How do I stop my mom from interfering with my life?

Hi kaliyha. I'm sorry to hear that. I do face the same problem. My parents treat me like a little kid. My hubby just said this to me today. I'm pregnant now, but she keeps telling me what to wear and what to do after delivery. My hubby wants to take care of the baby himself, but she keeps telling us that she wants to take care of the baby for us...bla..bla...bla...there are still many things...anyway, she is just trying to interfere my life and want both of us live in the way they hope. I try to be patient with her....but she is totally not supportive, not like my hubby's mom. She supports us and hope we can live in our way, and somemore she will find information for us. Quarrelling is totally not helpful, this only worsen the discussions. They will think we are stubborn, but in our eyes, they are stubborn too. So, i just keep doing what is good for us. Anyway, i still love them. I don't know what kind of job you want. But if the job provides good benefits and pay, then i will consider to take the offer. You know, nowadays is really difficult to find the job that you like. Even the job is what you like, but what about the office politics? I will just take the offer and try to find a better job in the future. Happy mylotting and have a nice day!

Yeah i have the same problem. Even though i am working now, my mom keeps telling me what to do and what not to do. For our parents we are still kids, and they will still think that even if we turn 50. Its natural.So arguing with them will just not help. Why don't you try talking to her.Maybe she will understanding. I too have the same problem about the job. Only difference she didn't send my resume any where. My mom keeps nagging me to change my job. Actually she wants me to change the field I am currently working in. I love my job even though the pay is lesser compared to what I may get if I change my job. I tried explaining it to my mom but she wouldn't understand. Its upto you whether you want to continue with where you are working right now or take up the new job. Are you satisfied at your current job? How long have you working at the current job? If you have worked at the current job for more than 2 years then its time to move on. If its a good offer then you might want to take it up. Good things don't knock twice at the door. Maybe you should give it a try. If you don't want to quit your current job then expalin it to your mother.

you don't. It doesn't matter how old you are. 18, 21,26 or 33. As long as you're living in your mom's house, you have to abide by her rules. So you stop it by moving out. And one way you do that is take that job that you were "forced to apply for" if they call you and offer you employment. As someone who is looking for even a low paying job I don't like, you should hope they call you and then thank your mom for helping you get it. Remember, it's called a job. It's work. Most people don't really like it but don't want to be 40 years old and still living with their parents either.

hi there! maybe you could try living on your own now. by the way, are you old enough to live on your own already? if not maybe try to have much patience because you still be needing your moms financial support then. hope it could help and have a nice day!

She is you mum after all. You will nag your daughter one day. Trust me, when she is gone, you will miss her nagging. Treasure the moment you have now. Some thing will gone will never reappear again. But I have to admit, controlling too much is definitely not good. Applying a job that you don't like for you is definitely a NO NO. What is the job you like by the way?

Yeah i know what about your talking!! im in the same thing!! lol my mom its like yours, lol and woooo i have 21 years now and she talk to me like if im a baby when sometimes i want to do it things she just tell me nope.... and thats so frustrating for me!!! but i think i just cant do it anything just wait to get married lol!!! no thats no true but i dont know what to do ith her :( Well have a nice day and hope you will have a very good week ;) see you soon and bye bye.

You didn't say whether you're living with your mother, but if you are and you're serious about living your own life, then you need to find a place of your own. Some of the commenters seem to feel that if you're living with her you have to do everything she says. That's not true. Her so-called love has long passed the point where it's appropriate, into outright interference. If you really don't want the job, you can just wait to find out if they even want to hire you. With competition so heavy these days, the changes are probably that someone else will get it and your problem is solved. If you don't want to wait, you can send them a letter saying that you didn't apply and that you're not interested. I'm not a believer in the idea that mother love is supposed to be the supreme good. Not when it's more of a symptom of not being willing to let go and treat you like an adult. But it's also up to you to act like an adult. If you can't do that, then you might just as well stop complaining.

[i]Hi kaliyha, ohhh....that is not good..I mean I know our Parents want the best for us but they have also to respect whatever we want.. how about talking to her? like asking her to trust you and that you love her but you want to be happy and decide for yourself and career, that you appreciate her advices and care but just give you a chance to just decide for your life...I hope she will listen and understand you! [/i]

Parent will always be parent whatever age you may be. You might be surprise that even when you get married that somehow she will always manage to interfere with your life. But its always for the best of intentions. Talk to her or have someone close to your mother like an aunt (or your father) and reason with her. Tell her the pros and cons of your present job against the pros and cons of the other job.

Hello, kaliyha. Have you tried to stop and listen to your mother for a bit? Perhaps the advice that she is giving you is really nice. She probably knows what she is doing, so you should not bother yourself. Let her say, as long as she is not acting like she did with the resumé. Now that she has already sent it, you will have to take the job interview if you are called. But talk it over with her. Not yelling nor anything, just be cool and tell her that, now that you are an adult, you want to be responsible for the next steps you are going to take. Say that you want to get where you deserve to be because you chose that way, and not because you followed your mother's advices. Respectfully, Munhozmib.

she wants wats good for u.. every mother does that.... even though i am married.. my mom sometimes call me and tell me to do this and that.. but i know she wants wats good for me... u should be a little patient with her.. explain to her.. i think she will understand..

Hi Kaliyha :) my advice just be patient about your moms. She just loves you so much that she cares so much about you. Maybe you're the only child or the last child she had. Life is short, we don't know when will be the time for us to say good bye. If, you feel like she is bothering you so much, then talk to her nicely. Maybe she just want to have your appreciation and your cares. Even though we've been growing up, but we shouldn't let our love dying.

hi, I hope every on love their mom. don't take it as an interference when she tells you to spend on your salary. Just try to talk to her , pleasingly you tell her," ma i got some plans, i want your blessings to execute them". Regarding your job, she actually did a great thing, but see you cannot work in a place where you don't have an interest. It merely creates stress. So, talk about that too. Tell her valid points why you hate that job. take care :))

Hye kaliyha, shaie there, I think your mom care about you and I hope your be patient with your mom..May be your mom think the best way for your life in the future.Thank you

well until YOU stop her she will continue to run your life. the best way is to hold her kiss her tell her you love her but it is your life and you will do it your way but thank her for her concern and advice. :) and above all do not do what she says unless of course it is something you would do also. good luck and i am sure you will find the strength to stand on your own :)

most of the mums like that...they would love to interfere with their daughters' lives...but try to be patient and have some talks with her...usually regular conversations help in melting situations down...so, get yourself a try to be close to her and understand the movements behind here interfering... i do the same thing... smiley,

Well just be yourself and always remember everything that your mom wants is for you own good. she just Loves you so much. This coming christmas show her how much you love her.

As they said Mother knows best, but still you have the choice. if you think it's no loger right you can say no. I dont believe however that mothers would encourage their children to do things they would regret later. Remember, how sad is a child's life without a mother interfering. Interfering of parents may mean guidance or advises. Others regreted when they grew older that they did'nt follow their mothers' advises and later they realized their mom is right.

Do you believe in "Mother's knows best"...ha..ha.ha ...you must tell her what you feel everytime she done it to you...or you need to have more patience ..or..(there's another or)......she just want you to have a good life...and she thinks you cant stand with your own and still need her assistance even in looking for a job...i know she loves you and he just did that not for her personal wants.... patience..patience and understanding..you must talk to your mom to make everything clear and understandable

if u have enuf mone then u shud probably move out and live alone.. but whatever you do moms will always be like that !! why don't u sit down with your mom and tell her that u are now big enuf to make ur own decisions !!!