I want children, husband says no.

I know having children are very big responsibility. When we had our daughter, we basically stop what we want for ourselves and did things for our daughter. If you guys been together that long, Im sure you are able to sit down and talk to each other. Im sure you want to have children before it get too late. If your husband realy love you and care about you, Im sure he will listen to what you have to say to him!

Seek Counseling. This is a major bumo in the road and unless you both find a way to come up with an arrangement that you can both live with then you both will have lots of resentment towards the other person. This is a huge topic and not one to be handled lightly. If he gives in to you then he may end up resenting you for backing him into a corner. If you give in to him you will always resent him for not allowing you the happiness of having children. Your best option is to seek outside help in helping you decide where to go from here.

Children are a big responsibility. And, he's right, having one does mean giving up quite a bit. If he feels that's a bad thing, then you do run the risk of him resenting the child if you do have one.

You are going to have to give him time, children need to be a shared decision otherwise he will never feel fully comfortable with them. Its important that you both continue to talk about tyhe good and bad sides of the decision, and also consider that the longer you wait the harder it may be. But please don't rush him, far better to have a good husband and father who is 100% ehind the idea than a man who resents the children and you if you choose to proceed without his full support. Best of luck, its a difficult position to be in, we went through this and in the end I decided that it was unfair to have children, far better to work on the life we had planned and not add to the population burden on the planet. Thats purely my own case though, I'm not suggesting anyone else need choose the same route

Well i think children are very much an important part of a married life and one day you will have to take this responsibility,but since you are only married for one year you can take a little more time and think about it with your husband.

If you follow your husband who is selfish, you won't have even just a child by him. I heard of a woman who has a congenital heart ailment that may lead to heart transplant if she bears a child. Against all odds - advice of doctors, family, friends, including her husband, she went on with her wish to have a child. She was bedridden whole 9 months and delivered by ceasarean operation. Then when the child was already 4 years old, due to so many circumstances, her ICD failed and became comatose. While she was on that state, she was blamed because she did not heed the advice that she should not bear a child. When she regained consciousness, she underwent heart transplant. Two years passed now and she is still alive. It really depends upon you if you really like to have a child or no more to follow your I repeat selfish husband.

i think you really should wait. you wouldn't want to do something that your husband wouldn't want to and the child to end up been the one to get hurt.

umm how old r u? and how old is ur husband? thats a major thing here.. i mean if u r older than 30 years old.. i think he should see that both of u rnt getting any younger.. and that if u turned 40 and he turned watever older..that the kid will be 10 by that time!! and by the time ur 50 .. the kid is 20.. the kid will say: that his parents look like gradparents! lol. i mean sure everyone loves the independance.. but still if he loves u enough . then having such a commitment as a kid wouldnt be a problem.. i dono what to say but remind him that when he gets older, that he will find his child next to him, get older near a family not alone!!

That's something you two should have discussed long, long ago. BEFORE you got into a serious relationship, not after 10 years and being married. If he doesn't want to have children, you have two choices: stay with your husband and not have kids, or, divorce your husband and find someone who does want kids. If either person doesn't want kids, that's the person things have to go with. Reason being, you can't bring a child into this world unwanted. So many people do and it's horribly wrong. The child becomes resented and it's selfish for people to bring a child into this world under those conditions. Again, those are two choices.

Oh girl I feel sorry for you. Your husband must be afraid of the little bundle of joy that equals a big responsibility, you'll lose your time alone together unless you find a babysitter. I suggest you seek help of a marriage counselor, because it is normal for a married woman to want kids, I do hope you'll convince him but do not push the kids subject too much though, because he might feel that you're pushing him against a wall. He'll certainly miss the moments that a kid brings.. Good luck to you.