How many true friends do you have?

United States
December 14, 2008 12:18pm CST
I have recently gone through some very difficult times, as I'm sure a lot of others have, however, I am so thankful for this whole experience because it has brought a few things to my attention. I used to think I had a lot of friends....30 or 40 good friends or more. But, in this situation, this time of need, a few stars shone above the rest and proved their true friendship. I can count on two hands how many true friends I have and I am so grateful for them all! Don't let people fool you, are they really around you for true friendship or for something else?
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24 responses
• China
15 Dec 08
I think only one true friend i have. One is enough I think
• Singapore
16 Dec 08
Yes! Usually we can be considered to be very lucky if we can have one or two true friends in our lives. There isn't a necessity for too many of those in our lives.
• China
15 Dec 08
everyone have many friend,but most of friend only play together for happy,only a few friend can be changed the true friend.no need so many friend,only few true friend is enough.
• Italy
15 Dec 08
totally agree with you! two, three or four true friends are sufficient
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
15 Dec 08
I don't really know how many true friends do I have. All of them have the drawbacks. If I am a little more tolerant, more people can be definated as my true friends. On the contray, I have fewer true friends.
@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
15 Dec 08
true friends??? hmmm...that would be about 1 or 2. the rest are friends but not people i would trust with very personal stuff or depend on to be here for me if i needed them. there are all kinds of friendships and i have people i have fun with or can be around easily and then there are friends you are really close to that you can just sit and talk about anything with. so i have two that come to mind that i feel that close connection with.
@ljy559 (181)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 08
I have only TWO true friends, they're people I talk to when I have problems, and I share a lot of my thoughts and feelings with them. even so, I do have a lot of other friends too, but they're not really...close..
• United States
17 Dec 08
I have a fair weather friend who I have known for years. I don't trust her completely and can not rely upon her at all. She only comes around when it is convient for her. I have two additional friends who I trust and have been there for me for the most part, but they don't call alot and we barely see each other. Technically, I have no friends to spend time with at this point.
@shar_25 (1339)
• India
15 Dec 08
There are very few people who stand by you when you are in need. Otherwise I have a lot of so called friends around me, but in reality, there are only a handful who really cares. Rest are around for there own needs or just for the heck of it.Thankfully, I have a very supportive family, and at the time of need maximum support comes from my family members, so I rarely need to go loking for friends. But for people who aren't so lucky, its good to be cautious before trusting anyone.
• United States
15 Dec 08
I have one... just one. but we never talk any more.. I don't know why. come to think of it.. I don't think they like me anymore.. I don't know, they didn't say before they stopped talking to me. Seriously.. I have two really good friends.. used to be 3 .. but well.. that's what I was talking about up there! ^ I don't know what happened, but it must of been bad!
@angelia286 (2029)
• Singapore
15 Dec 08
How very true in today's time where people hang around one for their own greeds and motives. One would never know who are their true friends are until trouble comes. Many of our 'so called true' friends are actually people who are around when the going is good, but run away when the tough gets going. Sad fact? Don't get fooled by the many people who claimed to be your true friends. There is always something from one that others are hoping to get from. It may be companionship, it might be money spent on them or whatsoever. Whatever the reasons are, only friends who help out and stayed can only be the ones to be considered as true friends. Well, for me, I would have to say that I have many acquaintaces, friends and close friends in my life. I would be one which when people look at will say that I'm a popular kid. However, I can say that I have only two true friends in my life - and they are my twin cousins who have grown up with me ever since we were young. Sad to say that when everything is going well in my life, I seem to be always surrounded by people, and have so many appointments lined up by 'friends' who asked me out. However, when trouble struck, all of a sudden, these friends seemed to have disappeared into thin air. Only my cousins and one of my neighbour have stuck with me through the period when I really need people to talk to. Thankfully, that period had passed, but yet I'm grateful for the trying times as it had really opened my eyes to who my real friends are. =D So I would have to say that it's a very good experience for me in life, and that it had changed my perspections on a lot of stuff - about what is really important and what is not in my life. The question that you posed - are people really around us for true friendships or for something else? My straight answer to that question is that there is always a motive for people to be around other people. All of us are hoping to get something out of the other - be it in terms of companionship, money, humour or whatsoever. However, people who are genuine and truely appreciates you as a friend will stay when the going gets tough. That's all to it. Well, I am glad that you have got out of that tough period of your life, and that you have learnt a life lesson in that process. Take care and have a nice time mylotting!!
@rizzu87 (860)
• Malaysia
15 Dec 08
Nowadays people are just being friends with you when they want something out of you. And when they get what they want they just turn their back towards us. Usually people are friends with you because they are getting some financial benefit from us. I have around 6 very true friends who can do anything when i am in need. In the past couple of years i was in trouble in so many things. The one i could remember easily was that i was once in jail because i had a rent car which met an accident. Unfortunately i was not that badly injured and above all this i dint had driving license. The car was rented from a rent a car service. I was in jail for a week and some of the few true friends dint let my parents come to know about it and they collected money from various sources to get me out. They told my parents that we have all planned a pick nick to a hill station for a week and i talked to my parents on the phone. Some friend whom i know have money but they dint help at all. Arranging that amount was not easy at all for all of us. I had paid them back in one year by working part time and from my pocket money savings. I think these are true friends who would do anything possible for us rather than those show their back when we need them the most. be happy
• China
15 Dec 08
Relating to true friendship, we can also hear that "show your kind and respect to other first, then you will get the same from them." But as for me, i do not thnik of it.
@julise (494)
• Indonesia
15 Dec 08
true friend... hmm probably around 5. Ofcourse only 2 real good true friend: one female, one male. I cant compare which one is the top rank. hahaha. but I trusted all 5 of them
• China
15 Dec 08
i have 20 friends more or less.last year i subjected very difficult time, my friends give me power and courage .i am grateful for them very much.i love them very much.they played a very important role in my life ,i think i can not live without there support.may everyone could have true friends.
@tlaquan (177)
• United States
15 Dec 08
I dont think that i have any true friends i dont know if that is good or bad some days it is bad cause i dont have onone to share with but i can stay that when i need someone to talk to i go to my favorite aunt and she is there for me through think and thin no matter what
@balasri (26537)
• India
15 Dec 08
A couple of them.
• China
15 Dec 08
6,i think
@becnh83 (806)
• Philippines
15 Dec 08
i think i have about 10 plus i think..we were closed since we are in high school.we share problems and fun stuff too, when someone needs our companion we all there to support...im so glad to have them..
• India
15 Dec 08
hi, In my opinion the best friend are those who helps you in your bad time. But now a days there are no friends or best friends. There are the people who comes in our work and we called them friends.
• United States
15 Dec 08
It's tough to find real friends in this life. I have two or three real friends. Sometimes I can barely think of them as my real friends. Good luck in finding a true genuine friend nonetheless though.
@conbill (369)
• United States
15 Dec 08
I can really relate to your question about how many true friends you really have. I am also going thru some very difficult times. I worked in the same bar for almost six years and in that time became acquainted with a lot of people who I grew to consider being friends more then customers. I now know that out of 50 people in my adress book there are only 4 that I can truly call "True friends". In spite of this though I will still hold out my hand to the 46 if they are ever in need of a friend, but will keep my eyes open.