Have u ever feel that no one love u? Its important
By khan2abdul
@khan2abdul (416)
India
December 6, 2008 6:49am CST
Everybody in the world want love, whether it should be father love,mother love,girl friend,husband etc. Have u ever feel that no one loves u no one care about u. I am black in colour so is this the reason that no girl love me, whether girl think that black can't love very much or they felt ashamed in their group that she love black guy. Why most girl attracted to my big brother as if he was handsome and white. What if I am black, i m intelligent than my brother,calm and quite but in the present world no one look at the heart but at the fac..... ;-( Have u ever feel this I am not asking about only girl friend different people has different taught.
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12 responses
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
It's true that people do look at the face, but you know what, it isn't always the face. The attitude and personality is important too.
Maybe you are too quiet, that's why women would think that you are boring or somewhat a loner. Try to be welcoming with them and try to talk to them even just as friends.
Courtship needs not to be a chore. You just got to move slowly and not shock us out by being too aggressive.
Problem these days is that guys are no longer patient with regards to courtship. They don't take their time, they want answer instantly. That shouldn't be, you should get to know us better before blurting cliches. Women are not collectible items, don't court a woman just to have a so-called girlfriend, show her that she's more than a girlfriend, she's also your best friend.
As for me ever feeling not being loved, I have gone that path, and have found that loving yourself is what matters, the sooner you learn to love yourself, the sooner people would see your worth and love you too.
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@khan2abdul (416)
• India
7 Dec 08
Well said, u have show the negativity. I will try to quit my quietness and be positive in welcoming others and loving myself.
@murali603 (114)
• India
6 Dec 08
some time i feel like this ..but some times i feel that i have lot of people who loves me and the people cant express their love always na so we feel like that but at the same time when we are in trouble..all friends and caring peoiple come and make us happy then only we ll know what much of support we has and then we ll know that much of friends then we ll recognize who ll be behind us when we are in dipression or in trouble then only we know the support from that we can expect the people who ll be with you for long time
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@khan2abdul (416)
• India
7 Dec 08
Ya its true many people loved us but not showing their love but it should be their duty to check whether the child was depressed of anything or not.
@pmspratik (202)
• Nepal
6 Dec 08
I do sometimes feel that no one loves me, i mostly get left out and feel as if people don't care about me at all. It I think common to every boy out there not only the black people. well if you are a kid then you do feel left out as grown ups are always stuck in conversations that doesn't concern you. Well in this case I start reading something just so that i don't get bored in front of those people.
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
6 Dec 08
I don't know how old are you, but I used to think love doesn't exist untill I met the right person.It happened this year.When I was hopelessly waiting for love, it didn't come to me.My classmates were dating, having fun.I just watched them, thinking I'm not good enough or smart enough.I told myself:ok, if my destiny is to live wihout it, let it be.I don't care anymore.I started doing things that I like, meet new people,write, create and I forgot love for some time.I learned to love myself,I was ready to be alone forever.But love comes in life anyway.You see two eyes looking at you and understand:this is my man/woman.
There's no race,age or religion for true love.Believe me.Be yourself.Just be yourself, do what you like and do not compare yourself with your brother,You are you.
@khan2abdul (416)
• India
7 Dec 08
Thanks u , this type of comment really encourage me. I am also looking ahead to my life, keeping ur word not to compare with my brother.
@missparanoia (85)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
Yes I do too. I think it's self pity at work, but its just me. I don't think no one will love you just because you're black. I remember I have this instructor, she's from Philippines she kept telling us how she is attracted to black men, she said the darker the better, but she can't get out the country and never met any black men but she ended up marrying the darkest man she met. (I hope my grammar here is correct, i don't want to send the wrong message and end up looking like racist)
@khan2abdul (416)
• India
7 Dec 08
Yes, different people has different choice, well why u wrote that u don't end up looking like racist u have not written anything wrong.
@kushal25019 (6)
• India
7 Dec 08
friend this is the world why you are black ,why not white is depends upon god,its depends upon your harmones which is inside you.its the thinking of the people.be cool brother.be practical .don't be emotional because of one or other person behaviours. belive in your strength .show others that your strength is like a great wall.all the best for future
@khan2abdul (416)
• India
8 Dec 08
Ya friend many time people says something which is difficult to forget. So why i am bother about their word I will try to remain practical as well.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
7 Dec 08
People do get led by appearances but take heart from the fact that ultimately it isyour achievements, capabilities and the position you are in would be deciding factors. Let not the present thoughts deter you from your objective.You say thta you areintelligent;so focus on your strengths, whatever skill you possess and work on it with a determined focus.Once you achieve something in life you will realise thata looks , color and nothing else matter. You must get to a position where your skils are in demand[whatever they are;if you are an academic then work on those skills; if you are good at sports work on these skills; if you are talented in some fine art then pursue that.
Be more confident than you are at the present.Confidence and achievement would be a vicious circle at times; so, do not worry about anything else and just do your best in your chosen area.
Girls would then say that you are very charming [you will laugh within yourself that your black suddenly seems to have become white.
Such would be their change of color[hope you appreciated the pun]
@michfroi (413)
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
yes, i always feel it.During my teens, i am always seeking for love and worst i didn't able to find it. By that time up to now, i still feel empty. I don't know what's the meaning of real love. No one loves me even my family don't. I'm seeking for true love. Does love really exist?
@khan2abdul (416)
• India
7 Dec 08
Same condition to me but i am helping my friends to get their love, the life of mine has changed the meaning of love, its means as a mutual attraction between guys/girl. But the love of mother and father is far behind any g.f, they don't show their love to u, but in heart they love t like a every drop of water in sea.
@Putranda (128)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 08
Don't worry about it! I think God will not leave you alone. I'm sure that there is someone who has been waiting for you. God has created all of us in pair. Not all girl attracted only to the face. Widen your mind & be optimist. :D
@yenwie84 (1344)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 08
You will find someone who is truly and deeply in love with you someday,don't worry. I think everyone is unique,there will be someone who knows how to appreciate us one day. Maybe it's a matter of time and fate sometimes. You have your own strength which can impress girls one day.Life goes on,I think we should always love ourselves rather than waiting for others to love us. Lol.
@khan2abdul (416)
• India
7 Dec 08
I think u have said true that love ourselves rather than waiting for other to love so i am looking ahead for my journey of life positively.
@pooHnes (15)
• Philippines
7 Dec 08
well, for me...I know that I am loved..it's just that I take their love for granted...I know it is bad but I'm trying my best to change this attitude.. Honestly speaking, I am not expressive with my feelings that's why I acted differently in front of my family...but I'll be better soon. hehe
@myskina (182)
• China
7 Dec 08
i will thank my dad
for bring this f**king world
to a bitter end
.... our reletionship is bad , it cannot avoid , but another family number , we have a great time everyday , and my friend .
so many i have including she , hehe
forget something that we cannot avoid , you will have a great future and with your lover to the happy end