where did your personality come from?

Anything you are or can do now that you couldn't the day you were born is a learned ability. Our personality is very often molded by the people we grow up around. We live in a monkey see, monkey do world. We try to do what we see others do. We can have at least some control over things like this in our lives if we understand why they happen. We can also control it in our kids by not allowing them to do certain things. Or be with certain people.

I don't have any scientific backing for what I think, but here goes. The way the brain works is controlled by different chemicals in the body. While some parts of the personality may be genetic, the body chemicals will determine how each individual reacts to different situations in life. That is the only way I can explain a child born to two sociable outgoing parents being an introvert while the siblings are all the same as the parents. One child will respond to a scolding with tears and will soon, if scolded too often, get the idea that nothing they do is right and always strive to do better while always feeling like it's never enough. The other children will take everything in stride, learn and grow from scoldings and discipline, and gain a great sense of self respect through their accomplishments.

Personality is such a coplex thing, I'm not sure any answer is the right one. I know some of my personality was pounded into me by my parents' strict upbringing, but quite a lot also has come from rebellion against them. A lot came from having a good education, since we experience others when we study them. The things that "work" for us rub off and become part of us.

i think my came from my own self. i'm not alot like either parents. but i do have some from both. but i am loud and i voice my optin to people.

I think that my personality is partly genetic and partly a result of the way I was brought up. My brother and I grew up in the same family, but we have very different personalities. I am struggling with problems that he has never had, and I believe that my upbringning isn't the only factor that caused my problems or my mental illness, and there must be a genetic component as well. Some psychologists think that some people are born with a certain vulnerability for mental illnesses. That doesn't neccesary mean that they will get ill, but if they are subjected to sufficient stress, they might develop a mental illness. Other people who weren't born with that vulnerability don't develop a mental illness even though they are subjected to the same stress. I like this theory, and I think that it is part of the reason why my personality is the way it is.

Some people had this good charm. They can capture the interest of other people, easily getting connected to them. I think, it is a gift since not all people can possess a great charm.