self. You need to remind her that punishing her self is a good thing, just to motivate in some rate. but don't punish her self too g=hard coz she'll end up having to punish herself again for the damage she made to herself.

Well,i had such experience once.i lost my cellphone worthful when i was on bus.I slapped my face in front of my mom when i went back home.i felt that i just beg for excuse from my mom, that's my true thinking.